77 Questions To Ask Your Significant Other For A Closer Connection
Even after being in a relationship for a long time, you may feel you don't know your partner as well as you'd like.
Or maybe you’ve just started dating, and you're eager to learn more.
Either way, a list of good questions to ask your significant other can deepen your connection, foster intimacy, and help you understand more about one another.
Couples who have been together for years can always learn something new and interesting with the right questions.
There are little gems of information you may not have thought to investigate in your partner — or even in yourself.
Relationships are all about the journey, and the journey is more of an adventure when you seek to discover the depths of this person you love the most.
You never know what you'll find out!
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Fun Questions to Ask Your Partner
You don’t have to ask profound philosophical questions to strengthen your bond with your partner.
Sometimes asking some quirky questions can be as effective as intimate questions.
They show you a side of your partner that you were never privy to before.
But after a session of the most fun and arbitrary questions and answers, you’ll know your beloved a little differently.
Here is our list of some of the most amusing questions to ask your partner.
1. What is one movie you wish was real life, in which you were the protagonist?
2. If I allowed you to cheat on me with any 3 celebrities, who would they be?
3. If you could pick a moment to back in time to go to, which moment would you pick, and why?
4. What’s the dumbest idea that you have ever had?
5. If you were to make a biopic on your life, who would you cast as yourself?
6. What’s the most irrational thought that you have ever had? (You can get an amusing answer to this question, like ‘I used to think I was adopted.’)
7. What’s something you love, but you don’t understand why? (We all have guilty pleasures or things we love without logic. Your partner must also have an irrational love for something. Try not to be judgmental if they tell you that they love ‘Keeping up with the Kardashians.’)
8. Who is that one friend you’re secretly jealous of, but are still pretty friendly with in person?
9. If you could listen to only one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?
10. What is your go-to dance move?
11. If you could get wasted with a famous person, who would that be?
12. Have you ever peed in a pool? If yes, when was it?
13. Name some of the cheesiest pet names that you secretly like too.
14. If you were a cartoon character, who would you be?
15. Name three of your biggest pet peeves.
16. Say the most clichéd romantic thing off the top of your head.
17. If you were to get stranded on a desert island, what three things would you want to have with yourself?
18. What is the grossest thing you have ever eaten?
19. What is one weird food combo that you enjoy?
20. Have you ever pretended to be the opposite sex? If not, would you want to try it at some point in your life?
21. Has anyone ever walked in on you in the bathroom?
22. What is the most embarrassing thing anyone has ever caught you doing?
23. What is the cheesiest pickup line you have ever used on someone?
24. What is the most cringe-worthy thing that you have ever said to someone you liked?
25. What was that one childhood nickname that you hated with all your heart, but your parents loved?
Now that we have covered the funny bit of questions, let’s get a bit more serious.
Here’s a list of 26 deeper questions to ask your significant other.
Important Questions to Ask Your Significant Other
Answers to profound and significant questions can reveal a lot about someone’s personality.
Since these questions are not about personal likes or dislikes, they reveal more about how a person sees things in life.
You get to know your partner’s intimate thoughts and views about things that matter.
If you genuinely wish to get to know him or her better, you should try these things to ask your partner.
26. What is your take on the patriarchy?
27. What is your idea of fulfillment in life?
28. Do you believe that material possessions can bring you happiness?
29. Do you think that it’s okay to hurt someone you love in order to protect them?
30. What do you think of organized religion?
31. If someone hurt you badly because they were hurting and didn’t know how to act, would you forgive them? Would you realize their pain?
32. Do you believe a person can overcome their insecurities?
33. Do you blame capitalism for the inequality in the world?
34. Under what circumstances to you believe war is justified?
35. What do you think about doing a good deed for the sake of a reward? Do you think it diminishes the goodness of the deed?
36. Which crime or mistake is irredeemable in your eyes?
37. Do you think asking for euthanasia is fine, or is it a scary thing to do?
38. Do you believe in life after death?
39. Would you ever sacrifice your being for a more significant cause?
40. What is a failure for you?
41. Do you think someone’s failure is only on them, or could destiny be blamed too at times?
42. When is it okay to break the law?
43. Do you think people can change?
44. Do you believe in giving second chances?
45. Do you think soulmates exist?
46. Can a person fall in love with two people at the same time?
47. Do you think polygamy is good or bad? Why?
48. Do you think everyone in life faces their share of hardships? Or are some people lucky enough to evade life-altering traumas?
49. How important do you think self-love is?
50. What does honor mean to you?
51. What is the ideal life, in your opinion?
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Intimate Questions to Ask Your Significant Other
Whenever anyone talks about intimate discussions, people immediately assume it’s going to be about physical affection. But that’s not always true.
Intimate questions can be about emotional intimacy as well. Discussions that help your partner break down their walls and let you in emotionally can make you much closer as a couple.
Some people struggle to talk about their weaknesses or insecurities. They are not in touch with their emotions. If your partner holds back like this, maybe you need to take the first step.
Ask him or her questions to help foster vulnerability and security. It’s a great way of connecting with your significant other’s heart and soul.
Here are some of the best intimate questions you can ask your better-half.
52. Do you think you are not worthy of something that you have?
53. Is there anything in your life that happened a while back and left a mark on your personality?
54. What is that something, or someone, that makes you the most vulnerable?
55. Do you have trust issues?
56. Do you trust me completely?
57. What is your idea of romance?
58. Do you believe in unconditional love?
59. Who do you love the most?
60. What inner demons keep you up at night?
61. Have you ever felt betrayed by someone close to you?
62. What is your worst nightmare?
63. What do you think about yourself?
64. What would you change about yourself if you could?
65. Have you ever hurt anyone and regretted it? If yes, when was it?
66. Have you ever thought about hurting yourself?
67. What’s that one thing that you wish had never happened in your life?
68. What is your biggest accomplishment?
69. When do you feel closest to me?
70. Is there any memory or secret that you would like to share with me?
71. Do you ever feel lonely even when you are around your loved ones? If yes, why do you think that is?
Now, if you think these questions are too overwhelming, you can steer the conversation towards physical intimacy.
Here are some questions that can help you out.
72. What do you most like about our sexual intimacy?
73. Is there anything new you would like us to try?
74. Are you interested in using toys?
75. Is there anything I do sexually that makes you uncomfortable?
76. How often would you like to have sex?
77. What is one of your sexual fantasies?
Are you ready to use these questions to ask your significant other?
When you ask your partner questions that require emotional vulnerability, be sure you're prepared to answer the questions as well.
Your time together asking and answering questions can be an intimate, fun, and enlightening process.
If either of you find questions that make you uncomfortable, talk about this discomfort together and how you both can feel secure in revealing deeper and more personal aspects of yourselves.
Build a soul-deep connection with your better-half by having long conversations on conventional and unconventional topics that reveal all of the amazing aspects of who you are.