It’s not that your standards are too high (though they might be).
What we’re trying to avoid here is the heartache, frustration, and misery that come from unrealistic expectations in relationships.
No one can meet all your expectations, even if you make them clear to the people in your life.
The problems usually come, though, with expectations you assume are universal.
When those unspoken expectations are imposed (consciously or not) on real people with independent wills, disappointment is inevitable.
So, what can you do instead?