If you are anything like me, you have a handful of life difficulties or minor problems lurking in your brain at any given point in time.
They can be minor irritants like computer problems or taxes due.
And then we have the biggies like coping with ailing parents, issues with our children, marriage problems, or job loss.
Most of the time we spend far more brain energy worrying about the issue than we do actually suffering from the reality of it.
In fact, for me, the worry alone causes more suffering than the problem itself.
Back in my twenties, shortly after my mother died, I had a close friend tell me she had been to a psychic.
During the meeting, she asked the psychic about me, and the woman said that my mom (now deceased) had a message for me.
The first message was funny, but as it turns out quite useful. She told me that my mom wanted me to stop wearing such high heels. They would cause bunions and foot pain later in life. That proved to be correct.
But the second message was far more useful and quite startling at the time. The message from my mom was to stop worrying so much.
Worrying doesn’t do anything to make life better, and it would steal my joy.
I had been a chronic worrier, and although her beyond-the-grave admonition didn’t change that immediately, it stuck with me.
At the time I didn’t know you could control worry. I also didn’t trust messages from dead people.