55 Spot-On Quotes About Life With A Narcissist

Dealing with a narcissist can be about as pleasant as glass in your salad.

Without warning, they’ll cut you without a second thought to soothe their fragile feelings.

Yet, they’re incapable of figuring out that they’re the toxic party.

But leaving isn’t always an option.

Sometimes, the narcissist in our life is a family member, colleague, or partner we genuinely love.

So what’s the best way to cope?

According to science, reading quotes about narcissists can be an effective balm. 

How Reading Narcissist Quotes Can Help You

How can reading quotes about narcissism help? Interestingly, there’s a biological benefit.

Neuroplasticity describes the brain’s ability to change, and recent studies suggest that the process is lifelong.

In other words, brains aren’t nearly as inflexible as once thought. People can “get smarter” and change their thought processes.

How? By building new neural pathways. 

Think of thoughts as your mind’s interstate highway system, wherein the more you tend to a particular idea, the better paved its “brain road.”

As such, if you consistently read quotes that help you deal with a narcissistic force in your life, your mind will become better at brushing off their behavior and maintaining healthy boundaries.

55 Narcissistic Quotes That Are Spot-On

Look through the following lists of toxic narcissistic quotes to better understand what you’re dealing with — or healing from. 

Dealing with the Abuse 

Some of what you’ll read here are shallow or manipulative narcissistic quotes.

Others are quotes by those who’ve survived a relationship with a narcissist and are sharing what they’ve learned.

Read them carefully and think about what you’ve been through yourself.

1. “Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life on his terms.” — Elizabeth Bowen

2. “Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.” — Mason Cooley

3. “The lion is most handsome when looking for food.” — Rumi

4. “Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire, exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control.” ― Lorraine Nilon

5. “Beware of narcissistic people. They'll tell everyone you're crazy, only to cover up their trickery. ” ― Mitta Xinindlu

6. “There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one.” —Jeffrey Kluger

7. “Narcissists commonly cut people off and out of their lives due to their shallow emotional style of seeing others as either good or bad.” —Karyl McBride

8. “I don’t care what you think unless it is about me.” –Kurt Cobain

9. “A narcissist can’t be faithful. This is because—to a narcissist—'you' don’t exist except as a mirror. When he looks at you, all he sees is his own reflection. Distort this reflection and he will go find another mirror. It’s as simple, or as complicated, as that.” —Tigress Luv
10. “Narcissists are masters of pathologizing your emotions. They convince you that your emotional reactions to the abuse are the problem, rather than the abuse itself.” —Shahida Arabi

11. “You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist. The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.” —Shannon L. Alder

12. “Narcissists don’t change because they don’t want to change. They want to keep on using and abusing because it gets them the attention they so desperately crave.” —Anne McCrea

13. “There is simply no winning with a narcissist. He will treat you so horribly that you will become withdrawn and depressed and then he will turn around and say, ‘You’re no fun anymore, you’re always so depressed. I need to be with someone more positive.’” —Susan Williams

14. “Narcissists are masters of illusion; they play the poor abused victim while in truth they are wreaking havoc by torturing, mistreating, and abusing those that they fooled into loving them.” — Y. Clerebout

15. “The narcissist enjoys being looked at and not looking back.” — Mason Cooley

16. “Hypocrissist: A narcissist who has their head so far up their ass they can’t hear the hypocrisy coming out of their mouth.” — Joel McDonald

17. “A narcissist is someone better looking than you are.” -Gore Vidal

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Leaving and Letting Go

The following quotes are here to motivate you to create distance between yourself and the narcissist you know. You need that distance to protect yourself and the people you love. Let these quotes remind you of what’s at stake.

18. “When confronted by a narcissist's lies, do not engage; simply say ‘that is one way to look at it' and walk away.” ― Tracy Malone

19. “If I cut you off it's because you handed me the scissors.” — Harvey Specter

20. “We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.”⁣ — Jim Rohn

21. “If you think leaving a narcissist is hard, just wait until you get the bill for not doing it.” — Kim Saeed

22. “Just because someone desires you, does not mean that he values you. “ — Nayyirah Waheed

23. “Instead of asking her why she didn’t leave her abuser sooner, tell her you are proud of her for leaving when she could.” — Christy Anne Martine

Healing from the Hurt

These quotes are to help you through your recovery from a relationship with a narcissist. You’ve been through something not everyone has. And the time will come when you’ll have your own insights and empathy to share with others on the same recovery path. 

24. “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” — Steve Maraboli

25. “You are not broken and in need of fixing. You are wounded and in need of healing.” ― Danu Morrigan

26. “There is life after narcissistic abuse, Hold On.” ― Tracy Malone

27. “I wish that people would stop destroying other people just because they were once destroyed.” — Karen Salmansohn

28. “It is mental slavery to cling to things that have stopped serving its purpose in your life.” — Chinonye J. Chidolue

29. “You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever ‘the old’ means for you.” — Sarah Ban Breathnach

30. “Over and over again, I have learned how damaging, how unrelenting, the aftermath is from these pathological, quietly undermining relationships.” — Sandra Brown

31. “Recovery from narcissistic abuse is not about forgiveness. For one thing, we don’t have the credentials to forgive at that level” — Zari Ballard

32. “Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.” — Judy Belmont

33. “Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” — Frank Salvato

34. “Intuition — once you have had a narcissist in your life, you must develop your intuition and learn to listen to it and act accordingly.” — Tracy Malone

35. “Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.” — Sheree Griffin

36. “If you are an empathic, sensitive person, you are particularly vulnerable to the machinations of a narcissist who views you as someone they can easily manipulate.” ― Barrie Davenport 

37. “How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” — Amanda Torroni

38. And we need to know what it is to be human if we are to avoid becoming narcissists.” — Alexander Lowen

39. “I tell adults I work with never to waste their time arguing with a narcissist. You cannot win with a narcissist. Their perspective is always theirs.” – Deedee Cummings, M.Ed., LPCC, JD

40. Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.” — Sam Vaknin

41. “Please repair your narcissism before you start loving your neighbor as yourself.” ― Charles F. Glassman

42. “Narcissists would rather lie and humiliate you than to admit that they were in the wrong.” ― Mitta Xinindlu

43. “Narcissism is voluntary blindness, an agreement not to look beneath the surface.” — Sam Keen

44. “If you want to go from being adored to devalued in the blink of an eye, simply insult the narcissist.” — Tigress Luv

45. “What are narcissists looking for, after all? Just someone at their level that they can feel superior to.” — Luigina Sgarro

46. “Where there is much pride or much vanity, there will also be much revengefulness.” — Arthur Schopenhauer

47. “Narcissists often appear to be very confident, but a key feature of narcissism is low self-esteem. Narcissists display arrogance and exaggerate their achievements to hide this low self-esteem.” – Emily Guarnotta, PsyD

48. There is a difference between supporting someone and feeding someone's narcissism. One is support and the other is not.” — Fathom

49. “The narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells aside.” — Sam Vaknin

50. “You can teach a narcissist to show up on time, but you can’t train them to listen once they get there.” ― Dr. Ramani Durvasula

51. “People, no matter the economic class, find ways to feed their narcissism.” – Lynne Tillman

52. “Once you recognize a narcissist for who they are and accept that the problem isn’t you, there’s no going back. The blinders are off.” – Barrie Davenport

53. “There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step, which is admitting that they made one.” – Jeffrey Kluger

54. “Someone who demonstrates narcissistic behaviors will operate in a way that is manipulative but convincing. They are good at making themselves appear as the victim when issues with their behaviors are brought to their attention.” – Oddesty K Langham, MS, LPC, NCC

55. “Underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary.” – Brené Brown

Final Thoughts

Now that you’ve looked over this collection of quotes on narcissism, which ones stood out for you? Which reminded you most of your own situation and what you learned from it?

The good news? However long your relationship lasted, you can learn from it. And with your intimate understanding of narcissism and its effects, you can help others recover from their experiences, too. 

You and your well-being are worth fighting for. Encourage others as you work through the healing process. 

And don’t let anyone tell you how long it should take.