We all have negative attributes that need our attention.
If I ask you to identify some negative qualities of a person or some of your own, I’ll bet at least one comes to mind.
And once you become aware of these negative traits and how they affect other people, you’re more likely to put in the effort to correct those you see in yourself.
Of course, that assumes your character development and personal growth matter to you — and that you’re not inclined to blame anyone but yourself for your mistakes.
But what about negative personality traits that make someone difficult to be around?
And how do you spot bad personality traits in others — or in yourself?
What is a Negative Personality Trait?
We are born with a personality type and with positive and negative traits that are natural to our type.
The differences in personalities between people are linked to structural differences in our brains that develop before birth.
Negative Personality Traits vs. Negative Character Traits
Ever wondered why some folks just rub you the wrong way, while others you just can’t trust? Well, it might come down to whether they're showing negative personality traits or negative character traits. Here are some key differences:
- Where They Come From: Think of personality traits like your built-in software, often wired in from the get-go, thanks to your genes and early life experiences. Character traits are more like the apps you download over time, shaped by your choices, beliefs, and the life lessons you pick up along the way.
- Can You Change Them?: Changing a personality trait, like being super shy or a bit of a worrywart, is like trying to teach an old dog new tricks – tough but not impossible. But character traits, like being a bit of a fibber or flaking out on your pals, are more in your hands to change, since they're about the choices you make.
- How They Show Up: Personality traits sneak into just about everything you do, influencing how you react to things or what you're into. Character traits show up in the serious moments, guiding how you act when it comes to right and wrong.
- What People Think: When someone’s personality trait gets on your nerves, you might just shrug it off as “that’s just how they are.” But if it’s a character flaw, like being sneaky or mean, that’s when eyebrows raise, and people start questioning what you’re really about.
28 Negative Personality Traits
1. Egocentric
When someone possesses this negative quality, everything they say or do is centered on making them look good, becoming the center of attention, or proving to the world that they deserve preferential treatment.
If you know someone like this, you can likely think of at least one experience with this person that opened your eyes to this negative personality type.
Everything they say or do serves their ego. And nothing or no one else takes priority over maintaining their ego.
2. Pessimistic
The pessimistic person is always looking for proof that the universe hates them (or that it doesn’t care).
They believe that they’re just doomed to be trapped and miserable, that the world is against them, that life is a cruel joke, or that the game is rigged against them.
Whenever things don’t go their way, it’s proof that they’re right.
It doesn’t occur to them to take responsibility for their own lives and do something to change them for the better. They’ll cling to what they have and complain about what they don’t.
And they’ll make themselves (and others) miserable — as if that’s the only way to be.
3. Needing to be Right
This person needs to be right all the time — or at least to be seen that way.
They have a visceral need to prove others wrong, and if they can’t do that, they’ll use other means to discredit those with whom they disagree.
They’ll attack the other’s character. Or they’ll launch into a sanctimonious rant because they honestly believe their emotions and self-righteousness are more compelling than what is known to be true.
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If they can make the other person look like a villain and get at least one person to say, “You were right about [so-and-so],” they’ve scored a victory.
It doesn’t matter if what they said had no basis in fact. They rely on their emotions and on those of people just as easily swayed by them to “win.”
The truth is only as valuable as it is useful in proving the other person wrong.
4. Greedy
They will get all they can out of you without any regard for what you want or need. And they’re insatiable. No matter how much you give them, they want more.
And if you dare ask anything of them that doesn’t serve their interests, be prepared for a disappointing outcome.
Your value as a friend only goes as far as your usefulness or your ability to help finance the lifestyle they want.
They can never have enough money, food, or gratifying experiences. You are a means to an end for them. You can either feed the beast or get trampled by it.
5. Dishonest
With the dishonest person, no offer of help (financial or otherwise) comes without strings attached or without some ulterior motive in which you and your interests are just bit players.
Beware of sudden offers of help from someone who otherwise shows zero interest in your life.
Chances are, there’s something this person wants that they can only get (or that they can get more easily) by involving you.
It’s one thing to keep secrets to protect those for whom that information would be a burden or a danger. It’s another to constantly lie to others in order to get something you want from them.
6. Judgmental
Live long enough around other people, and you’re likely to meet someone who’s quick to judge others based on what they see — even when they don’t know the whole story.
They’ll dismiss someone as a “bad person” before you even get a chance to know better. If you know this self-appointed judge and value their opinion, you might be swayed by them at first.
But when you look more closely at the judged person or at the circumstances, you come away with a different perspective.
They’ll judge anyone because it makes them feel superior in some way. And you could just as easily become a target (if you haven’t already been).
7. Manipulative
The manipulative person uses other people to get what they want. They’re often even proud of their ability to manipulate others.
They might even write books about it — knowing there are others like them out there who’ll be happy to make use of what they’ve learned.
Guilt is a popular manipulation tactic, but not all people who use guilt to make others do what they want are consciously manipulative.
For many, this tactic is something they learned growing up. Eventually, though, it loses its effectiveness. And when it does, the real manipulator will then use other forms of manipulation to get their way.
8. Narcissistic
To the narcissist, others are to blame for the problems in their life.
They don’t apologize — at least not sincerely — because whatever you think they’ve done to hurt you, it’s your fault. You provoked them.
Whatever happens, they are in the right and only doing what’s best (at least for them). They’re not responsible for whatever consequences you suffer because of them.
In their mind, you brought that upon yourself — or you had it coming. And who are they to question Karma? Good luck getting a narcissist to admit they were at fault or that they were wrong about something.
If they do apologize, it’s to serve their own ends. And those ends have nothing to do with real friendship.
9. Vindictive
Cross this person, in even a small way, and they’ll do everything they can to punish you.
They become fixated on making sure you regret ever going against them in any way — even if “going against them” consists of nothing more than ignoring them, or disagreeing with them, or not doing what they want.
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Once you make them angry, they’ll denounce you as an enemy and look for ways to hurt you. They may or may not make their intentions against you clear.
Much depends on whether they have one of the following (see #3) bad personality traits.
10. Aggressive or Passive-Aggressive
If a vindictive person is passive-aggressive, they’ll work more or less behind your back. And that’s where they’ll strike, without ever confronting you to your face.
If they have an aggressive streak, they might confront you, but often from a safe distance. The internet and email are useful for this.
Aggressive people don’t need distance, though. They’ll use proximity and even physical violence to threaten you and make you feel unsafe, helpless, or small.
They’ll bully you into apologizing and doing what they want to atone for your sins against them.
11. Predatory
A predatory person sees other people as toys or tools to use as they please.
When they choose a target, they put their plan in action and view their harmful actions toward that person as an enjoyable game. And they feel completely within their rights to do so.
They see nothing wrong with manipulating and exploiting others to get what they want.
They don’t really do friendship, because to them, people are only as valuable as they are useful. And once they’re used up, the predator will toss them aside like garbage.
12. Unforgiving
The person with this negative trait refuses to forgive those who hurt or offend them, no matter what they might do to atone for those offenses.
No apology or olive branch will sway the person determined to hold a grudge. You might hear this person say things like “I don’t care if I go to hell; I will always hate [so-and-so].”
They see forgiveness as a sign of weakness. So, they continue hating and looking for ways to feed that hatred.
They don’t stop to consider that in doing so, they’re torturing themselves — making themselves miserable — and blaming someone else for it.
13. Shy
Engaging with a shy person can feel like trying to coax a melody from a tightly sealed violin case; there's beauty within, yet an impenetrable barrier of anxiety and self-consciousness muffles their potential to resonate.
Their actions are tinged with hesitation, a palpable tension as if each social interaction is a high wire act without a safety net.
It doesn't just inhibit their ability to express themselves; it casts a veil over their true selves, making deep connections and spontaneous interactions difficult.
14. Resentful
In the heart of someone with resentment is a festering wound, a collection of past slights and injustices that never quite healed.
This trait isn't silent; it comes through their words as a bitter undercurrent in seemingly benign conversations, and it sharpens their actions with a hidden edge.
You might notice a pattern: old grievances repackaged in new contexts, a reluctance to forgive and forget, making every discussion a potential battleground.
15. Stubborn
Encountering someone with a stubborn streak is like coming up against an immovable object; their beliefs and decisions are impervious to persuasion or new evidence.
Dialogue with them often feels less like a two-way street and more like a siege, where each attempt at compromise or alternative suggestion is met with unwavering resistance.
Their commitment to their viewpoint is unyielding, a testament to their inner conviction, yet this inflexibility can transform collaborative efforts into frustrating standoffs.
16. Overly Cautious
When someone's personality is excessively cautious, their life unfolds like a carefully planned chess game, where every move is calculated to avoid risk.
They have an aversion to spontaneity and prefer safe and predictable paths.
They can’t embrace new experiences or make decisions without exhaustive deliberation. While careful consideration can be prudent, it often leads to missed opportunities and resistance to change .
17. Perfectionistic
A perfectionist's world is binary, either flawless success or unacceptable failure, with little room for the shades of progress in between.
Their relentless pursuit of perfection can be awe-inspiring but also exhausting, as their standards are impossibly high. They have sense of never quite measuring up to their own exacting standards.
Their path is one of constant striving, where each accomplishment is merely a stepping stone to the next, larger challenge, leaving little space for contentment or appreciation of the moment.
18. Moody
A moody person’s emotional state shifts like the wind, unpredictable and often intense. It can either cast a pall over a previously sunny room or illuminate it with a sudden burst of positivity.
Their volatility makes having a steady, reliable connection challenging, as their internal moods dictate the climate of their interactions.
The root of this trait often lies in a deep sensitivity to the world around them, a double-edged sword that allows for profound empathy but also subjects them to the whims of their emotional tides.
19. Sensitive to Criticism
For those sensitive to criticism, each word of feedback is a potential barb, piercing their armor of self-esteem.
It turns what could be constructive exchanges into minefields, where the intention behind the criticism is often lost in the emotional fallout.
Their reactions can range from withdrawal to defensiveness, a protective mechanism against perceived attacks on their value or competence.
20. Overly Competitive
Being with an overly competitive person is like running a race where every interaction is an opportunity to assert dominance or superiority.
The constant competition can drive the person to impressive heights, but it can also strain relationships, as all others are seen as rivals.
They often struggle to find joy in the simple pleasures of shared success or the communal journey toward a goal. Instead, their focus is on the win, the accolades, and the need to be the best.
21. Inflexible
An inflexible person’s world is governed by strict routines, rigid opinions, and an unwavering way of doing things.
Engaging with them, you quickly learn that suggesting alternatives or new ideas is often met with resistance, as they cling to the familiar with an iron grip.
This rigidity can lead to a stagnation of personal growth and creativity, as the safety of the known trumps the potential of the unknown.
22. Skeptical
This person’s default stance is one of disbelief, where propositions and intentions are questioned, and the benefit of the doubt is rarely given.
While healthy skepticism can be a valuable tool in discerning truth from falsehood, an excess can lead to a life colored by cynicism and a lack of trust.
Pervasive doubt can act as a barrier to forming meaningful connections and embracing new experiences, as the skeptical person remains ever vigilant against being misled or deceived.
23. Impulsive
An impulsive personality is like a spark in dry grass, quick to ignite with little warning. Their life is a series of spontaneous decisions, each moment lived without the forethought of the next.
While this can lead to exhilarating experiences and a sense of boundless freedom, it can also result in consequences that are overlooked until they demand attention.
Interactions with impulsive individuals are unpredictable, filled with sudden turns and shifts that can be both refreshing and disorienting.
24. Indecisive
Being around an indecisive person can feel like being trapped in a loop, where choices are weighed and reweighed but seldom made. Their world is filled with endless possibilities, each path paralyzing them with the fear of making the wrong choice.
This hesitation can turn even simple decisions into prolonged deliberations, frustrating those around them and often leading to missed opportunities.
26. Anxious
The world through the eyes of someone who's perpetually anxious is fraught with potential dangers and worst-case scenarios.
Their mind is a battleground where worries and what-ifs wage constant war, casting a shadow over everyday experiences and interactions.
Their ceaseless anxiety can make even mundane tasks seem daunting, creating barriers to personal fulfillment and social connections.
27. Cynical
A cynical person often views the world with a critical eye, expecting ulterior motives behind smiles and kindness.
Their skepticism towards others' intentions can make genuine connections rare, as they shield themselves with a layer of disdain to avoid disappointment.
While their critical perspective can sometimes unveil truths, it also risks coloring their world in shades of distrust, limiting their capacity for joy and openness.
28. Detached
Have you ever been around someone whose interactions come across as disinterested or apathetic? It creates a chasm between them and others that's hard to bridge.
Emotional distance serves as a fortress, protecting them from the tumults of close relationships, yet it also isolates them, often leaving a void where connections should be.
How to Get Rid of Bad Personality Traits
If you read this list of bad personality traits and recognized yourself in some of them, don't despair that you are married to them forever.
In fact, you've already taken the first and most difficult step — having self-awareness. By acknowledging that you have undesirable traits, you can now begin the process of turning them around.
Here are some ideas for doing just that:
More About Negative Personality Traits
A variety of personality tests, such as the Myers-Briggs test, can reveal your personality traits and identify the weak areas of your personality. The Big Five (or OCEAN) assessment analyzes individuals based on the most common traits found within the global community.
These traits spell out the acronym OCEAN and include:
Openness
Those who are open to new experiences and learning new things score high in openness. They are creative and have a wide variety of interests. If you are less open, you tend to be more cautious and conservative and prefer routines.
Conscientiousness
Scoring high in this trait means you tend to be reliable, organized, prompt, disciplined, motivated and trustworthy. Scoring low means you are likely to be less conscientious and reliable and more easily distracted.
Extraversion
Those who score high in extraversion tend to be more sociable, energetic, and assertive. Those who score low are more introverted and less assertive.
Agreeableness
Scoring high here means you're more likely to be friendly, compassionate, and warm with others. Low scorers tend to be more suspicious and self-centered.
Neuroticism
This trait relates to emotional stability. The higher you score, the more you experience emotional instability and negative emotions. Low scores describe someone who is calmer and more confident.
As you can see, open-minded, calm, conscientious, and agreeable characteristics are juxtaposed to the negative personality traits of judgment, neuroticism, and suspicion.
These exist on a continuum, so we all have some positive and negative characteristics.
However, people who score high in neuroticism are particularly prone to having difficult personalities.
There’s a difference between weak personality traits and those that make someone’s company and influence poisonous and depleting to other people.
But weakness does play a role in this list of negative personality traits.
Only those with inner strength and self-awareness do what is necessary to heal and evolve.
Ready to address bad personality traits?
What we see as bad personality traits can start as something easy to brush off as “growing pains” or “working through something.”
Only when we see that we have made a habit of exhibiting one or more of these traits do we begin to realize that we need to change. We don't want friends and loved ones to write us off because we refuse to address our behaviors.
When we know others who possess these undesirable traits and have no intention of developing positive, contrary traits, it becomes necessary to reevaluate their place in our lives.
These traits make them exhausting to be around; it’s as if they’re deliberately draining you of your energy to increase their own.
Even if they treat you as one of their trusted friends, just being around them makes you feel sick in both body and soul.
Everyone deserves a chance to thrive, and being around one of these energy vampires makes it difficult, if not impossible, to do that.
Make the changes you need (within yourself or with others) in order to heal and move forward with your life.
And may your compassion and courage influence everything you do today.
Super post and idea! But what about envy? You know, when someone is jealous very, very strong and want to destroy this person. I have something like that and it wasn’t good…
Great article! Thanks!