It makes you sick to your stomach to consider.
But lately, the main thought running through your mind is: Why can't I shake the feeling he's cheating?
You may not have the receipts — the proverbial smoking gun.
Instead, you have a gut feeling your boyfriend cheated.
And that’s what we’re breaking down today: the signs your man is stepping out on you.
Let’s dive in.
- Why Do I Have a Feeling I'm Being Cheated On?
- 29 Reasons You Have A Gut Feeling He's Cheating But No Proof
- 1. Your Sex Life Has Dwindled Significantly
- 2. He's Suddenly Busy
- 3. He's Full of Excuses
- 4. He's “Working” All the Time Now
- 5. He Runs to the Other Room To Talk
- 6. His Temper Is Shorter Than Normal
- 7. He Talks About Another Person A Lot
- 8. You Catch Him in a Lie
- 9. He Tries To Enact a Social Media Ban
- 10. His Friends Are Nervous Around You
- 11. He Does Something Nice for No Reason (After Being Shady)
- 12. Your Friends Spot Him Somewhere Odd
- 13. He Treats Everything Like an Unwarranted Interrogation
- 14. His Opinions Change
- 15. He's Very Defensive About Counseling
- 16. He's Wearing Cologne Now (Lots of It)
- 17. He No Longer Wants To Participate in Your Rituals
- 18. He's More Arrogant
- 19. He's Critical or Indifferent
- 20. He Accuses You of Cheating
- 21. His Phone Is “Blowing Up”
- 22. He's Upgraded His Grooming Habits
- 23. He's Become Moodier
- 24. He No Longer Compliments You on His Own
- 25. All of a Sudden, He's a Trendsetter
- 26. He's More Distant Lately
- 27. Your Conversations Are Waning
- 28. He Gaslights You
- 29. He Has Two Phones
- Final Thoughts
Why Do I Have a Feeling I'm Being Cheated On?
Accusing someone of cheating can be tricky because it's easy to bungle the signs.
And when genuinely false accusations are flung, the relationship erodes, and the accuser beats themself up for sabotaging a partnership with potential.
Moreover, the person who falsely levied the offense often over-corrects. They ignore all future suspicions, and wind up with someone who actually does cheat.
So what sensory indicators reveal that you may be dealing with a cheating partner?
- Sick Stomach Pit: That nauseous feeling in your stomach that fills your body with dread and anxiousness
- Hollow Chest: When you feel an empty hole in the center of your chest that feels like it extends to infinity
- Headache: An old-fashion headache is a tried-and-true stress indicator
- Duped Haze: The feeling of being in an alternate reality, as if everyone else around you is insane and you've somehow landed in a Twilight Zone
- Sixth Sense: You just have a strong, intuitive feeling after some subtle “shifts” in his behavior.
29 Reasons You Have A Gut Feeling He's Cheating But No Proof
We've discussed some general sensations you may experience when your gut is suspicious.
Now, let's unpack 29 reasons you have every right to believe your “belly badgers” are right and he is stepping out.
To be fair, these are not foolproof signs. It's impossible to quantify every person's situation and behavioral patterns. So if your man only exhibits a handful of these quirks, you likely have nothing to worry about.
He may be going through a phase.
On a positive note, if he starts dressing better, grooming more, and working out, he could be in it for the health and social benefits — and there's nothing wrong with that.
But if you’re fiercely shaking your head up and down to a dozen or more items on this list, it may be time to start snooping for proof.
The caveats are in place. So, are you ready to learn the tell-tale signs of a cheating man? Let's go.
1. Your Sex Life Has Dwindled Significantly
Once upon a rumpy-pumpy time, you and your man made love like a couple of rabbits in heat. Morning, noon, and night, the two of you were getting busy in the sheets — and other strategic places.
But things have changed. Your sex lives have plummeted from hot to not, and you're unsure why. He's not sick; you're not ill, and from your vantage point, nothing else is weighing on your lives or psyches.
2. He's Suddenly Busy
Out of nowhere, he's the busiest man on the planet — apropos of nothing. It used to be a given that you went out for dinner on Fridays after work, but now he always has plans.
These days, you're lucky if he squeezes you in on Sunday afternoon.
If this sounds all too familiar, your man is probably over the relationship or juggling multiple partners.
3. He's Full of Excuses
He's been a fountain of excuses lately, and his stories are getting increasingly creative. It's reached a point of unbelievability.
Sure, hiccups happen. But ask yourself: What are the chances of something popping up two or three times a week, seven weeks in a row…and counting?
4. He's “Working” All the Time Now
In the not-too-distant past, he went to work and came home at reasonable hours. Sure, there were times when he had to work late to prepare for a big meeting or event, but he was hardly a Workaholic Willy.
But these days, he constantly claims to be “at the office” or doing a work-related thing. Yet, he hasn't been promoted, he's not making more money, and as far as you know, he's not trying to impress his supervisors.
5. He Runs to the Other Room To Talk
Please don't misread us. We're not suggesting that people shouldn't expect privacy when talking on the phone. But if he's surreptitiously scampering out of the room, using a full-tilt whisper every time his phone chimes, it's wise to raise an eyebrow or two.
After all, if it was mundane work stuff, why can't he quickly handle it where he's sitting? You've never minded before.
6. His Temper Is Shorter Than Normal
In the past, your boyfriend was a mild-tempered, even-keeled gentleman. These days, however, he's petulant and moody.
Sure, he could be going through some emotional turmoil. Or, he could be cheating, and the stress is causing him to act out.
7. He Talks About Another Person A Lot
Does a particular name keep popping up in conversation? Is your fella full of admiration and praise for this mystery person?
He claims not to talk about them much, but you've got a reliable tracker, and he speaks their name at least once a day, usually more.
This happens when someone is cheating, is smitten, and can't keep their subconscious cool.
8. You Catch Him in a Lie
You've never caught him prevaricating…until now. Even if it was a small lie, it's worth tucking away in your memory bank.
If the occurrences escalate, there's a solid chance you have a cheater on your hands. That, or he's hiding something equally as significant.
9. He Tries To Enact a Social Media Ban
He asked you to stop posting pictures of you and him on social media. The nerve! He offered up a lame excuse, but it didn't sound anywhere near realistic or logical to you. No ma'am.
The second your man starts making these suspect requests is the moment you start looking at his actions through a suspicious lens.
10. His Friends Are Nervous Around You
His friends now treat you like a strict nanny who's about to bust them for stealing sweets. Why? Because they know their boy is stepping out on you and feel obligated to keep his secret.
But their non-verbal behavior belies their guys-before-gals pact.
11. He Does Something Nice for No Reason (After Being Shady)
Another of the weird signs he's cheating on you is dubious kindness. Did he show up with flowers for no reason? Make a grand gesture out of nowhere? It could be an outgrowth of his guilt.
This isn't a surefire signal. After all, people like to surprise their partners with nice things sometimes. But when coupled with other signs, it morphs into a giant red flag.
12. Your Friends Spot Him Somewhere Odd
One of your girlfriends saw him at a restaurant with another woman. When you ask about it, he makes up an excuse that usually involves work.
But then another buddy reveals that they saw him at the movies. These sightings keep adding up, and they're not making sense.
13. He Treats Everything Like an Unwarranted Interrogation
Every time you ask a simple question, he blows up and behaves like the unfairly targeted victim of an unwarranted inquisition. And all you can think is: Why so defensive, dude?
People are always telling on themselves, and this is a common slip.
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14. His Opinions Change
Growing and changing are healthy. They're signs of curiosity, humility, and compassion. But genuine change usually happens over an extended period. The same goes for your fashion sense. Of course, you'll modify and tweak over time.
But if your man upends his outlook, opinions, and tastes in a few short weeks, there's likely a side piece behind the shift.
15. He's Very Defensive About Counseling
These days, therapy is as American as apple pie. Sure, people may have opinions about whether it's effective, but most people will indulge a partner who wants to try couples counseling for a little bit.
So if your boyfriend or husband loses his ever-loving $#!+ over the suggestion, infidelity may fuel his rage.
Why is he panicking? He's afraid of revealing too much and getting caught mid-session.
16. He's Wearing Cologne Now (Lots of It)
His former scent was more eau de non-existent. Lately, though, he smells like a Parisian perfumery. Why the shift? If we're being generous, he could have found a scent he liked and decided to try something different.
If he's eager to know what you think and get your approval, you likely have nothing to fret about.
A more cynical reading is that he could be wearing it to cover up his paramour's scent.
17. He No Longer Wants To Participate in Your Rituals
You've been together for a long time, and you've established a few relationship rituals over the years. It could be as small as going to brunch the first Saturday of every month or taking a grand vacation every February. At this point, the “thing” has become a welcome feature of your partnership.
But all of a sudden, he doesn't want to participate.
Any way you slice it, rejecting rituals is a troubling sign. If he decides to brunch with someone else on your day or head out of town for a leisure trip by himself or someone else, paradise is definitely in trouble.
18. He's More Arrogant
Has Mr. Sweet-and-Humble metastasized into Mr. Arrogant-and-Snarky? Please accept our condolences. After all, you didn't sign up for that. However, it is common among cheating men.
They go from lovely to cocky because they have more than one lover. This type of cheater usually gives themselves a “glow up,” too.
19. He's Critical or Indifferent
In days of old, he was caring and kind and always went out of his way to compliment you. But nowadays, he doesn't lift a thought or finger to cheer you up or make you feel good.
In worst-case scenarios, he may even become critical and say awful things like, “You're wearing that?” or “What you said makes you sound dumb.”
20. He Accuses You of Cheating
Projection is almost always a dead giveaway that a partner is creeping around behind your back — especially if you haven't changed your ways and you're not exhibiting any of the tell-tale signs.
So if your man starts pointing the finger at you out of the blue, he's actually pointing the finger at himself.
21. His Phone Is “Blowing Up”
He hasn't changed jobs. Nor has he joined a new group or activity. Nothing is happening in his family, and his health is fine.
So why has the volume of calls and texts skyrocketed? It could be a paramour.
22. He's Upgraded His Grooming Habits
Be careful with this one because it's normal to change one's ways. And there's nothing inherently wrong with starting to eat better, exercise, and subsequently look better. Moreover, when people feel more confident, they may change their looks.
But if he's doing all this while ignoring you more and treating you worse, you may have a cheater on your hands.
23. He's Become Moodier
In the past, your guy was even-keeled. He had a healthy relationship with his emotions. But these days, he's a living embodiment of the “moody blues.”
If he's not navigating any hardships in his life, the change in emotional energy may be a clue that he's being unfaithful.
24. He No Longer Compliments You on His Own
“I love you!”
“You look amazing!”
“I'm so lucky to have you in my life!”
He used to shower you with compliments like the ones above. But now, he's mute. He rarely, if ever, spares a nice word for you.
It's gotten to a point where you're fishing for compliments, and you hate how that feels.
25. All of a Sudden, He's a Trendsetter
This is common among older men who start cheating with younger women. Apropos of nothing, they start buying the latest clothes, accessories, and music. They want to go to the trendiest new hotspots, and their viewing habits completely change.
It's enough to make you wonder: Where is he getting all these new ideas from?
In many cases, it comes straight from the mouth of
babes the side person.
26. He's More Distant Lately
You can feel him slipping away from you. Your interactions are strained, and every sign points to the possibility he's just going through the motions.
In many ways, you no longer feel like you know what's going on in his life. And as difficult as it may be to hear, it could signal that he's already checked out of the relationship and moved on.
27. Your Conversations Are Waning
It's been too long since you last had a deep and meaningful conversation. When things were wonderful, neither of you could shut up. Now, when together, it feels like you're roommates who tolerate each other.
28. He Gaslights You
Gaslighting is when one party tries to convince the other that their thought patterns and beliefs are unjustified or even crazy. People being gaslit frequently ask themselves questions like, “Am I the one in the wrong?” or “Am I being overly sensitive?”
If this dynamic has reared its head, it's probably time to take a step back and objectively assess the situation. Is the relationship worth saving?
29. He Has Two Phones
Dearest reader, if your man has two phones, and one isn't a mandatory, work-issued device, it's a glaring sign that something is off. If he gets agitated when you go near the “other phone,” something is up.
If he doesn't tell you he has another phone and you stumble upon it, start looking for an exit.
Remember: Every situation is different. So it's vital to assess signs through the reality of your relationship. But if he is cheating, also remember that you deserve better. Infidelity isn't something you need to accept.