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13 Proven Actions To Get Out of Your Head

October 26, 2020October 19, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

woman thinking, how to get out of your head

Do you get stuck in your head — re-running old conversations, thinking up better responses, and ruminating on someone’s hurtful remarks? Do you worry about how to get out of your head?

There’s so much going on in there, anyway. And your brain keeps piping up with invitations to dwell on familiar, self-defeating thoughts and the memories that back them up.

If your mind wanders, it tends to default to negative thoughts. We are wired for a negativity bias, an evolutionary adaptive way of thinking meant to protect us from threats.

Even knowing you tend to think more negative thoughts than positive, you're still addicted to your thoughts. You might believe, “It’s not so bad being stuck in my head. Never a dull moment in there.”

But at some point, you need a break from the same, stultifying thoughts. You need to get some distance from them and refresh yourself.

And you know that the solution isn’t just to learn how to get something off your mind. It’s not the something that’s the problem; it’s the attention you keep giving it.

21 Of The Best Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship

October 21, 2020October 18, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

couple on beach, how to build trust in a relationship

Are you wondering how to build trust in your relationship? That's good because trust is one of the most essential building blocks in a healthy, happy relationship.

Maybe you feel as though you’ve hit a wall with your partner. There’s more to learn about him or her, but something is blocking your access to their deepest self.

Maybe the person you love has been through some rough times with other relationships. Trusting others has led to betrayal and pain, so why should this relationship be any different?

Knowing how to build trust in a relationship is one thing; working at it day by day is another.

But you hope to rewrite your loved one’s expectations and allay their fears.

To build trust, you’ll have to go above and beyond what comes naturally. Because this person has been hurt before by other ordinary mortals, you’ll have to be extraordinary in your efforts to build a trusting relationship.

So, what should you focus on?

61 Of The Best Zen Quotes For Mindful Living

October 16, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

How can a bunch of zen quotes on life help you with your mindfulness practice? And what does zen mean, anyway?

Though we could dive into the Japanese school of Mahayana Buddhism and the value of intuition and meditation, the short answer is that zen means feeling peaceful and calm.

Nice, right? We could all use more of that.

And one way to bring more peace and calm into your life is to meditate on zen proverbs like the ones in this post.

Get ready to write down or copy your favorites and check out our ideas at the end of the post on ways to use them in daily life.

13 Top ENTJ Personality Traits You Must Know

October 14, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

How much do you know about the ENTJ personality type?

If you know what each letter stands for in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) lexicon, you can at least identify the four key ENTJ characteristics:

Extraverted
Intuitive
Thinking
Judging

But there’s much more to each type than those four letters can say.

And if you’re an ENTJ, or you know someone who is, the more you know, the better you can understand everything that goes with it.

Let’s start with a bit of background on those four letters.

35 Disturbing Signs of Gaslighting In A Relationship

October 21, 2020October 14, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

unhappy couple, gaslighting in a relationship

Have you been in a relationship where you often questioned your feelings, instincts, or sanity?

For example, let's say you find a personal email your partner wrote to a co-worker, and you think it's inappropriate and hurtful.

You approach your partner about it, but he or she insists you misinterpreted the email or that you're overreacting.

Your instincts are telling you otherwise, but you may second guess yourself enough to give in and go along with the story your partner is telling you.

Or maybe your spouse breaks a promise to take care of the kids for the day, and then blames you for making him or her feel bad about it.

Everything You Need To Know About The Type D Personality

October 14, 2020October 13, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

Someone called you out for having a “type D personality” and you thought, “What on earth does that mean?”

You’ve heard plenty about Type A personalities, but this is the first time you’ve heard about a Type D.

It’s true Type As tend to get more attention.

There’s a reason for that, but it’s probably not what you think. Type As have a greater risk for heart disease than Type Bs.

Type D behavior can also increase your risk of that and other health problems.

So, the more you know about it, the better.

39 Of The Best Money Affirmations To Reinforce A Wealth Mindset

October 23, 2020October 12, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

First of all, I know it can be hard to take this wealth mindset stuff seriously, especially when it feels like rich people telling you your financial troubles must be your own fault.

Your thinking must be “too negative” — as if positive thinking would fix everything. It wouldn’t.

This post isn’t about “thinking only positive thoughts.” That’s not realistic.

And it’s not helpful. There are some things you can’t reframe positively without sounding creepy or fake.

But we do believe in positive affirmations for money. Read on to see why.

101 Of The Best Funny Get To Know You Questions

October 13, 2020October 10, 2020 by Barrie Davenport

friends laughing, funny get to know you questions

If you’re looking for some funny get to know you questions, you’re in the right place.

However long you’ve been putting yourself out there and meeting new people — possibly with the hope of meeting the love of your life — it helps to have some ice-breakers handy.

And questions like the following are less likely to get you the cold shoulder (or cold stare) than cheesy pick-up lines.

If you’re looking to at least get a laugh and maybe find a new friend, these questions are hard to ignore, because they’re fun to answer.

They also send the message that you’re actually interested in learning more about how their minds work.

When you start with fun questions to ask someone who’s piqued your interest, you learn more about them — possibly sparking a connection.

And if the conversation goes well, even if it doesn’t lead to anything long-term, you’ll both have discovered an interesting new human to talk to.