Do you get stuck in your head — re-running old conversations, thinking up better responses, and ruminating on someone’s hurtful remarks? Do you worry about how to get out of your head?
There’s so much going on in there, anyway. And your brain keeps piping up with invitations to dwell on familiar, self-defeating thoughts and the memories that back them up.
If your mind wanders, it tends to default to negative thoughts. We are wired for a negativity bias, an evolutionary adaptive way of thinking meant to protect us from threats.
Even knowing you tend to think more negative thoughts than positive, you're still addicted to your thoughts. You might believe, “It’s not so bad being stuck in my head. Never a dull moment in there.”
But at some point, you need a break from the same, stultifying thoughts. You need to get some distance from them and refresh yourself.
And you know that the solution isn’t just to learn how to get something off your mind. It’s not the something that’s the problem; it’s the attention you keep giving it.