Why You Should Break the Law of Attraction

“A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.”  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you are reading my blog, you are likely interested in personal development and have read many books and blogs on various ways to feel better, get motivated,  be productive, overcome problems, and find your passion.

One topic that seems to have “attracted” a lot of attention is the law of attraction.

In short, the law of attraction suggests that like attracts like and that our thoughts control everything in our lives from our health to our finances.

If we send out the right thoughts to the universe, we will attract (manifest) all of the positive things to us we desire. And according to the law, negative events are the result of our negative or misguided thinking.

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Don’t Underestimate Yourself

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is ‘out there’ —as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~Byron Katie

You can do just about anything you set your mind to. And just about is plenty good for accomplishing more in life than you have time to accomplish.

Yes, there are some things in life that we won’t ever be able to achieve. I will never be a professional ballet dancer no matter how diligently I train. You may not get the specific job you want because the employer won’t hire you.

You may go after something with every confidence that you can achieve it, and then something unexpected prevents you.  Of course severe physical or emotional illness can hinder you. But these are the exceptions.

The rule is that there are millions of things you can accomplish.

When I coach clients, they often revert to the fallback position of over-examining their emotions. Emotions are important and have their place, but they are a smokescreen to taking action.

I try to refocus the client on action. Positive action always makes you feel better.  Even one tiny forward movement can be enough to turn around your entire outlook.

Here are some common feeling-charged thoughts that try to divert you from action:

  • It’s hard. I can’t do it.
  • I’m too lazy. I just don’t have the motivation.
  • I don’t really need to be doing this thing. I’m fine the way I am.
  • I’m feeling down right now. I can’t do anything when I feel this way.
  • I can’t afford to do that.
  • Something bad might happen. People won’t like me anymore. I’ll make them mad.
  • I failed at this before, so clearly I’m not capable.
  • I don’t deserve this. I’m just not good enough.

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Harness the Power of a Healthy Attitude

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”  ~Winston Churchill

Have you ever had someone say to you, “Change your attitude?” I find myself saying it frequently to my teenagers, and they look at me like I’ve asked them to morph into an alien. Bad attitude and teenagers go together like white on rice.

In spite of their age-appropriate resistance to a healthy attitude, I remind them that attitude is a choice. Regardless of your life circumstances, you always have to power to change your attitude. And what a power that is.

Your attitude is your disposition, your way of thinking, and the feelings that go along with those. A healthy attitude is characterized by a general sense of well-being and equanimity about life.

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The Simple Secret To Pain Relief

“If we really want to address the whole issue of suffering, as well as our desire and yearning for freedom, love, and connection, then we need to learn how to look clearly at our own minds.” ~Adyashanti

Last week I wrote an e-mail to the subscribers at Live Bold and Bloom with the invitation to share with me their top five worries, fears, or disappointments in life.

I requested this so that I could address some of these topics in my articles and future books and courses.I received hundreds of responses, many of which revealed very painful situations and concerns.

It became clear to me that all of us suffer with some degree of emotional pain and inner turmoil, whether or not we are generally satisfied with our lives.

This turmoil keeps us from reaching our fullest potential and engaging fully in life.

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How To Kill The Root Of A Limiting Belief



“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to questions them.” ~Anthony de Mello

You want to do it, but you don’t get it done. You promise yourself you’ll take action, but you are too afraid.

You want to be different, but you don’t know how. At the core of this failure to launch is a fear or belief that is holding you back.

For everything you wish you could do, be, or accomplish, you are just one thought (and a bucket full of feelings) away from unfettered success.

I’d go as far to say that 90% of the things you wish to accomplish could be accomplished — if it weren’t for limiting beliefs and the incredibly powerful feelings that fuel these beliefs.

The only person getting in your way is you.

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A Life Cleanse: Purge Yourself of a Toxic Mindset

“Cleanse your emotions, passions, impulses, attitudes, and reactions. That is the essence of spiritual discipline as laid down in all faiths.” ~Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Editor’s Note: This post originally appeared on my friend Katie Tallo’s blog, Momentum Gathering. Katie has just launched The 7-Week Life Cleanse, her beautiful new eBook. Click here to view more details

When you read the word “cleanse,” what comes to mind first? If we were playing a word association game, would the word “colon” pop right up? It does for me, but maybe I’m full of it.

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A 10-Step Guide to Boldly Break Through Your Limitations

“The  only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.”~ Arthur C. Clark

This is a guest post by Aileen Mahoney of Kaizen Vision.

How many times have you surprised yourself and done something you had once only hoped to do, or done something you thought was impossible?

Even though I’ve surprised myself many times, I can still get caught up in doubt. Often we think that once we achieve success or fulfill our dreams, we then get the prize of staying “there” for the rest of our lives.

Actually, there is no “there,” we’re always a work in progress with new heights to reach for and new breakthroughs before us.  

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