The Pivotal Differences Between Intrinsic And Extrinsic Motivation


Take a minute to think about the sources of your motivation. What makes you do the things you do?

Do you go to work to get a paycheck, or because you genuinely enjoy your job?

Do you drive the speed limit to avoid punishment, or because you value your safety and enjoy taking the time to take a break from everyday life in the car?

These are perfect examples that show the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

Many things can motivate you to do what you do, but the primary difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation is whether you are driven by an internal desire or by some external force that can be positive or negative.

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110 Of The Best Self-Improvement Books You’ll Ever Read

Best Self-Improvement Books

If you're a self-improvement junkie like I am, you're always looking for something inspiring and motivational to read.

Over the years, I've read hundreds of the best self-help books and have written a dozen or so myself.

Some of the most profound “aha” insights in my life have come as a result of what I've learned from these amazing self-growth books.

I firmly believe you should never stop learning and growing as a person. In fact, I like to challenge my own beliefs and assumptions and read the ideas and perspectives of others in order to stretch myself.

One thing I've learned as a personal coach is how every element of our lives impacts the rest of our lives. You can't change one area without it impacting everything else.

That's why it's important to grow and learn in all areas of your life — from your relationships to emotional well-being.

With that in mind, I've shared some of the best self-improvement books in a variety of self-development categories that are important to our overall happiness, peace of mind, and balance.

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6 Simple Ways To Become An Optimistic Person + An Attitude Quiz

Optimistic Person

Have you ever been so worried about something that just being around an upbeat person really pissed you off?

How can they be so positive when things are going so crappy for you? What do they have to be so happy about?

It does appear that some people are born optimists. The world can be falling down around them, but they still have a smile on their face and a spring in their step.

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The Ultimate List Of 97 Manners

List of Manners

When I was in my twenties, I moved from Atlanta to New York City for my career.

Every day, I'd take the bus from my brownstone on the Upper West Side to my office in midtown Manhattan. Every day, the bus was jam-packed with people, and you were lucky if you were able to snag a seat.

Most of the time, I held on to a pole or the back of a seat, swinging around like a monkey (wearing high heels) every time the bus lurched to a stop. On one lucky day, I did get a seat near the front of the bus.

Within a few minutes, the bus stopped again, the doors opened, and a hugely pregnant woman climbed on. The bus was packed as usual, and there were no available seats. I looked around at the dozen or so men seated nearby, and I swear to you, not one of them got up and offered their seat. Ultimately I offered mine.

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Do People Accuse You Of Being Highly Sensitive?

being too sensitive

“Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears.” ~Edgar Allen Poe

As long as I can remember, my hyper-sensitivity has been a running theme in my life.

When I was a child, I could easily pick up on the subtle undercurrents going on in my house. When the mood shifted from normal to tense, I was quick to notice it and quick to try to set things right. My mom called me “the little peacemaker.”

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