A Quick Guide to Paradoxical Intention

Welcome to the world of Paradoxical Intention, a wonderful technique pioneered by Victor Frankl who wrote a book called Man’s Search for Meaning (a definite must-read).

For anyone unfamiliar with him or his work, Viktor Frankl was a psychologist who was a Holocaust survivor and was in the concentration camps during World War II.

He ultimately lived to the age of 92.

His book is an account of his experiences while imprisoned, and the discoveries he made about human nature when we are put through such extreme and dire conditions.

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Simplify Happiness: 50 Easy Actions for Joyful Living

Are you waiting for happiness? Do you think you will find it when you make a certain amount of money, or achieve something big, or maybe find the perfect relationship? Happiness is at hand right now. It’s  right in front of you, but sometimes we miss it because we are so busy looking for it.

If you have attained some of those big things in life that you felt would bring you happiness, you might have found it — temporarily. Have you  noticed how once you get what you want, it’s wonderful for a while? But then you want something else, something bigger or better. You grow bored with the new thing or accomplishment.

It takes a lot of hard work and stress and worry to secure your happiness goals. And then, after all that work, the happiness begins to dissipate.

What if you didn’t have to work so hard for it? What if there were a simpler way to be happy?

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25 Mind Shifts Toward a Bold and Glorious Life

Try this little exercise for a moment. Think about your current life painted by a particular color.

The color reflects the tone and tenor of your days and moods.

So what color is your life? Is it a neutral shade, maybe tan or grey?

Or is it bold and vibrant like royal blue or bright yellow?

When we were babies and small children, I think we all had brilliantly hued lives. The world was one exciting new moment after another.

Everything was an adventure, a treasure, or something to be explored. We had occasional bumps in the road.

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How To Be A Grown-Up

At what age do you become a grown-up? Is it 18? 21? Maybe it’s when we get our first real job or get married and start raising a family. Those milestones certainly mark reaching adulthood. But do they mean we’ve grown up?

I’ve seen plenty of adults who behave like children.

I mean full-on with heading-spinning, foot stomping temper tantrums. Remember John McEnroe flinging his tennis racket and screaming at the line judge? His behavior was more entertaining than the tennis match. It was like watching a car wreck. But we didn’t respect him.

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