How To Cope With A Lack Of Empathy From Your Partner or Spouse

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A lack of empathy is one of the defining characteristics of low emotional intelligence.

To have empathy, you must put yourself in another person's shoes — to feel what they are feeling and seek to understand their perspective.

You must step outside of your own needs and feelings to be present and engaged with someone else.

Empathy calls for patience, active listening, intimacy, and selflessness.

It requires a generous and giving spirit and a true desire to sit with someone in their most difficult moments or share in their most joyous accomplishments.

Some people are naturally empathetic, but people who lack empathy can learn and reinforce the skills of empathy and compassion.

To do that, we must recognize its value not only in our relationships but also in our personal growth.

Practicing empathy expands our understanding of ourselves and others.

It connects us to the human condition — the suffering, the joys, the sorrows, and the longings we all share. It draws us closer to the people around us and frees us to be vulnerable and authentic with them.

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7 Stages Of Healing From Emotional Abuse

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You finally did it. You ended it.

You left your abuser after years of manipulation, verbal assaults, control, and unkindness. Now it's time to face the stages of healing from emotional abuse.

You had the courage to say, “Enough is enough,” and make the excruciating decision to say goodbye to this person you once loved, maybe even still love in spite of everything.

Part of you feels exhilarated.

You are free — free from walking on eggshells, feeling anxious in your own home, spending night after night wondering what you should do.

Your life is now your own.

But another part of you, maybe even the bigger part, feels devastated. All of your hopes and dreams about this relationship have crumbled to dust.

Nothing is ever going to change with this person, and you know it.

Your psyche, your self-esteem, and even your sense of who you are have been shattered by the person who was supposed to love and cherish you the most.

Maybe you beat yourself up over how you could have fallen for this manipulator in the first place. Why didn't you see it? How could you have stayed so long?

Maybe your heart aches from missing him or her, remembering the good times you had together — good memories that suddenly monopolize your thoughts now that you've decided to end things.

There are so many emotions, thoughts, and memories swirling around in your head that you don't know what is real, what is true, and what is right for you.

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29 Of The Most Blatant Signs of a Malignant Narcissist

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Have you ever known a malignant narcissist?

You may not know the term, but if you've encountered one, you will never forget this toxic personality.

Like all personality disorders, narcissism lies on a spectrum with various degrees of intensity and dimensions.

While some narcissistic traits are commonly seen in adolescents, this doesn't necessarily indicate that the individual will end up meeting the criteria for this disorder as an adult.

However, of those who do develop a narcissistic personality disorder, some lie on the far and most dangerous side of the spectrum which classifies them as “malignant narcissists.”

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35 Toxic Personality Traits To Be Aware Of

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If you’re here, chances are you’re no stranger to toxic traits.

You might be picturing someone right now, remembering something they’ve said or done recently. 

Toxic traits in a person generally show up whenever someone defies them, disagrees with them, or fails to show them the respect and humble obedience they believe they deserve.

Everyone but the toxic personality pays a heavier price to keep the peace

But what traits make someone a toxic person? 

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