What Is Empathy And How Does It Differ From Sympathy?

What Is Empathy

Have you ever had someone acknowledge and reflect back to you what you’re feeling so perfectly that it made you tear up?

Has someone ever taken the time to sit with you quietly in your grief and just hold your hand?

Have you ever told someone your story, shared your pain, or acknowledged your shame, and they teared up in response to the powerful feelings you were expressing?

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How To Write Your Manifesto

How to Write Your Manifesto

Check out anyone’s Facebook page, and you’ll get a story of who they are. Yes, a story, but not necessarily the real picture. Not the manifesto of their lives or the depths of their souls.

What we put out to the world and how we present ourselves is just the overcoat of our true selves. It’s the glossy surface of the deeper, more complicated, and frankly more interesting people we really are.

I find people with histories, baggage, flaws, and regrets far more compelling than those who lives appear perfect and “normal” — whatever that is. Give me a messed up soul who’s examined their lives and can embrace their flaws over the veneered perfectionist whose mask never slips any day.

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What Should I Do With My Life? 36 Steps To Find Out

Whether you’re 16 or 60, or any age for that matter, you will bump up against this question at some point: “What should I do with my life?”

There’s nothing quite so daunting as asking yourself this question only to see a vast emptiness ahead of you. How do you know what to do when you have no idea where you’re going?

Even if you’re gainfully employed in a respectable career, you could still be thinking, “I don’t know what to do with my life.”

So many people lose touch with who and what they want to be because they’ve been so busy doing what the think they’re supposed to do — only to find themselves unfulfilled and bored.

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The Benefits Of A Standing Desk And Why You Must Get Off Your Butt

Benefits of a Standing Desk

I do a lot of sitting with my work.

My entire business is online, and I spend the vast majority of my work day on my computer.

The studies that have come out in the last few years about the health dangers of sitting so much have really started to bother me. Research links sitting for long periods (whether at work, in front of the TV, or in your car) with obesity, cardiovascular disease, and cancer.

The research shows that men who sit six hours or more a day have a death rate 20 percent higher than men who sit for three hours or less. And alarmingly, for women, it’s 40 percent higher.

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INFJ Relationships: 8 Reasons They Are Extraordinary And Powerful

INFJ Relationships

Are you an INFJ personality type?

If so, you are one of the rarest personality types of all. INFJs make up about one to three percent of the total population.

That means when someone becomes involved with you, they are connecting with a unique, perceptive, complex, and sometimes mysterious personality.

As an INFJ, relationships are especially important to you, so it’s essential that you understand yourself and what you need in a partner.

Your personality type definitely influences how you relate to other people, and understanding your type can make a huge difference in your choice of friends and romantic partners.

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How To Save Your Marriage

How to Save a Marriage

Let me state upfront that I wasn’t able to save mine.

After more than 20 years together, and with three amazing children, my former husband and I ended up apart.

Divorce is not a happy option most of the time. It is gut-wrenching and painful and should be entered into after serious and lengthy consideration and sincere efforts to work out whatever your issues might be.

Not every marriage can be saved, but many can be, even after some very difficult and divisive challenges. I’d like to share with you how you can save yours if you are considering ending it, or if it is really on the skids and you don’t know what to do.

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201 Relationship Questions: Build Trust And Intimacy With My New Book

Relationship Questions

Are you married or in a committed relationship?

Do you desire a close, emotionally intimate, loving connection with your partner or spouse?

If so, creating this relationship is one of the best things you can do for your overall happiness and satisfaction in life. According to a study published in the December 2011 edition of the Journal of Happiness Studies, “”Having a satisfying romantic relationship is important for retaining and increasing future life satisfaction.” Says psychologist and relationship expert Arthur Aron in an interview with Tech Insider, “The single biggest predictor of human happiness is the quality of [a person’s] relationships.”

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Building Confidence: 20 Personal Growth Experts Share Their Advice

I’ve had plenty of times of low confidence in my life.

I’m sure you have as well.

Maybe you’re dealing with a lack of confidence right now in some part of your life.

Unlike self-esteem, which relates more to your essential worth as a person, confidence relates to your feelings about your abilities and capacity for success. You can have plenty of self-esteem but not feel very confident in some specific area.

Maybe you’re not happy with your appearance. You don’t feel on top of your game at work. You’re coming off a big failure and feel reticent to move forward. You’re lacking skill or expertise and don’t feel you can compete. You feel insecure about your judgment or intuition. You’re uncomfortable putting yourself out there, taking a risk, or appearing foolish.

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