Being A Good Person Every Day

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When I think about the mistakes I've made, the unkind words I've spoken, the opportunities I've let slip by, the unhealthy mindsets I've fostered — it makes me want to hang my head in shame.

On too many occasions, I have not acted as my best self, the self I want to be. The self I know I'm capable of being. On too many occasions, I have accepted mediocre, I've stood by when I should have acted, I've said “no” to life when I could have said “yes.”

If there is any grace in this humbling admission, it's the knowledge that I'm not alone. Failing to live up to expectations, our own or that of others is part of the human condition.

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10 Ways To Snap Out Of Apathy

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If there’s such a thing as a “belly-up” emotion, apathy fits the bill.

Apathy is actually defined as the absence of emotion.

It’s white noise. Dead air. You feel like a chunk of flavorless tofu. Not happy. Not sad. Not angry. And certainly not passionate.

You’ve probably heard people say they knew they were out of love when they no longer got angry. The relationship had flat-lined, love had disappeared, and it wasn’t worth the effort of anger anymore.

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How To Start Over In Life: 10 Ways To Reinvent Yourself

How to start over in life

I am in a brand new phase of life. I never thought I would arrive here, but here I am.

I could have chosen to resist, to cling to the status quo, but instead, I've decided to embrace the change and set off on a new adventure.

As of last week when my youngest daughter graduated from high school, I am officially an empty nester. She heads off to college in a couple of months, and her departure marks the official end of my day-to-day parenting role. It is a bitter-sweet phase, one that is natural and expected but tinged with sadness nonetheless.

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How To Simplify Your Life: 50 Actions To Foster Peace And Contentment

Simplify Your Life

“It all depends on whether you have things, or they have you.” ~Robert A. Cook

As I'm writing this post, I'm in the process of moving.

I've lived in the same house for nearly twenty years, and now my house has sold, and I'm moving to Asheville, North Carolina in two weeks.

It was a hard decision to leave this house that I love so much, the home where I raised my kids. Change is difficult. Letting go is difficult. But over the last year as I've prepared for this move, I've realized what a positive step I'm taking.

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The Ultimate List of Core Values And How To Find Yours

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Your core values are the guiding principles of your life that help you determine your behavior, words, and actions.

It's essential to your personal evolution to take stock of your values on a regular basis, and then make the necessary changes to align your life with these most important core values (also called personal values).

Living in harmony with your core values creates a fertile environment for happinesspeace of mind, and success because you are living authentically without confusion, guilt, or shame.

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Change Your Life By Becoming Your Own CEO

Change Your Life

There have been periods in my life when I was unhappy and flailing.

Sometimes outside circumstances were the cause of my unhappiness — the death of a loved one, an unexpected and unwanted life change, or the painful behaviors of people close to me. Many of these outside events occurred in my youth or young adulthood, during a time of life when I had little control of events around me.

As a result, I believed that happiness in life rested on the ability to dodge unpleasant events. If you could avoid the land mines that caused so much disruption and pain, you had a hope for happiness. Of course, this requires you to live a contained life. If you venture too far outside of the safety zone, into uncharted territory, you might step on one of those land mines.

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Angry People: 10 Ways To Deal With Hotheads

Angry People


“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.” – Carl Jung

Several years ago, I was sitting in on a management meeting for one of my public relations clients. The executive director of the organization asked the marketing director a question, to which she made a reply he apparently didn't like.

In front of the entire management team, as well as me (a part-time consultant), he ripped her a new one. He didn't just speak sternly to her. He yelled, cursed, and reduced the woman to tears. His angry reaction was so wildly out-of-proportion to the situation that I was stunned and appalled. But what was even more stunning was the reaction of everyone around the table.

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Unhappy Marriage: How To Decide Whether To Stay Or Go

Unhappy Marriage

You roll over in bed in the morning and look at the person lying next to you.

Is this the person you thought you married? Do you feel anything close to the connection and intimacy you felt when you were first together?

Perhaps now all you feel is angry or irritated. Maybe you're hurt, bored, or unfulfilled. Worse yet, maybe you feel nothing at all.

One thing you do know for sure is that you aren't happy. Your marriage isn't what you want it to be, and it's infecting your entire life. How can you be happy when this central piece of your life is on the skids?

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