Fear of Rejection? 8 Surprisingly Effective Remedies

Fear Of Rejection

The fear of rejection is one of the most basic parts of being human.

We all need to feel that we are a part of something larger and  valued for who we are.

Our need for belonging is so strong that we all feel intense pain when we are excluded.

In fact, we cannot survive without one another. The need for connection is one of the deepest human instincts.

According to a landmark paper by psychologists Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary, "Belongingness appears to have multiple and strong effects on emotional patterns and on cognitive processes. Lack of attachments is linked to a variety of ill effects on health, adjustment, and well-being."

It's no wonder that the thought of rejection is so daunting. We understand on a deep and visceral level what the costs of being shut out can be.

Everyone is afraid of rejection, but sometimes the fear can get out of hand. It can affect your decision-making and even dictate the direction of your life.

It can certainly impact the quality of your relationships when your anxiety is obvious to those around you.

Dwelling on this fear can prevent you from socializing or developing close relationships in order to protect yourself from rejection.

Here are 8 strategies to help you overcome your fear of rejection:


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