Don’t You Just Hate Manipulators? 13 Ways To Put One In Their Place

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Perhaps it’s a colleague, friend, parent, or partner.

Whichever the case, you’ve landed here because you’re dealing with a manipulator and want to push back. 

Are there tricks?

How do you recognize one?

For that matter, what makes manipulative people the way they are?

What about ghosting (the act of cutting off all communication without warning)?

Does that get them off your back?

Get comfortable because we’ve got answers.

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Narcissist Hoovering: 11 Signs You’re Being Sucked Back Into A Toxic Relationship And What To Do About It

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Did you recently break things off with a narcissistic partner?

Are you just as stressed now as you were together?

Are they still “up in your grill” — poking around, hovering around your life, and hoovering every ounce of positivity you manage to grasp? 

Why do they do it?

Since narcissists are controlling, manipulative, and self-centered, they often can’t handle when someone pulls away from them. 

So let’s unpack why narcissists hoover and what you can do about it.

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29 Of The Most Blatant Signs of a Malignant Narcissist

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Have you ever known a malignant narcissist?

You may not know the term, but if you’ve encountered one, you will never forget this toxic personality.

Like all personality disorders, narcissism lies on a spectrum with various degrees of intensity and dimensions.

While some narcissistic traits are commonly seen in adolescents, this doesn’t necessarily indicate that the individual will end up meeting the criteria for this disorder as an adult.

However, of those who do develop a narcissistic personality disorder, some lie on the far and most dangerous side of the spectrum which classifies them as “malignant narcissists.”

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Things Were Going Great And Then He Ghosted You: 11 Likely Reasons Why

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One day, everything is going great between you and the guy you’re dating.

The next day, he vanishes.

He’s nowhere to be found, and you’re left with the question: “Is he ghosting me?”

Because of technology, ghosting has reached epidemic levels and shows no signs of stopping; as such, building resilience to protect your self-esteem has become a must.

After all, ghosting can hurt.

To that end, let’s talk about what ghosting is and why people do it.

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9 Top Signs A Narcissist Is Really Finished With You

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If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that when a narcissist leaves you, very often they come back and start the whole cycle over again.

Narcissists groom their targets for the idealize-devalue-discard-hoover cycle.

They know the effect this has on neurotransmitters like dopamine. It’s intentional.

They want you to feel as though no matter how badly they treat you, you need them around to feel “happy.” 

So, how do you know a narcissist is finished with you? And are they ever really done? 

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You’ve Been Provoked Into Reactive Abuse: Protect Yourself From The Narcissistic Tactics That Can Harm You

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Let’s talk about reactive abuse — or reactionary abuse. 

A form of gaslighting, reactive abuse is when one person intentionally provokes another into intense, adverse reactions. 

It can be emotional, psychological, or physical — and in many cases, reactive abuse is an unconscious, reflexive instinct

Is it harmful?

What types of people engage in the practice?

Why do they do it? How can you stop the cycle of reactive abuse?

Settle in — because we’re unpacking it all below.

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31 Ending a Bad Relationship Quotes To Help You Assess The Damage And Move On

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You finally ended an awful relationship and feel like a sad sack of mixed emotions and raw confusion.

Regret. Hurt. Anger. Sadness.

These are normal reactions to the end of a love affair gone sour. 

You keep asking yourself, “Why did I hang on so long? What went so wrong when we were once so in love?” 

Every painful relationship has its core issues.

Even though your partner may be primarily at fault, now is a great time to see what you can learn from this train wreck, so you don’t drag the carnage into your next relationship.

We have a small life raft to throw you here with our collection of quotes about bad relationships and moving on.

Grab hold and see if we can breathe some life into that broken heart of yours.

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Crazy Making Behavior: When Your Partner Manipulates To Make You Doubt Yourself

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You’re in a relationship with someone who makes you feel off balance and disconnected from reality — as well as from the people you used to count on for support.

It’s gotten so bad you hear yourself justifying his behavior and questioning your own perception.

If he says you’re “crazy” or “losing your grip on reality,” then maybe you are.

Maybe he’s just the first one to notice and to care enough to say something. And if you can believe that, he can get away with anything.

The abuser and the abused can be either male or female, so I don’t use the male pronoun to call out men in particular.

Crazy-making abuse has more to do with personality, which is a combination of nature and environment.

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