Does He Love Me? 23 Clear Signs He Does
Are you in a relationship that you think is going well, but you aren't exactly positive the feeling is mutual?
Do you find yourself wondering, “Is he in love with me?” You know that you're in love with your man, but does he love you back?
We all can get insecure at times, especially when it comes to being vulnerable in a relationship and risking getting hurt. It's natural to seek reassurance that your partner is truly in love with you if he hasn't yet said those three little words — or even if they have been spoken.
Sometimes subtle behaviors or words can make you wonder if your guy feels as intensely about you as you do about him.
It's easy to interpret distraction for disinterest or a bad mood for irritation with you. But reading the tea leaves and trying to guess whether or not your man is head over heels isn't going to clarify things for you.
You need to know the proven signs that his love is real to feel confident the relationship is on the right track.
Does He Love Me Or Not? 23 Signals That He Does
1. He deeply communicates with you to show he loves you.
Communication is the first key to connecting and one of the signs he's falling for you. If your man loves you, he will want to share the details of his day with you along with his deepest thoughts and desires.
He will also want to hear about what is going on in your life and makes the effort to keep the lines of communication open at all times.
Some guys are more communicative than others, but if he makes the effort to let you into his inner world and seems genuinely interested in yours, then you can feel good about his feelings for you.
2. He makes eye contact with you to show he loves you.
This may seem like the smallest thing, but it is a sure sign that he genuinely cares. If he looks into your eyes when you are talking, you know he is paying attention to you.
Especially when you really want to have a deep discussion, if he gives you his full attention and turns his body towards you, this shows that he is invested in what you are saying.
Eye contact alone may not spell love, but when he looks in your eyes, do you see the depth of his feelings reflected? Is there adoration and tenderness in his expression.
These are sure signs that he is falling in love with you.
3. He shows he loves you by giving to you.
True love is about giving. When you love someone, you want to give them your all — and this isn't about material possessions.
You want to give to the person you love by being the best partner you can be, by making them happy, by enhancing their lives in some way.
Love comes across in actions. If you wonder, “Does he really love me or is he using me?” the biggest hint you will get is through the actions that he shows to indicate that he wants to give you everything he can.
Generosity and selflessness become natural when you love someone. You want to put your beloved first. If your guy is giving, he is also loving.
4. He makes you his priority to show he loves you.
Everyone's schedule is overloaded with work, school, or other commitments. If a man is in love with you, he will make you a priority in his life.
If he truly doesn’t have time to spend with you one day, he will make an effort to let you know as soon as he is free. When a man is in love with you, he makes sure to make room in his life for you because you are his first priority.
Some guys may say they are in love but then become physically or emotionally unavailable. You get mixed messages that are confusing and make you feel insecure.
Your man will want to spend time with you (maybe not 24/7) because he is so thrilled to be in your presence.
5. He asks you for advice to show he loves you.
You’ll know that your guy is in love with you if he shows you that he values your opinion by asking for your advice and input. No matter what size the issue is, he will ask you what you think because he respects you.
And respect and love go hand-in-hand.
While he has other people in his life, if a man is in love, he will value your opinion more than those of others. He always wants to please you by making the right choices, and he knows that you won't lead him in the wrong direction.
6. He sends you morning messages to show he loves you.
When you are the first thing that pops into his mind in the morning, that's when you know the answer to “Does he love me?” is a resounding “Yes!”
Some guys may try to hold back their feelings and resist the urge to reach out to you first thing in the morning, but if your man is in love, he won't feel the need to hold his feelings back.
He is so smitten that he wants to connect with you to start his day off with a dose of happiness. He doesn't need to play it cool because he feels safe enough with you to be vulnerable and tender.
7. He wants you to be a part of his life and his future shows he loves you.
He wants to get to know your family and your friends, and he wants them to like and approve of him.
He reaches out to try to get to know them and make a positive first impression. He also tries to get to know you better by asking about your hobbies and passions to connect with you on a deeper level.
He also wants to bring you into his life and introduce you to all of the people who are important to him.
He wants everyone he cares about to love you as much as he does.
He also includes you when he is talking about the future and his larger life plans. When he mentions his goals for the next year or five years, you are part of the plan — or at least he hints at that.
He can't imagine a future without you in it.
8. He checks up on you throughout the day to show he loves you.
Once you're in love, you start to care about your partner as much as you care about yourself.
You follow up with them after you know they just took a tough exam or had to go to a stressful meeting. You want to hear if their day is going smoothly, or you simply want to hear their voice.
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9. He remembers things to show he loves you.
When a guy isn’t serious about you, he won't make an effort to remember your birthday or the tiny little bits of information that you tell him, like how you take your coffee in the morning.
He may care about you, but he’s not looking to put in the extra effort required to really know you and pay attention to your likes and dislikes.
When a man actually remembers the small things that are significant to you in some way, know that he’s listening to everything you are saying, and he is falling in love with you in the process.
If you wonder, “Does he love me or is he using me?” then pay attention to his willingness to learn about you and cherish you by remembering the small things.
10. He misses you when you're gone shows he loves you.
Men tend to realize what they have in a woman when are given a bit of distance.
He can show you all the affection in the world in person, but what is going on in his head in your absence? Does he call you to tell you he misses you, or does he go off the grid for days on end and then apologize for being busy?
When you are in love, you yearn for your partner's presence and miss them when you're apart. This doesn't mean that you are actively thinking about them every minute, but the thought of your partner is always lingering in your mind.
When something happens, you want to tell them, or if something reminds you of them, you think about what they're doing.
If he is in love, he’ll be in touch and tell you about something funny that happened to him that made him think of you.
11. He will go out of his way to make your life easier to show he loves you.
Men will inconvenience themselves just to help out the woman they love.
He might drive out of his way to pick you up if you need a ride, or he'll go to the store and pick up whatever you need without you having to beg him to do so.
He doesn't mind the extra effort on your behalf because it pleases him to please you.
12. He is visibly happy to see you shows he loves you.
Love makes people happy. Love is joy. When you're full of great memories and thoughts of a great future together, you perpetually wear a huge smile on your face.
If he smiles from ear to ear and lights up whenever he sees you, he's clearly in love with you. You add sparkle to his life and make him feel happy and alive.
13. He protects you to show he loves you.
He has you walk on the inside of the sidewalk so if a car were to swerve, his body would be protecting yours. He makes sure you are taken care of if you feel ill, and he checks on you and is always there when you need him.
If a man puts you ahead of himself, it means he loves you and is invested in your well-being.
He doesn't have to be a fighter to flip a switch when you're in danger. He responds quickly to anything that is threatening you.
14. He shares with you to show he loves you.
If your man gives you the side of the bed that you prefer, even though it's also his preferred side, it shows that he's putting your wants ahead of his own.
If he gives you the larger part of a sandwich, the last bite of dessert, the window seat on the airplane, he is doing this because he believes that you're his better half, and he adores you.
This isn't just about sharing — it is also about giving. To the man who loves you, giving you more than he has himself is the same as if he were keeping it for himself. Seeing you happy and satisfied makes him happy.
15. He keeps you in the know to show he loves you.
If a man loves you, he will keep you in the loop, even if it isn't necessary.
For example, if you send him a message and don't hear back for two hours, he will apologize for the delay in response and say he was in a meeting or was away from his phone for whatever reason.
Even if you don't need an explanation for something, your man will show you that he cares and is considerate of your feelings.
He doesn't want you to think he was ignoring you or there was something going on in his life that was more important to him than you are.
16. He likes to be close to you shows he loves you.
Some men won't show non-sexual affection if they don't feel love. A guy may hold you close during sexual intimacy, but once you're done, you are likely to find him inching away to the other side of the bed.
However, when a man is in love, he wants to hold you closely throughout the night and finds reasons to touch you during the day.
He will want to increase the amount of physical contact and affection he has with you to show you how much he cares.
Remember, some guys are more naturally affectionate than others, so a lack of affection doesn't necessarily mean he isn't in love. But some affection and non-sexual touch is a good sign of his feelings for you.
17. He changes his habits to show he loves you.
If a guy loves you, he will ditch some habits to make you happy.
Maybe he is a smoker but he knows that smoking bothers you so he quits, or perhaps he is used to going out with the guys on Thursday nights but that's the night you're home so he starts staying home with you instead.
If a man is willing to mold his life around you, it is because he sees you as being a long-term part of his life.
18. He tells you his secrets to show he loves you.
Men can be private people and reticent to talk openly about feelings and insecurities. Men don't spill their personal information easily– especially if it's deeply private or painful.
People often keep secrets for fear that they will be judged by others, but if he is comfortable enough with you to give you to be open and authentic, it means he trusts you and loves you enough to be vulnerable around you.
19. You make him proud shows he loves you.
He brags to his friends and family about your achievements or the great things you are doing with your life.
He is proud to be able to call you his partner, and he wants other people to know how great you are too.
When you achieve a goal or accomplish something, he shows you that he truly cares and is happy for you. He doesn't get threatened or jealous of your achievements.
20. He will make you feel better if something is wrong shows he loves you.
Everyone goes through mood swings. Even if your mood swings are strong, if your man loves you, he will work through the tough times with you and not judge you for having a bad day.
Instead, heal will listen and support you, or he will find a way to make you laugh. A loving partner will know when to give you your space and when to come back.
He will not get annoyed if you snap at him, but rather he will be understanding and patient.
21. He makes his plans around you to show he loves you.
A friend is coming in from out of town in two weeks — but he checks with you first to make sure that the two of you don't have plans before telling his long-lost friend that he is available.
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He won't start planning a trip before making sure that you can get the same time off work, and he definitely won't look at new apartments when his lease runs up without consulting with you first.
22. He performs random acts of kindness to show he loves you.
You probably weren't expecting to come home to flowers, but he knows that you love them and he wanted to see you smile.
You also weren't expecting to wake up to your favorite coffee from the local café on your bedside table, but he wanted to start your day off right.
He finds small ways to make you happy, even if they seem insignificant. These small acts of kindness are a sure sign that love is in the air.
23. He won't give up shows he loves you.
Want to know how to tell if he loves you? He puts all of his efforts into the relationship and commits to making it work. He isn't willing to give up on you without a fight.
Even if you show him your worst side and think there is no way anyone would want to be with you after behaving badly, he won't give up on your relationship.
When a man loves you, he will never leave you hanging — not because he has to stay by your side, but because he wants to.
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Are you still thinking, “How do I know if he loves me?”
If you can relate to a few of the items of this list, your man is in love with you. Try to let go of your insecurities and enjoy the relationship that you are in.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable, as it doesn't look like he has plans to break your heart anytime soon. And remember that love is a process, not a destination. Allow your relationship to unfold naturally and love will reveal itself natural as well.
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