Don’t Underestimate Yourself

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is ‘out there’ —as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~Byron Katie

You can do just about anything you set your mind to. And just about is plenty good for accomplishing more in life than you have time to accomplish.

Yes, there are some things in life that we won’t ever be able to achieve. I will never be a professional ballet dancer no matter how diligently I train. You may not get the specific job you want because the employer won’t hire you.

You may go after something with every confidence that you can achieve it, and then something unexpected prevents you.  Of course severe physical or emotional illness can hinder you. But these are the exceptions.

The rule is that there are millions of things you can accomplish.

When I coach clients, they often revert to the fallback position of over-examining their emotions. Emotions are important and have their place, but they are a smokescreen to taking action.

I try to refocus the client on action. Positive action always makes you feel better.  Even one tiny forward movement can be enough to turn around your entire outlook.

Here are some common feeling-charged thoughts that try to divert you from action:

  • It’s hard. I can’t do it.
  • I’m too lazy. I just don’t have the motivation.
  • I don’t really need to be doing this thing. I’m fine the way I am.
  • I’m feeling down right now. I can’t do anything when I feel this way.
  • I can’t afford to do that.
  • Something bad might happen. People won’t like me anymore. I’ll make them mad.
  • I failed at this before, so clearly I’m not capable.
  • I don’t deserve this. I’m just not good enough.

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Harness the Power of a Healthy Attitude

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”  ~Winston Churchill

Have you ever had someone say to you, “Change your attitude?” I find myself saying it frequently to my teenagers, and they look at me like I’ve asked them to morph into an alien. Bad attitude and teenagers go together like white on rice.

In spite of their age-appropriate resistance to a healthy attitude, I remind them that attitude is a choice. Regardless of your life circumstances, you always have to power to change your attitude. And what a power that is.

Your attitude is your disposition, your way of thinking, and the feelings that go along with those. A healthy attitude is characterized by a general sense of well-being and equanimity about life.

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The Way To Begin A New Beginning

“Begin today. Declare out loud to the universe that you are willing to let go of struggle and eager to learn through joy.” ~Sarah Van Breathnach

This time of year is about beginnings.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve  watched the tree outside my office window go from bare to leaf-laden. The same pair of birds has once again built a nest in the porch light by my front door, as they do every spring.

Flowers are bursting out on trees as though a conductor has lifted a baton to signal a symphony of color.

For those who will celebrate Easter this Sunday, it’s also a reminder of the opportunity we have  to renew ourselves, to start over, to begin again.

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The Simple Secret To Pain Relief

“If we really want to address the whole issue of suffering, as well as our desire and yearning for freedom, love, and connection, then we need to learn how to look clearly at our own minds.” ~Adyashanti

Last week I wrote an e-mail to the subscribers at Live Bold and Bloom with the invitation to share with me their top five worries, fears, or disappointments in life.

I requested this so that I could address some of these topics in my articles and future books and courses.I received hundreds of responses, many of which revealed very painful situations and concerns.

It became clear to me that all of us suffer with some degree of emotional pain and inner turmoil, whether or not we are generally satisfied with our lives.

This turmoil keeps us from reaching our fullest potential and engaging fully in life.

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A Proven 10-Step Guide To Having More Fun In Your Life

Fun is underrated.

As adults, our lives are complicated and often very serious.

We are involved in the serious business of grown-up stuff.

We work hard. We support our families. We worry about money and higher prices.

We fret about the condition of the world, politics, our children. We have endless chores and tasks without much time for fun.

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4 Cool Careers That Don’t Take Years of Training

A few years ago, I wanted to start over with my career. I’d been in public relations off and on for over 25 years. When my oldest child left home, I had more time to devote to building my career, but I just couldn’t get jazzed about cranking up my PR consultancy.

I have changed over the years. My interests and values have shifted. I loved working in public relations when I was younger and childless. I got to travel, work with celebrities and fashion, live in New York, and meet all kinds of interesting people.

As the years passed by, these things didn’t mean as much to me anymore. I knew something was missing in my work life, but I didn’t know what career would be rewarding and fulfilling for me.

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100 Ways To Show Your Love To Him


“Oh, men don’t notice what they got. Oh, women think of that a lot A thousand ways to please your man (oh-ho). Not even one requires a plan.” ~from the song “You Only Live Once” by The Strokes

OK ladies, now it’s your turn to show your love to that wonderful guy. There might be a thousand ways to please your man that don’t require a plan.

But in the light of day, thoughtful and loving planning will help your relationship flourish and bloom. An amazing relationship doesn’t just happen. It needs your full attention.

If you are passive about tending to the garden of your love with your guy, weeds are going to grow in the form of bitterness, boredom, and resentment.

Have a plan – take the time to understand what your beloved needs and wants. Know what makes him happy and work to create more of that in your life.

Today and every day after, come up with a plan. Have your gardening tools handy and your watering can full.

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The 4 Essential Ingredients For Healthy Relationships

woman and man talking dinner relationship questions to ask

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~Carl Jung

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Char Elle En

I once heard an hilarious quip on Saturday Night Live that said:
“I want to save the world for my children, but not for my children’s children,
because I don’t think children should be having sex.”

Sometimes when I’m working with couples, whether they’re married, in a committed long-term relationship, heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or whatever, I feel like I’m working with children.

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