Why You Should Break the Law of Attraction

“A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.”  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you are reading my blog, you are likely interested in personal development and have read many books and blogs on various ways to feel better, get motivated,  be productive, overcome problems, and find your passion.

One topic that seems to have “attracted” a lot of attention is the law of attraction.

In short, the law of attraction suggests that like attracts like and that our thoughts control everything in our lives from our health to our finances.

If we send out the right thoughts to the universe, we will attract (manifest) all of the positive things to us we desire. And according to the law, negative events are the result of our negative or misguided thinking.

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99 Ways to Feel Good About Yourself Right Now


Isn’t it sad how much time we spend putting ourselves down?

If we had a nickel for every time we felt inferior, stupid, unattractive, or unworthy, most of us would be millionaires.

We land on this Earth full of exuberance and wonder. All we need is a little food, a little comfort, and a clean bottom. But if we are deprived of those things, or if later on we are told we don’t measure up in some way, we learn to feel “less than.”

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What You Absolutely Must Know About Millions of Girls

Were you once a young teenage girl, or do you have a daughter or a niece? What was life like for you then? What was (or is) life like for your daughter or niece?

My 14-year-old daughter went to her homecoming dance this weekend.

She wore a beautiful dress that I paid for and went to a friend’s 5000 square foot mini-mansion to get dressed and take pictures before the dance.

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Mindfulness, Oprah, and the Smiling Meditation of Thich Nhat Hahn

“Breathing in I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile.” ~Thich Nhat Hahn

There is more power in a smile than you may have ever contemplated.

Yesterday I was driving to pick my daughter up from school and tuned in to Oprah Radio on XM radio.

I was delighted to hear an interview she was conducting (from 2010) with Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hahn (pronounced tic not han). He is called “Thay” (teacher in Vietnamese) by his students. For the sake of brevity, this is what I’ll call him in this post.

In a discussion about happiness, Thay said something to Oprah that opened a new level of awareness for me, and I hope for you.

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A Midlife Anti-Crisis: Transform Upheaval Into Renewal

Looking at some statistics on the demographic of my readers, I see that many of you are either approaching midlife or smack in the middle of it. Welcome to my world.

I’m not quite sure what midlife is any more.

When I was born, life expectancy was an average of somewhere around 70 years old. Now it’s around 80. And new advances in science and technology are suggesting that living to 100 or beyond is not so far-fetched anymore.

So if you are anywhere from 35-55, you could be considered middle aged.

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10 Critical Reasons Why You Should Not Be Productive

Do you have a list?

I bet you do, even if it’s not written down.

You probably have your list of immediate work things that must be done and your list of big picture work things you want to do — when you have time.

Then there’s your list of regular tasks at home, your list of appointments to schedule, your list of regularly occurring maintenance tasks for yourself, your home, your car, etc.

There’s the list of things you’ve promised your kids, your spouse, your neighbor, your church, and your parents.

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When Real Life Gets in the Way of Your Dreams

At this very moment, I should be on a plane to Italy.

My friend Katie Tallo (of Momentum Gathering) and I have planned this trip for six months. We were going to stay first at our friend Diana Baur’s amazing bed and breakfast in Acqui Terme in Northern Italy.

Then we were going to spend a few days on Lake Como near the border of Italy and Switzerland.

Needless to say, we were beyond excited. Both of us had our luggage packed, flights booked, car rented, accommodations arranged.

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