99 Ways to Feel Good About Yourself Right Now

Young woman laying on dry leaves and enjoying life

Isn’t it sad how much time we spend putting ourselves down?

If we had a nickel for every time we felt inferior, stupid, unattractive, or unworthy, most of us would be millionaires.

We land on this Earth full of exuberance and wonder. All we need is a little food, a little comfort, and a clean bottom. But if we are deprived of those things, or if later on we are told we don’t measure up in some way, we learn to feel “less than.”

With enough negative reinforcement from others and ourselves, we become trained to see only our flaws and failures. Everything else fades into the background or has just a fleeting positive impact on our self-esteem.

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If we’ve become trained to feel bad about ourselves, is it possible to retrain ourselves to feel good? Can we unlearn old beliefs and refocus our attention to see our own beauty and worthiness?

Yes, yes, yes!

It is not only possible, it’s imperative for our mental and physical health. Our well-being and happiness hinge on our ability to have positive self-esteem.

We desperately long for for an exit ramp out of the land of self-loathing.

Fortunately, our minds and hearts are malleable, and we can learn to love and accept ourselves. It is exhausting to live up to illusory expectations and disappointments. But with a combination of positive thought and positive action, you can lead yourself out of the dark side and into the light.

As with any new skill or new habit, you must start small and practice regularly. It may feel unnatural at first, but as you change your thoughts and actions, your feelings will follow.

You don’t have to wait to start feeling good about yourself. You can start with small, simple life actions every day that will help you see yourself for the awesome and amazing person you are.

Want some ideas? Here are 99 ways to feel good about yourself right now:

1. Call your mother. For most of us, this is the person who loves us the most and has our back. Ask her for some positive words. If not mom, then call that someone who is your support person.

2. Look in the mirror. Instead of finding your physical flaws, look at your best features. Your eyes? Your hair? Your smile? Focus on that for a minute and be grateful for it.

3. Write a love note. Let someone you care about know how you feel. Spill your guts. Be mushy. Sharing your love makes you feel lovable.

4. List your accomplishments. Go on, write them down. Everything from winning the spelling bee to completing a project on time. Write down anything you can think of that you feel proud about. Look at you!

5. Clear your desk. It clears your brain. It helps you think and opens the creative channels. Now you’re buzzing. And you have a nice clean desk.

6. Do 5 minutes of exercise. Yes, 5 minutes. It’s not intimidating, but it will get the ball rolling. Even a little bit of exercise will boost your energy and could be the start of a routine for you.

7. Meditate or pray. Go within. Let your ego drop away. Just be and step outside of self-judgement for a few minutes.

8. Fix your hair and make-up. Darn if it doesn’t make you feel better. When you look your best, you see yourself differently.

9. Apologize. If you’ve done something wrong, apologize. Guilt and shame are such unhealthy emotions. Take care of this right away.

10. Find something to give away. If you have something you don’t need or use, and it might be something someone else might need or use, give it to them. It feels good — like good Karma.

11. Lift someone’s spirits. You can turn around bad feelings about yourself right away when you channel your energy into making someone feel good about themselves. It’s crazy how that works.

12. Change one thing. If there’s something really bothering you about yourself, then pick one small action to change it and do that now. Go ahead. Just a little thing.


13. Write an affirmation. Find the thing that makes you feel really lousy about yourself. Now turn it around and state the opposite. There IS truth in the opposite. So write that down and repeat it until you believe it. Carry it around with you.

14. Dance in front of a mirror. How can you feel bad about yourself when you are dancing in front of the mirror? I mean really, just look at yourself.

15. Phone a friend. What are friends but walking, talking antidepressants? One dose of friend a day, and you are good to go!

16. Talk to yourself (like a friend). No friends home? Then be your own friend. How would a friend talk to you about your perceived faults? Have that conversation with yourself, and be a really loving supportive friend.

17. Follow through with a promise. If you’ve made a commitment, do it today. Get it off your plate. It feels good to be reliable.

18. Compare yourself. Look around you. You have more than most. You have many good things. Much of the world lives in abject poverty and suffering.

19. Don’t compare yourself. But don’t compare yourself to the 1% of the population (or less) than might have more or look better or seem smarter. Focus on your full cup.

20. Write a vision. If you want to feel good about yourself every day for the rest of your life, then write out a plan for that. What is your life vision? Start writing it down.

21. Relive your best memory. Pull up a wonderful, happy memory and take a few minutes to dwell on it. Go through all of the details and feel the feelings you had then. Now there’s a little boost for you.

22. Feed the birds. Go get a piece of bread and walk outside and feed those birdies. They will love you. You will be their little birdie god. They will sing your praises. It’s nice to be a bird deity.

23. Make your bed. You have a neat bed. It makes your room look neat. You are a neat person. So feel good about that.

24. Praise your children. Sometimes when we feel bad about ourselves, we take it out on our children. Don’t do that. Lift them up. Tell them everything you wanted to hear as a child.

25. Hug someone. Hugs are magical feel-good potions that infuse us with joy. If you have time, hug someone for the entire day. If not, just once will do.

26. Smile. Just the act of smiling tells your brain you are happy. Really. Try it.

27. Visualize loving kindness. This is a Buddhist meditation that helps you have compassion and selfless love for yourself and others.

28. Turn of the computer and connect. It’s hard to feel warm fuzzies about yourself when your only companion is a computer screen. Go find a living, breathing person and interact with them. They may say something nice to you.

29. Give just a bit more today. Today, go above and beyond. Do just a bit more with something at work or at home. Give more than is expected.

30. Adjust your expectations. You don’t have to be perfect or near perfect. You can screw up and still be just fine.

31. Let someone else decide. Relinquish responsibility to someone else every now and then. They can be right or in the spotlight, and you can let them. That’s OK.

32. Offer your seat. Isn’t it nice to see someone do that for a lady, or an elderly person, or a pregnant woman? Doesn’t it seem gracious and kind? Do it if you have the chance.

33. Sow peace. Find a way today to create peace. Negativity is all around. Sprinkle peace over it.

34. Hold your tongue. Don’t say it. You may want to. You may have the right to. But just smile instead.

35. Change your self-talk. Be a detached observer of the things you are saying to yourself.Change your words to words of loving kindness.

36. Pretend. Don’t feel great about yourself? Pretend that you do. Act like you do. Pretty soon you really will.

37. Plan a party. Parties are fun. People like parties. People like the people who throw parties. It doesn’t have to be a big one. Just get fun people together.

38. Balance your checkbook. I know, yuck. But it’s important, so get it out of the way, and you’ll feel better.

39. Choose healthy. If you have a choice between healthy and unhealthy today, choose healthy. That’s a positive thing.

40. Define your integrity. What does integrity mean to you? Write it down. Are you living in it?

41. Do something out of the box. Shake things up a bit. Change your routine. Try something new. It will make you feel like a mover and shaker.

42. Appreciate beauty. It’s all around you. Just look for it. When you see it on the outside, you may feel it on the inside. Beauty is catching.

43. Show humility. Bask in just knowing your own greatness inside without the need to have it reinforced publicly.

44. Share some wisdom. Your life experiences have taught you many things. Share what you’ve learned with others in a way that is useful.

45. Read something uplifting. Divert your mind from negative thinking. Find a great book that will inspire and uplift you.

46. Surprise someone. Do something fun and unexpected for someone you care about. Just planning this will life your spirits.

47. Have empathy. Go beyond sympathy for someone. Put yourself in their shoes and see the situation through their eyes. Empathy breeds compassion, and compassion sows the seeds of love and healing.

48. Go out of your way. Do something a little extra, even if you don’t really want to or feel like it. It will make you feel good.

49. Simplify. A complicated, task-oriented, stuff-filled life will not make you happy or provide long-lasting self-esteem. Give yourself the time and space to live within your authentic value system.

50. Make amends. If you are on the outs with someone, even if you are not at fault, extend the olive branch. Open yourself for healing.

51. Find a mentor. Find someone whose life or work you aspire to emulate. Watch and learn. Then copy.

52. Be a mentor. Be that person for someone in your life — someone who could really use your guidance and example.

53. Put family first. In the end, what else really matters? Every single day, connect with them through your time, love, and attention.

54. Put yourself first. Part of putting your family first is treating yourself with loving kindness. Give enough to yourself so you have energy for them.

55. Say no. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied, guilted, or shamed into doing anything. Say no when you mean no.

56. Say yes. Say yes to life, to new adventures, to new friends, to creativity, to spontaneity. Don’t say no when you long for yes.

57. Start a new habit. Pick one habit you’ve wanted to accomplish. Start very small. Set up accountability. Don’t think ahead.

58. Breathe deeply. Learn proper breathing techniques. It is healing for the body and mind.

59. Ask for a back rub. A loving touch reminds you that you are connected to others and that your physical happiness is important.

60. Be present right now. Get out of your head. Stop dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. This “right now” is all you really own. So shift your entire focus on it.

61. Be kind to your spouse. Just be kind. Kindness goes a long way in a relationship.

62. Hang up your clothes. Clean up your space. Take care of yourself and your environment. Respect the time and money it took to purchase what you wear.

63. Pay those bills. If you have outstanding bills, do what needs to be done to get them paid. The energy and stress of them hanging over your head will pull you into a hole.

64. Make the appointment. If you need to go to the doctor, the therapist, a coach, a lawyer, an accountant, whatever — stop stalling and make the appointment. Today.

65. Don’t give up. Whatever it is, hang in there just a little longer. Find the strength, the emotional or mental reserve. Ask for help if you need it.

66. Release tension. If you feel it building up, stop what you are doing and go release it. Exercise, sing, scream, beat a pillow. Get it out in a healthy way before you do something to get yourself arrested.

67. Bake cookies. Freshly baked cookies are the salve for anything that ails you. Try it, you’ll see what I mean.

68. Remind yourself, it will be OK. It usually is. In spite of all of your fretting and worry, most of the time things work out.

69. Let the universe catch you. Just give in and let circumstances unfold as they may. Fall back and let the universe catch you.

70. Embrace frailty. Feeling weak, scared, alone, and like a failure is part of the human condition. We all experience frailty in mind and spirit. Embrace it so that you can overcome it for now. And embrace it the next time, and the next . . .

71. Get out of your head and do something. Stop thinking and act. Action moves you forward. Thinking keeps you stuck.

72. Watch a funny video. You can’t be laughing and feel bad about yourself at the same time. Watch something funny. Like this video. 

73. Step away from your work. Sometimes just a break from the stress of your job, even for 10-15 minutes, can rejuvenate you and make you realize that there is so much more to life than the goings-on of your job.

74. Don’t drink too much. Alcohol is a depressant. If you are feeling bad about yourself, too much will make you feel worse.

75. Eat something healthy. Sometimes when you feel bad, you are missing nutrients and/or energy. Eat foods that will sustain your body and mind.

76. Drink water. Lots and lots of it. Just increasing your water intake is a good habit. Good habits make you feel good about yourself.

77. Take the steps. Break it down. Start small. One at a time. Now take the first one. That’s all. It’s a start. Good for you.

78. Hire a coach. A coach will work with you to go farther, to stretch yourself, to get there faster, to discover more of your own greatness.

79. Scale back. Spend less. Save. Do without some unnecessary things. Un-complicate your life.

80. Journal. Get it out on paper. Release the thoughts and worries bottled up inside. It will feel freeing.

81. Have a cup of tea. Sit quietly and sip your tea. Just enjoy this experience for what it is. Pleasant and soothing.

82. Play with your pet. Your pets love you unconditionally. Bask in that love and attention.

83. Dress up. Reflect a put-together, attractive person on the outside and you may begin to feel it on the inside.

84. Plan your day. Have 2-3 things you know you want to accomplish. Plan those in the morning or the night before. Not a huge list, but just 2-3. You may accomplish more, but if you check off those 2-3, it will feel great.

85. Reveal yourself. Don’t hide behind your fears or false expectations of yourself. Be real, flaws and all. A real person is much more attractive.

86. Compliment someone. Just say something nice. Make someone’s day with your words, and it will make yours.

87. Give yourself gold stars. It’s amazing how satisfying it is to line up gold stars for a task accomplished or a new habit.

89. Work on your flexibility. Stretching reduces pain, increases blood flow, improves your posture, and protects you from injury.

90. Add one more serving of veggies. You probably don’t get enough, so add one more today. Choose something with micro-nutrients like spinach, kale, or bok choy.

91. Start a dollar a day savings jar. Just put one dollar a day in a jar. Throw in some change for fun every now and then. Watch it grow.

92. Surround yourself with light. Visualize yourself surrounded by a white, peaceful, loving light.

93. Plan an adventure. Come up with a fun trip or weekend getaway that is new and exciting. Just planning it makes you feel good.

94. Send a funny text. Make someone else laugh with a surprise message.

95. Examine your intentions. Look carefully at why you are doing something. Do your intentions match your values? If not, reconsider.

96. Learn a new word. Improve  your vocabulary and impress yourself with your acumen with the lexicon!

97. Create a sacred space. Create a special place in your home for meditation, prayer, journaling, reading, and reflection.

98. Rest for ten minutes. Just rest. Do nothing. Allow yourself to just be in the moment.

99. Know you are loved. You are . . . and sometimes that’s all you need to know to remember how wonderful you are.

How do you lift yourself up to remember and acknowledge how amazing you really are? Please share your ideas in the comments.

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Comments

  1. What an awesome list, Barrie! Thank you so much for a ready list of things I can look to for a quick pick-me-up! I have to say, however, that #14 will have the opposite effect, especially with a mirror! :) Let’s just say I was blessed with two left feet and leave it at that!

    “Give up your seat” — this one I absolutely LOVE. Such an easily overlooked aspect to feeling good. When we do the right thing, when we give up our seat or stop and help someone change a tire or jumpstart their car or do any munber of kind deeds, something warm glows inside us.

    Thanks for the wonderful post, Barrie!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Ken,
      Well if you are dancing by yourself, it doesn’t matter if you have two left feet! In fact, that might make it more fun. :) I remember being on the bus in New York when I lived there, and a pregnant woman got on. There were plenty of men sitting in seats, but not one of them got up for her. Maybe that’s a Southern thing, but you’d think it would be common courtesy. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post.

    • Change one thing. If there’s something really bothering you about yourself, then pick one small action to change it and do that now. Go ahead. Just a little thing.

      try to change things if you can but dont demand or force yourself to do it. let it happen! let it be! :-)

  2. What a great list indeed. This weekend was one of those weekends when I needed a reminder of my accomplishments in life and this list would have come in handy – must print this out and hang it! It really is a way of thinking. You can either look at your life negatively or you can look at your life positively, it your choice. It’s as easy as that. My husband was the one who point out the amazing things that I have done in my life so far, and it really kicked the negativity out of me. It’s great to have that great support system in my life. We all need that person in our life somewhere.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      How wonderful to have a husband who points out your accomplishments. I read somewhere that this action is one of the hallmarks of a good marriage — when you celebrate each others accomplishments as well as offer support in the hard times. I wish I’d posted the list a day earlier for you Marcelina, but better late than never!

  3. Great list indeed.
    Do something new and exciting and then revel in your doing it. In fact, revel in each and every step you take towards something you want to achieve or simply do.
    Allow yourself the feeling of self-pride when you accomplish something, big or small. Small successes set the stage and motivate us to continue on for those bigger ones.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Yes, absolutely Harriet! Sometimes the small successes provide more satisfaction than the big ones. Small success are generally part of the process of achieving big ones anyway.

  4. Love, Love, LOVE this! Thanks for a fabulous list which I’m looking forward to sharing with my friends!

  5. No fluff here Barrie…

    People who slow down and pay attention to their own need to be happy can have a HUGE and beneficial effect on themselves, their families, and everyone else they come in contact with. How cool is that! :-)

    All the best,

    Jon

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Yes, we neglect our own happiness sometimes to the detriment of those around us. A happy, self-confident person has so much more to give. Thank you Jon.

  6. Hello Barrie
    Found your suggestion for a sacred space to be very useful . Often go to the Botanic Gardens and go one of 3 areas that are special places.

    • My “sacred space” is a room in my home where no one comes in, regardless. If you need me, you knock on the door.

      It’s got a comfortable chair, and I spend a lot of time in that chair.

      Don’t touch my chair.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Michael,
      The Botanic Gardens sounds very sacred indeed. We all need these places of peace and rejuvenation.

  7. Jodi Chapman - Soul Speak says:

    What a beautiful list, Barrie! We could all use more self love – what a wonderful way to start the week! ♥ I am going to forward it to my FB friends right now.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      I’m so glad you like it Jodi. Thank you so much for passing it on. :)

    • Hi, make love & love & love….. Cook youre favorite fried rice with salted egg and dried fish.. you will realize something meaningful in your life. hehe..

      Have a nice day! :-)

  8. Thank you Barrie:
    Great positives for a day that needed some… I will copy this list and pick one when I need to turn my thoughts around. Just doing one kind deed a day for another really does the heart good.
    Thanks.
    Peace…

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Jane,
      So glad it came to you on a day you needed it! A kind deed does do the heart good. That’s one of the reasons I blog — sharing this information is so rewarding for me. :)

  9. Hi Barrie,
    Pity you stopped @ 99…..I was just warming up. We certainly can turn the tide in our favour. It starts with the thought then the belief then the will to do it. Not that difficult really, simply make the choice. Thank you for this.
    be good to yourself
    David

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      I was looking to my readers to supply #100 and beyond! Yes, making the choice every single day is key. Sometimes we forget we have the choice, but it is always with us.

  10. This list just got bookmarked. And I’m going to make myself some sort of little program to proceed through to make sure I start trying out everything on this list. That’s a promise.

  11. Just reading it made me feel good! Thank you for sharing it.

  12. AMAZING!

    THANK YOU!

  13. I love to take small naps. I use to feel like it was a waste of my day—but oh, was I so wrong. I find that my body, mind and spirit are beautifully refreshed and I enjoy the rest of my day so much more.

  14. Yea..itz was such a refreshing to read the eliteness of what we call life…99 percentile of things i already in practice bt remaining 1 i learned..thank you very much…

  15. Hi Barrie,

    Wow, what a comprehensive list! Lots of excellent ideas.

    I believe it all starts with the fact we tend to always measure ourselves in comparison to others . And since there are always some people out there that have specific skills that are better than ours, it is easy to feel “not good enough” or “not smart enough”, or just “a failure”. We are so competitive in nature that instead of appreciating what we have we usually find ourselves focus on what we don’t have.

    What helps me the most is the understanding that we are all different and each one of us has a unique set of gifts, abilities, intellectual intelligence, emotional intelligence, etc., and we can not expect ourselves to be the best at everything. We need to discover our genius, appreciate our uniqueness, and then utilize our full potential to do the best we can with what we have.

    Thanks,

    Yuval

  16. This is something good to refer to when you’re not feeling to great.

  17. thank you so much for this amazing list! It has really helped me <3 much love to everyone :)

  18. I’m just getting over a relationship where my boyfriend cheated and lied, and is with the other girl now. So this list is a boon to me, because it’s so beautifully simplistic and happy that I can’t wait to start! Thank you so much. I hope I get over this sadness soon. :)

    • You and me both girl. Hang in there. We’re better than that. Today I feel like total crap, but you know what, it makes me feel good to know I’m not alone and its not the end of the world. We will get through.

  19. This was absolutely amazing. After recently moving across the world and feeling too weak to start over, this inspired me. They are all simple and easy to do ideas…so so so true and helpful!

    Again, simply amazing!!!

  20. So often we turn to others to feel good about ourselves, but you have provided some really great tips here to help people feel on top of the world.

  21. Thank you! I’ve been at home, bed-rodden for weeks, this is just what I need!

  22. Hey I know this is off topic but I was wondering
    if you knew of any widgets I could add to my blog that automatically tweet my newest twitter updates.

    I’ve been looking for a plug-in like this for quite some time and was hoping maybe you would have some experience with something like this. Please let me know if you run into anything. I truly enjoy reading your blog and I look forward to your new updates.

  23. LivvieKate says:

    This is a wonderful list!!! I felt so much better just reading it. Thankyou for publishing this, it means a lot. (:

    xoxox

  24. Monty bronch says:

    Really awesome…creat

  25. Hi, this one is really great! they are all very simple and yet very effective. The greatest thing you can do is feel good about yourself. Feeling good lets you enjoy life to the fullest. Thanks for sharing :)

  26. avinash shah says:

    Great , I m feeling gud and on my way to start my life with these goods habits.
    Thanks a lot for All these thinghs …. I m sure this is going to change my life to intresting one ….. I’m going to work on these right now……..FEELING HAPPY AND stressFREE …….

  27. AMAZING!!!!!! :)

  28. Great list! Whenever I will feel down I will surely go over your list, pick one or two and do it. Surely I shall feel better after.

  29. Hi Barrie, I must say these are awesome thoughts you shared, now i am sitting on chair in well nutured beautiful garden with no one and complimenting you!! is making me feel rejuvating. I was so full of negativeness before reading these awesome ways, from now i am going make me feel better and move forward towards my bright career. Thank you!!

  30. Sameer khan says:

    Is feeling extremely lonely, and neglected right now. But does anyone really care? :(

  31. “Every time you do something right, you help tilt the balance in favour of Truth- and that contribution affects the vibration within the cosmos..Each one of us sending out the right vibration can then help change the mindset of more and more people till the world throbs with positive vibrations and right actions. Each of us matters to Providence and have a say in Creation and Evolution”. -Ruzbeh Barucha

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