This guy is worth it!
You find yourself saying this after years of failed relationships, one after another.
But this is the man for you, and you don’t want to screw it up.
Now that you’ve found that perfect connection and want to ensure it sticks, don’t fall victim to those same patterns of the relationships in your past.
Bring these 21 most common turn-offs for guys into view so that this relationship is “the one” that lasts.
Your independence is too important for you to give it up just to have a romantic partner.
But you still want a love relationship with a partner who gets you.
Good news! It is possible to have independence in a relationship that enriches you both.
You can appreciate what your partner brings to your life without losing yourself in their identity and becoming someone you no longer recognize.
You’ve heard people describe themselves (or others) as the “black sheep of the family.”
It’s not usually a compliment.
But the way they describe it sure sounds familiar.
Being the black sheep of the family doesn’t mean you’re never included or that your parents changed the locks when you “finally crossed the line” (though that’s true for some).
The exclusion doesn’t have to be physical or absolute to affect your relationships and mental health.
You don’t have to be “the worst” to be the family outcast.
You just have to stand out in a way they don’t like.
You’re in another committed relationship, and you’re blissfully happy. This one understands you better than the last. Or this one is more fun.
All your relationships have enriched your life in some way.
But when someone describes your newest attachment as a serial relationship, you feel called out.
You look for a serial monogamy definition to clear things up. And you find one that sounds somewhat like what you’re doing. But isn’t it just how things are done, now?
Not all of us live happily ever after with the first person we marry or move in with.
So, what does it even mean to be a serial monogamist?
Even without children, divorcing a narcissistic husband or wife is anything but simple, amicable, and low-stress.
Add children, and the narcissist has another powerful weapon at their disposal.
And you can count on them to make the divorce and its aftermath as painful as possible—for you.
So, what can you do to protect yourself (and any children you have) and get the best possible outcome?
As veterans of this nightmare can tell you, the only thing harder than being married to a narcissist is divorcing one.
The narcissist will do everything in their power to win. And part of that win is making sure you deeply and eternally regret divorcing them.
That said, before we dive into a more detailed list of actions to take, let’s outline the primary strategies for divorcing a narcissist:
Make a detailed plan for navigating all the stages of divorcing a narcissist. The list further down will be one of your best resources for this. Your lawyer will be another.
Take advantage of all the help you can find. You can bet the narcissist will do the same.