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The Pivotal Differences Between Intrinsic And Extrinsic Motivation

Take a minute to think about the sources of your motivation. What makes you do the things you do?

Do you go to work to get a paycheck, or because you genuinely enjoy your job?

Do you drive the speed limit to avoid punishment, or because you value your safety and enjoy taking the time to take a break from everyday life in the car?

These are perfect examples that show the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

Many things can motivate you to do what you do, but the primary difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation is whether you are driven by an internal desire or by some external force that can be positive or negative.

How To Rebuild Trust When You’ve Been Hurt Or Betrayed By Your Love Partner

by Barrie Davenport

You wonder why the bank account has gotten so low, only to discover your partner has been spending without telling you.

You overhear your spouse sharing your most private information with her best friend after she promised to keep it confidential.

Your partner lashes out at you in anger and threatens to leave you.

Couples can do and say thoughtless and unkind things to one another, things that erode intimacy and security in the relationship.

Once this happens, it can be hard to rebuild trust when you have been so deeply hurt or betrayed by your partner.

What Is A Demisexual? 5 Signs You May Be One

by Issa Mirandilla

I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a demisexual friend years ago.

At the time, I didn’t know she was demisexual. I didn’t even know what a demisexual was.

But I did know that, unlike most of my other friends, she didn’t display obvious sexual attraction towards anyone of any gender.

Until she met John, that is.

I remember she wouldn’t stop talking about John.

She would go on and on about his amazing qualities — how smart and kind he was and how he looked so much like a Hollywood star. As she gushed, “He’s almost too perfect to be true.”

8 Ways To Cope In Emotionally Abusive Relationships

by Barrie Davenport

You can't believe you're in this situation.

How did it happen?

Everything was so great in the beginning. You were so in love. You were such a great couple together.

But then things started to change.

The cruel comments. The controlling behaviors. The subtle threats.

The one person in the world who is supposed to love you the most, who's supposed to have your back and be your closest confidant, is emotionally abusing you.

At first, you didn't know what was happening. Maybe you thought it was your fault. You hoped it was just an off week, or month, or year.

8 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse

by Issa Mirandilla

From the outside, narcissistic people look “normal.”

They're often charming, outgoing and idolized by others simply because they appear so perfect.

But to you, they're anything but perfect.

You're never at ease around the narcissistic person, and you can't pinpoint exactly why. You can't reconcile the “perfect” image most people have of the narcissistic person with your experiences behind closed doors.

Worst of all, you feel like there's no one you can talk to about your problem with this person. How can you think such things about a person who's so admired by others?