25 Ways to Become the Best Version of Yourself


Is it possible to be happy with yourself right now and still want to change your life?

Can you be content and evolving at the same time?

I believe you can.

In fact, I think this is a powerful balance we should strive for every day — the balance between happiness in the moment and action toward the best version of ourselves.

Leo Babauta of Zen Habits recently wrote a beautiful post on contentedness. He suggests that you don't need to wait for change, for something better, for the future, before you are content. You can be content right now if you choose to see all of the good and beauty around you.

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How to Live Your Passion Without Giving Up Your Day Job

I spent many years (most of my adult life)  without knowing or living my life passion. But over the last few years, I've found it and I'm living it.

I can say without a doubt that finding and living your life passion makes a huge positive difference in your quality of life. I'm sure if you survey other people who live with passion, you will hear the same thing.

  • I wake up excited about what the day will bring.
  • I love the work I'm doing.
  • I have a sense of purpose.
  • I feel engaged with interesting, like-minded people.
  • The day flies by as I lose track of time — I'm in the “flow.”
  • I don't sweat the small stuff because I'm so wrapped up in my passion.
  • I am happier and more energetic in general.

Prior to finding my passion, my life wasn't bad. In fact, by all standards, it was quite good. In addition to having a wonderful family and children, I had built a nice career as a public relations consultant.

But something was wrong.

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Is Travel Your Passion? 10 Steps to Stop Dreaming and Start Packing

The World is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.  ~St. Augustine

Just about everyone lists travel as one of their passions in life.

We're enamored with the idea of travel — getting away, doing something fun and adventurous, seeing cool things, and meeting different people. It all sounds so exciting.

But when it comes to actually planning a real trip (something more than visiting Grandma or going to the beach for a week), it's too easy to find a reason not to go, not to make it happen.

Our lives are so damned busy and complicated. Between our jobs, kids, pets, commitments, and responsibilities, taking time out for a trip (or even doing everything that must be done to prepare for one) is enough to make you hyperventilate with anxiety.

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Are You Addicted?

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This is not a post about substance abuse.

This is a post about the little things you do every day that pull you away from what you really want for yourself.

It is about addiction to habits and behaviors that suck time away from us without adding much back to our lives or our souls. And often we hide our eyes from these addictions.

Granted, addiction is a strong word. It's a word that suggests a loss of control, a dependence on something that has become powerful enough to separate you from your true self, your highest self.

The dictionary.com definition of the word reads as follows:

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Your Hidden Abilities and Why You Need to Find Them

When I was 40, I went through a phase during which I feared all of my creativity had been sapped.

I was in the thick of child-rearing and running a home, with all that this time of life entails. Most of my time was spent driving kids to activities, volunteering at their schools, cleaning up messes, and preparing meals that usually involved the words “nugget” or “roll-up.”

Although it was rewarding watching my children grow and thrive, I had no outlet for self-expression or creativity. In fact, I thought I had no creativity.

Someone suggested I read the book, The Artist's Way, A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, by Julia Cameron. In the book, Julia suggests that to stimulate creativity, you should commit to a period of “reading deprivation,” so you have no excuse not to do something playful and creative. She even provides a list of ideas.

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Who’s Holding Your Feet to the Fire? The Power of Intentional Accountability

Before I became a coach, I didn't know much about coaching.

I'd heard the term “life coach” tossed around, but I didn't understand why people needed to be coached in their lives. Why would I need someone else telling me to do what I already know I should be doing?

(Now I know that coaching has nothing to do with being told what to do.)

If the coaching profession could be distilled to the single most valuable tool for clients, it would be accountability.

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Make Your Vision a Reality with a Theme for the Month

In my previous post, I wrote about how essential it is to create a life vision for yourself and gave you an exercise for writing your own life vision.

Often when I do this exercise with coaching clients, after they have written their vision, they begin to panic. They have just written this detailed vision for their life, but it looks very little like the life they have right now.

Their unspoken (or sometimes spoken) fear is, “How on Earth am I going to make all of this happen?”

When you create a vision that incorporates every aspect of your life and involves hundreds of actions and changes, not to mention facing some fears and self-doubt, it can be a bit daunting. How on Earth does one make all of this happen?

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Your Most Valuable Coping Skills When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

A guest post by David Singer of Six Simple Rules

Late last year we went through a challenging few weeks at home when our teenage daughter battled a significant, but fortunately temporary, illness. It was an experience that was extremely unnerving, to say the least.

Just before this past Thanksgiving, my daughter Julie, age 17, came home from school complaining that she felt sick. She had a fever and so she took some Tylenol, went to bed early, and skipped school the next day, the day before Thanksgiving.

She then spent all Thanksgiving day in bed, suffering from headaches, fever, lack of appetite, and complete exhaustion. We brought her to the pediatrician on Friday and the doctor said it appeared that Julie had a bad virus.

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