The Insidious Poison of Disengagement In Your Relationships

“The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.”  ~Stephen Covey

A new relationship of any kind, even a new friendship, begins with the thrill of connection and recognition.

In this new person, at least initially, we recognize the best of ourselves and the best of who we wish to be.

We circle around one another like turtledoves, cooing our every thought and feeling, and marveling over the wondrous and heady simpatico we share — one that tricks us into believing we are the only two in the world who have this connection.

If things continue to go well in the relationship, the initial froth of unexpected connection deepens into real engagement with the other person. We become invested in them and they in us.

We share and listen and make the effort to be fully present and available. With time, we open ourselves more and more and reel out our vulnerabilities, dreams, and secrets in an ever-widening pool of mutual trust. And we hold these things for the other person with a gentle hand of respect and dignity.

As infatuation turns to love, and later as love matures, our emotional ties become stronger and more complexly intertwined. We are truly together, connected as friends, lovers, spouses — whatever the relationship happens to be, we are bound.

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Personality Type: How It Impacts 3 Key Areas of Your Life

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Do you know your personality type based on the Myers-Briggs personality assessment?

If not, this is a tremendously beneficial tool in helping you understand yourself, your motivations and behavior, and how you interact with the people around you.

And knowing the personality types of the people close to you is extremely helpful in understanding them and how you can best relate to them.

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When Real Life Gets in the Way of Your Dreams

At this very moment, I should be on a plane to Italy.

My friend Katie Tallo (of Momentum Gathering) and I have planned this trip for six months. We were going to stay first at our friend Diana Baur’s amazing bed and breakfast in Acqui Terme in Northern Italy.

Then we were going to spend a few days on Lake Como near the border of Italy and Switzerland.

Needless to say, we were beyond excited. Both of us had our luggage packed, flights booked, car rented, accommodations arranged.

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5 Random Acts of Kindness

Would you like to do something nice for someone you love this weekend? I’d like to do something nice for you —  if you agree to pass it on.

I’m going to give away five copies of my new guides (the full set), The Bold Living Guides, to five people who agree to pass on a copy to someone they care about. You can keep a copy for yourself,  and I’ll  send a copy to your  loved one in your name as a surprise.

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8 Life Lessons to Teach Your Parents

“And you, of tender years/ Can’t know the fears that your elders grew by/ And so please help them with your youth/ They seek the truth before they can die.” ~Graham Nash, from the song Teach Your Children

A guest post by Jon Giganti of 1440.

Editors Note: As I’ve created my blog and built my online business, I constantly realize how much there is to learn — and that most of the brilliant teachers are years younger than me. In fact, my entire lifestyle outlook has shifted as a result of connecting with these younger online experts. I asked Jon to write a post about what he believes his generation can teach those older than he is. Here’s what he has to say.

It’s 1940. My parents haven’t been born yet. They’re soon to be part of the baby boomer generation and grow up in an age of many changes. TV’s, moon landings, leisure suits, Rock n Roll, Vietnam.

Many in this generation came from immigrant parents (as did mine).

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100 Ways To Show Your Love To Him


“Oh, men don’t notice what they got. Oh, women think of that a lot A thousand ways to please your man (oh-ho). Not even one requires a plan.” ~from the song “You Only Live Once” by The Strokes

OK ladies, now it’s your turn to show your love to that wonderful guy. There might be a thousand ways to please your man that don’t require a plan.

But in the light of day, thoughtful and loving planning will help your relationship flourish and bloom. An amazing relationship doesn’t just happen. It needs your full attention.

If you are passive about tending to the garden of your love with your guy, weeds are going to grow in the form of bitterness, boredom, and resentment.

Have a plan – take the time to understand what your beloved needs and wants. Know what makes him happy and work to create more of that in your life.

Today and every day after, come up with a plan. Have your gardening tools handy and your watering can full.

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The 4 Essential Ingredients For Healthy Relationships

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~Carl Jung

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Char Elle En

I once heard an hilarious quip on Saturday Night Live that said:
“I want to save the world for my children, but not for my children’s children,
because I don’t think children should be having sex.”

Sometimes when I’m working with couples, whether they’re married, in a committed long-term relationship, heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or whatever, I feel like I’m working with children.

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