When Real Life Gets in the Way of Your Dreams

At this very moment, I should be on a plane to Italy.

My friend Katie Tallo (of Momentum Gathering) and I have planned this trip for six months. We were going to stay first at our friend Diana Baur’s amazing bed and breakfast in Acqui Terme in Northern Italy.

Then we were going to spend a few days on Lake Como near the border of Italy and Switzerland.

Needless to say, we were beyond excited. Both of us had our luggage packed, flights booked, car rented, accommodations arranged.

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5 Random Acts of Kindness

Would you like to do something nice for someone you love this weekend? I’d like to do something nice for you —  if you agree to pass it on.

I’m going to give away five copies of my new guides (the full set), The Bold Living Guides, to five people who agree to pass on a copy to someone they care about. You can keep a copy for yourself,  and I’ll  send a copy to your  loved one in your name as a surprise.

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8 Life Lessons to Teach Your Parents

“And you, of tender years/ Can’t know the fears that your elders grew by/ And so please help them with your youth/ They seek the truth before they can die.” ~Graham Nash, from the song Teach Your Children

A guest post by Jon Giganti of 1440.

Editors Note: As I’ve created my blog and built my online business, I constantly realize how much there is to learn — and that most of the brilliant teachers are years younger than me. In fact, my entire lifestyle outlook has shifted as a result of connecting with these younger online experts. I asked Jon to write a post about what he believes his generation can teach those older than he is. Here’s what he has to say.

It’s 1940. My parents haven’t been born yet. They’re soon to be part of the baby boomer generation and grow up in an age of many changes. TV’s, moon landings, leisure suits, Rock n Roll, Vietnam.

Many in this generation came from immigrant parents (as did mine).

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100 Ways To Show Your Love To Him


“Oh, men don’t notice what they got. Oh, women think of that a lot A thousand ways to please your man (oh-ho). Not even one requires a plan.” ~from the song “You Only Live Once” by The Strokes

OK ladies, now it’s your turn to show your love to that wonderful guy. There might be a thousand ways to please your man that don’t require a plan.

But in the light of day, thoughtful and loving planning will help your relationship flourish and bloom. An amazing relationship doesn’t just happen. It needs your full attention.

If you are passive about tending to the garden of your love with your guy, weeds are going to grow in the form of bitterness, boredom, and resentment.

Have a plan – take the time to understand what your beloved needs and wants. Know what makes him happy and work to create more of that in your life.

Today and every day after, come up with a plan. Have your gardening tools handy and your watering can full.

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The 4 Essential Ingredients For Healthy Relationships

woman and man talking dinner relationship questions to ask

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~Carl Jung

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Char Elle En

I once heard an hilarious quip on Saturday Night Live that said:
“I want to save the world for my children, but not for my children’s children,
because I don’t think children should be having sex.”

Sometimes when I’m working with couples, whether they’re married, in a committed long-term relationship, heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or whatever, I feel like I’m working with children.

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Embrace Your Inner Adult

“A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

When I am coaching a client, often one of the most profound leaps they make is recognizing the personal power that accompanies adult decisions, outlooks, and behaviors.

Sometimes a person is so entrenched in reactive behaviors, old hurts, and learned perceptions that they don’t realize they are trapped in a stage of childhood that limits their personal growth and relationships.

Much has been made of the concept of embracing one’s inner child.

In this context, I’m referring to the therapeutic work (usually offered by mental health professionals) to help clients heal the emotional wounds and coping mechanisms that arise from adverse childhood experiences.

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A Simple Guide to Making New Friends

Our old friends are like comfortable blue jeans. They are worn in, reliable, non-binding, cozy, patched in places, but still a perfect fit. We’ve had them so long, they are like second skin.

Old friendships are worth tending, nurturing and growing because these are the people who love us and see the best in us in spite of our flaws.

Over the course of a lifetime, you may have a handful of really deep and intimate friendships.

Sometimes these few friendships are enough. They are so comfortable that the idea of making new friends seems unnecessary — and even a little intimidating. But what happens if you move to a new city you?

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