When you’re in a new relationship, everything about the person you are seeing seems perfect.
You put your best foot forward, and so do they.
Finally, you’ve found your soul mate — someone who meets all of your criteria for the perfect man or woman.
But as the bloom fades from the new romance, you realize that some of your criteria boxes haven’t been checked.
Your perfect partner has pulled a bait and switch or maybe never had the desirable qualities to begin with.
According to University of Maryland professor, Ty Tashiro, 88 percent of people believe soul mates are real.
However, this fairy tale view of romance negatively impacts the likelihood that couples will stay together in the long term.
“All this wishing has led to a case of wanting everything and getting nothing,” says Tashiro his book, The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love.
Though 90 percent of people will get hitched in their lifetimes, only three in ten stay together — factoring in a 50 percent divorce and separation rate.
People want everything in a partner and are therefore more likely to end up with nada.
However, Tashiro offers a more positive directive for dating hopefuls seeking to find somebody to love: don’t lose hope — lose the idealism.
Take a closer look at yourself, where you are, what your needs are, and what real compatibility means.
Bitten by the love bug but wondering if Mr. or Ms. Right might not be right for you?
These 10 signs of relationship compatibility can help you figure it out: