Are you suffering from overthinking relationship anxiety?
If so, you’ve got plenty of company.
In fact, overthinking in relationships is so common that you can probably think of a TV series or movie character who does what you do.
Maddening, right?
You hate what it’s doing to your relationship.
But what can you do to stop yourself from doing it?
And what if the opposite (underthinking?) is even worse?
Do you know how to be more mature or what maturity even means?
If you've ever hung around a toddler or a teenager for any length of time, you know what immaturity looks like.
If the toddler doesn't get her way, she might scream, stomp, and fall on the floor in a fit of rage and frustration.
Toddlers have few filters preventing them from expressing their inner worlds in a dramatic fashion.
Teenagers have more filters but still don't have a fully-formed prefrontal cortex, the brain's rational thinking arena.
Teens may not fall on the floor in a fit, but they might scream, slam doors, pout, or use passive-aggressive and manipulative tactics to achieve their goals. It takes them a while to learn how to act maturely.
Are you thinking, “I have no motivation, so I'm just going to sit here and stare at my phone.”
Does that describe how you feel about getting things done today?
And you'd do just that except for the nagging little voice in your head that keeps telling you to get off your butt and do something productive.
That nagging voice is relentless, but you're oh-so-uninspired and maybe even a bit depressed.
Thank goodness for that inner voice, because without it, you might not be reading this post and wondering how you can get yourself out of the ho-hum slump you're in.
There's a big part of you that's sick of feeling lethargic and uninspired. You want to be motivated and productive. You want to have the energy to work on your goals and plans.
Maybe you're concerned because you have no idea why you can't muster up any enthusiasm and ambition — which makes your state of mind even more upsetting.
Let's take a look at some possible reasons.
Until you recognize the signs of having trust issues, you can’t take the necessary steps toward healing.
And that’s what you need right now.
Because somewhere along the way, someone broke your trust.
A lover, a friend, a spouse.
And the effects of that betrayal or failure don’t just go away.
Fortunately, the more you know, the sooner you can learn how to fix trust issues and build stronger, more connected romantic relationships.
There are days when you just don’t believe in yourself.
You don’t even like yourself.
Maybe you’re having one today.
It seems everyone is better than you in some way – smarter, more attractive, more accomplished.
A tidal wave of low self-esteem washes over you.
You can’t stop wondering if you’re worth anyone’s attention, praise, or love.
And that’s a low place to be.
When you get in this state, don’t continue to feed the low self-esteem beast by pondering all the ways you feel unworthy.
Part of you knows that these thoughts aren’t serving you.
Change course and seek out encouragement to reinforce your inherent worth.
That’s exactly what these “remember your worth” quotes will help you do.