How To Rebuild Trust When You’ve Been Hurt Or Betrayed By Your Love Partner

How To Rebuild Trust

You wonder why the bank account has gotten so low, only to discover your partner has been spending without telling you.

You overhear your spouse sharing your most private information with her best friend after she promised to keep it confidential.

Your partner lashes out at you in anger and threatens to leave you.

Couples can do and say thoughtless and unkind things to one another, things that erode intimacy and security in the relationship.

Once this happens, it can be hard to rebuild trust when you have been so deeply hurt or betrayed by your partner.

Trust is something that, once broken, can take a lot of time to repair.

You've seen that your partner is capable of betraying you, and now it's hard to rest easy in the untarnished faith you once had that this behavior won't happen again. As Friedrich Nietzsche said, "I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you."

As painful as they are, these broken trust scenarios don't have to spell the end of the relationship. In fact, they can be areas of learning and growth for you and your partner.

The most important thing to know is that with commitment from BOTH partners, trust can be restored and the couple can have a strong and intimate connection again.

Knowing how to rebuild trust in a relationship can be the hardest part of the entire process, especially if the wounded partner is still suffering from the breech.

If you are the wounded party, you can't expect your partner to know how to rebuild trust or what will make you feel safe again. If you are the one who broke the trust, you can't expect your partner to "get over it" right away.

You both must work together on a plan that is realistic but that addresses the fears and concerns of the one who has lost trust.

Here's how to rebuild trust in a relationship once it's been damaged: