The Proven Method For Building Habits That Stick

Habits that Stick

I've had the good fortune of working with many amazing coaching clients, people eager to make positive change in their lives. But to this day, there's one client whose courage and tenacity simply blows me away.

When she hired me, this client wanted to work on building her own business. She was smart, articulate, and ready for change -- but there was something standing in her way of success.

My client was obese -- weighing over 400 pounds. I knew she would never achieve her goals if she didn't first address the weight.

Long story short, my client made a huge internal shift and began changing her habits one by one. In just two years, she lost over 200 pounds, started her business, met the man of her dreams, and got married. Her success was amazing -- but not without setbacks, frustrations, and difficulties.

Create Habits

I often think of my client when my own habits start to waiver. It makes me remember how much is possible and how profoundly our lives can change for the better.

My client had tried for years to build better eating and fitness habits. But always after a few weeks, she would quit. Sound familiar? Most people fail at habit creation. In fact, statistics show the average person makes the same New Year's resolution ten times without success.

As a coach, I was determined to help my clients find a better way. Every one of us has dreams of becoming more fit, more productive, more accomplished, and more engaged in life. But after repeated failures, we give up on the idea, thinking we just don't have what it takes to follow through.

But you DO have what it takes. Failing at habit creation is not your fault -- it's the fault of a system that just doesn't work. I've spent years of research, testing, and teaching a new method for forming habits, a method backed by science and proven by the success of thousands of people who have made the investment in themselves to learn the simple skills.

These are the same habit skills that have allowed me to . . . (more…)

Positive Habits: 5 Small Changes To Dramatically Upgrade Your Life

positive habits

Sometimes it’s the smallest changes that make the biggest differences in our lives. Look back over your life and consider the little tweaks you’ve made that led you to be happier, healthier, or more fulfilled. At the time you initiated these changes, you may have felt little impact. But in retrospect you see how profound…  Continue Reading

4 Healthy Living Habits I’ve Recently Adopted

Recently I calculated my “real age” through one of the life expectancy assessments. I was pleased to see that I’m expected to live to the ripe old age of 104 — if I continue the same healthy lifestyle choices I currently practice. Some of the healthy choices that contribute to longevity are obvious — wearing…  Continue Reading

Creating Habits for Life with Leo Babauta

On Monday, Sept. 26, 2011 at 3 pm Pacific/6 pm Eastern, Leo Babauta of Zen Habits will share some of the things he has learned about creating habits (read His Story for some of the habits he has created and changed). He is hosting a free webinar called How to Engineer Habit Changes that will take about an…  Continue Reading

Habit Creation: The 7 Deadly Sins

Creating new habits is hard. It’s so hard that we fail at it repeatedly. And that does a number on our self-esteem. We feel like losers. So we pretend we don’t need the habit. Then we live a life of lesser-than . . . Lesser than the person we dream of being. Lesser than the…  Continue Reading

8 Bad Behavior Habits to Avoid Like the Plague

Here’s a tough question for you. Are you likable? Do people find it easy, energizing, and refreshing to be around you? In my work as a coach, I’ve seen how people will unknowingly carry around the baggage of bad behaviors — behaviors that hold them back from loving relationships, career growth, and simple life happiness….  Continue Reading

Habit Creation For Beginners

“Thoughts lead on to purpose, purpose leads on to actions, actions form habits, habits decide character, and character fixes our destiny.” ~Tyron Edwards There are two sides to habits: dropping undesirable habits and creating new ones. Let’s focus on the creation part, because when you are successful at creating positive new habits, it gives you…  Continue Reading