Insecure? Reclaim the Joy of Being of You

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”  ~Vincent Van Gogh

Listen up dear friend — if you feel insecure about yourself, you are not alone.

A few months ago, I surveyed my readers about their most common fears and worries. Feeling insecure was a recurring theme. We tiptoe about on the eggshells of life, afraid that others will see our flaws, our ugliness, our failures.

We sell ourselves short. We hold ourselves back, because we just don’t know — “Will it work, will I look stupid, am I capable? Will they like me?”

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8 Life Lessons to Teach Your Parents

“And you, of tender years/ Can’t know the fears that your elders grew by/ And so please help them with your youth/ They seek the truth before they can die.” ~Graham Nash, from the song Teach Your Children

A guest post by Jon Giganti of 1440.

Editors Note: As I’ve created my blog and built my online business, I constantly realize how much there is to learn — and that most of the brilliant teachers are years younger than me. In fact, my entire lifestyle outlook has shifted as a result of connecting with these younger online experts. I asked Jon to write a post about what he believes his generation can teach those older than he is. Here’s what he has to say.

It’s 1940. My parents haven’t been born yet. They’re soon to be part of the baby boomer generation and grow up in an age of many changes. TV’s, moon landings, leisure suits, Rock n Roll, Vietnam.

Many in this generation came from immigrant parents (as did mine).

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Don’t Underestimate Yourself

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is ‘out there’ —as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.” ~Byron Katie

You can do just about anything you set your mind to. And just about is plenty good for accomplishing more in life than you have time to accomplish.

Yes, there are some things in life that we won’t ever be able to achieve. I will never be a professional ballet dancer no matter how diligently I train. You may not get the specific job you want because the employer won’t hire you.

You may go after something with every confidence that you can achieve it, and then something unexpected prevents you.  Of course severe physical or emotional illness can hinder you. But these are the exceptions.

The rule is that there are millions of things you can accomplish.

When I coach clients, they often revert to the fallback position of over-examining their emotions. Emotions are important and have their place, but they are a smokescreen to taking action.

I try to refocus the client on action. Positive action always makes you feel better.  Even one tiny forward movement can be enough to turn around your entire outlook.

Here are some common feeling-charged thoughts that try to divert you from action:

  • It’s hard. I can’t do it.
  • I’m too lazy. I just don’t have the motivation.
  • I don’t really need to be doing this thing. I’m fine the way I am.
  • I’m feeling down right now. I can’t do anything when I feel this way.
  • I can’t afford to do that.
  • Something bad might happen. People won’t like me anymore. I’ll make them mad.
  • I failed at this before, so clearly I’m not capable.
  • I don’t deserve this. I’m just not good enough.

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The Simple Secret To Pain Relief

“If we really want to address the whole issue of suffering, as well as our desire and yearning for freedom, love, and connection, then we need to learn how to look clearly at our own minds.” ~Adyashanti

Last week I wrote an e-mail to the subscribers at Live Bold and Bloom with the invitation to share with me their top five worries, fears, or disappointments in life.

I requested this so that I could address some of these topics in my articles and future books and courses.I received hundreds of responses, many of which revealed very painful situations and concerns.

It became clear to me that all of us suffer with some degree of emotional pain and inner turmoil, whether or not we are generally satisfied with our lives.

This turmoil keeps us from reaching our fullest potential and engaging fully in life.

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26 Ways To Savor Life Rather Than Waste It

“Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-defeating ways means you’ve lost them forever.” ~Wayne Dyer

How much of your time do you spend fretting, worrying about the past or the future, doing things you don’t like, or frittering away time with mind-numbing activities?

Think about it for a moment, and be honest.

Are you an over-thinker?

Do you create endless to-do lists?

Do you spend lots of time watching TV or surfing the net?

Do you work too hard or too long?

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