Make Your Vision a Reality with a Theme for the Month

In my previous post, I wrote about how essential it is to create a life vision for yourself and gave you an exercise for writing your own life vision.

Often when I do this exercise with coaching clients, after they have written their vision, they begin to panic. They have just written this detailed vision for their life, but it looks very little like the life they have right now.

Their unspoken (or sometimes spoken) fear is, “How on Earth am I going to make all of this happen?”

When you create a vision that incorporates every aspect of your life and involves hundreds of actions and changes, not to mention facing some fears and self-doubt, it can be a bit daunting. How on Earth does one make all of this happen?

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Your Most Valuable Coping Skills When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

A guest post by David Singer of Six Simple Rules

Late last year we went through a challenging few weeks at home when our teenage daughter battled a significant, but fortunately temporary, illness. It was an experience that was extremely unnerving, to say the least.

Just before this past Thanksgiving, my daughter Julie, age 17, came home from school complaining that she felt sick. She had a fever and so she took some Tylenol, went to bed early, and skipped school the next day, the day before Thanksgiving.

She then spent all Thanksgiving day in bed, suffering from headaches, fever, lack of appetite, and complete exhaustion. We brought her to the pediatrician on Friday and the doctor said it appeared that Julie had a bad virus.

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Want to Still Be Dancing at 100? Do This, Not That

There are pockets in the world where people live longer.

Not just a little longer, but many years past the average life expectancy.

In fact, in some of these places, people have three times the chance of living to 100 than Americans do. Ouch.

And they aren't warehoused in a nursing home or confined to a wheelchair. They are still active, engaged in life, and happy. They enjoy living and prefer it to the alternative.

I certainly don't want to be an old creaker, sitting in a diaper while somebody feeds me warmed-over pablum. But if I could live to 90 or beyond and still  be healthy, happy, and active, would I want to? You bet. And I bet you would too.

So what do these centenarians have that we don't?

The good news is that genetics doesn't have much to do with their longevity. But lifestyle does. And lifestyle can be emulated. So if you have any interest in cutting the rug on your 100th birthday, I'm about to give you the scoop on living longer and better.

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Grief and Loss: 6 Steps on the Path to Healing

Grief and Loss

Are you suffering the pain that comes with grief and loss in your life?

If so, I extend thoughts of loving kindness your way.

If so, I can empathize with you.

Some years of your life are characterized by loss, and this has been such a year for me — maybe for you too. I have experienced loss by death, betrayal, promises broken, children growing, my youth departing, and people changing in ways I'd not anticipated.

These are all normal life disruptions, but this year they have crashed together like a 10-car pile-up, happening so quickly one after another that I've barely had time to catch my breath.

None of them alone have been debilitating, but the accumulative effects of all of them have found me falling in potholes of grief that appear unexpectedly. One moment all is well, the next my heart is in a vice, and I've completely lost my footing.

If you are experiencing loss, and the grief from loss, you know what I mean.

The big losses, like death and divorce, serve up enough platefuls of grief to keep you reeling for months or years. But even less dramatic life events and changes can feel like profound loss and cause us plenty of pain and heartache. These are some of them:

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Life After Death and Steve Job’s Last Words

“Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent.” ~Steve Jobs

I will preface this post by telling you that I'm neither a believer nor a non-believer. I am a firm “I-don't-knower.”

I don't know what happens after death. I know what I'd like to believe. I know the idea of “lights out and we're gone” is very disconcerting to my psyche and ego. But I really  just don't know what happens.

I read an article this week written about Steve Job's sister, Mona Simpson, who gave a eulogy for her brother that was printed in Sunday's New York Times. The article and Steve Job's last words got me thinking about what happens at the moments of death and what might happen after.

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What You Absolutely Must Know About Millions of Girls

Were you once a young teenage girl, or do you have a daughter or a niece? What was life like for you then? What was (or is) life like for your daughter or niece?

My 14-year-old daughter went to her homecoming dance this weekend.

She wore a beautiful dress that I paid for and went to a friend's 5000 square foot mini-mansion to get dressed and take pictures before the dance.

She came home to the safety and comfort of her own bed, waking to the predictable routine of a typical American teenage girl — school, hanging out with friends, after-school activities, homework, a healthy meal, and a warm bed.

Because she was born in the U.S. to educated, caring parents, my daughter has everything she needs to succeed in life. Her future is bright.

But here's something you absolutely must know about millions of girls in the world . . .

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A Midlife Anti-Crisis: Transform Upheaval Into Renewal

Looking at some statistics on the demographic of my readers, I see that many of you are either approaching midlife or smack in the middle of it. Welcome to my world.

I'm not quite sure what midlife is any more.

When I was born, life expectancy was an average of somewhere around 70 years old. Now it's around 80. And new advances in science and technology are suggesting that living to 100 or beyond is not so far-fetched anymore.

So if you are anywhere from 35-55, you could be considered middle aged.

When I was a twenty-something, just the word “midlife” made me cringe. It felt like the peak of a downhill slope — like what could only be characterized as the beginning of the end of real living.

No more tight butt and flat stomach. No more carefree fun. No more energy and spontaneity.

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How One Small Action Can Lead to 150 Pounds of Change

Truth About Abs

I'd like to invite you to stop reading for a moment, and think about one change you would like to make in your life.

Would you like to lose weight?

Would you like to make more money?

Would you like a more fulfilling career?

Would you like more friends?

Would you like to learn a new language?

Would you like a better relationship with your spouse?

Whatever it is you would like to change or create in your life, consider how much time you have spent thinking about this thing. Have you ever noticed how much time we spend in our heads, thinking and worrying about the things we want ? Compare that to the amount of time we spend actually doing something about those things.

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