Your Most Valuable Coping Skills When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

A guest post by David Singer of Six Simple Rules

Late last year we went through a challenging few weeks at home when our teenage daughter battled a significant, but fortunately temporary, illness. It was an experience that was extremely unnerving, to say the least.

Just before this past Thanksgiving, my daughter Julie, age 17, came home from school complaining that she felt sick. She had a fever and so she took some Tylenol, went to bed early, and skipped school the next day, the day before Thanksgiving.

She then spent all Thanksgiving day in bed, suffering from headaches, fever, lack of appetite, and complete exhaustion. We brought her to the pediatrician on Friday and the doctor said it appeared that Julie had a bad virus.

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Want to Still Be Dancing at 100? Do This, Not That

There are pockets in the world where people live longer.

Not just a little longer, but many years past the average life expectancy.

In fact, in some of these places, people have three times the chance of living to 100 than Americans do. Ouch.

And they aren’t warehoused in a nursing home or confined to a wheelchair. They are still active, engaged in life, and happy. They enjoy living and prefer it to the alternative.

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Grief and Loss: 6 Steps on the Path to Healing

Grief and Loss

Are you suffering the pain that comes with grief and loss in your life?

If so, I extend thoughts of loving kindness your way.

If so, I can empathize with you.

Some years of your life are characterized by loss, and this has been such a year for me — maybe for you too.

I have experienced loss by death, betrayal, promises broken, children growing, my youth departing, and people changing in ways I’d not anticipated.

These are all normal life disruptions, but this year they have crashed together like a 10-car pile-up, happening so quickly one after another that I’ve barely had time to catch my breath.

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Life After Death and Steve Job’s Last Words

“Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent.” ~Steve Jobs

I will preface this post by telling you that I’m neither a believer nor a non-believer. I am a firm “I-don’t-knower.”

I don’t know what happens after death. I know what I’d like to believe. I know the idea of “lights out and we’re gone” is very disconcerting to my psyche and ego. But I really  just don’t know what happens.

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What You Absolutely Must Know About Millions of Girls

Were you once a young teenage girl, or do you have a daughter or a niece? What was life like for you then? What was (or is) life like for your daughter or niece?

My 14-year-old daughter went to her homecoming dance this weekend.

She wore a beautiful dress that I paid for and went to a friend’s 5000 square foot mini-mansion to get dressed and take pictures before the dance.

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A Midlife Anti-Crisis: Transform Upheaval Into Renewal

Looking at some statistics on the demographic of my readers, I see that many of you are either approaching midlife or smack in the middle of it. Welcome to my world.

I’m not quite sure what midlife is any more.

When I was born, life expectancy was an average of somewhere around 70 years old. Now it’s around 80. And new advances in science and technology are suggesting that living to 100 or beyond is not so far-fetched anymore.

So if you are anywhere from 35-55, you could be considered middle aged.

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How One Small Action Can Lead to 150 Pounds of Change

Truth About Abs

I’d like to invite you to stop reading for a moment, and think about one change you would like to make in your life.

Would you like to lose weight?

Would you like to make more money?

Would you like a more fulfilling career?

Would you like more friends?

Would you like to learn a new language?

Would you like a better relationship with your spouse?

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How to Lighten Up

“Man, unlike the animal, has never learned that the sole purpose of life is to enjoy it.” ~Samuel Butler

I love my work. I really love it deep down in my bones and could sit at my computer all day writing and creating and connecting with other people.

Yes, I realize how wonderful it is to feel passionate about my work, but I’m also learning how important it is to step away from it — frequently.

A healthy lifestyle requires balance, which means we have to lighten up sometimes.

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