60 Questions To Ask Yourself To Create “Aha” Moments
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Good questions are powerful. They force answers.
Deep and compelling questions force us to think profoundly and examine ourselves.
Sometimes they challenge our beliefs about what we “know” to be true.
I use probing questions to help my life coaching clients elicit insights, uncover buried beliefs and reach conclusions about who they are and what they want in life.
Then they have to ponder the question, which often leaves an uncomfortable silence, requiring them to articulate what comes to mind.
In that uncomfortable space, the subconscious mind goes into action, and often small breakthroughs and “aha” moments are the result.
But you don't need a coach to trigger these insightful moments about your life.
If you know the right questions to ask, you can ask them of yourself to encourage the same insights and self-awareness.
However, some people have difficulty asking themselves the kind of questions that lead to self-awareness and change.
Understanding the reasons why it's challenging and how to move past your fears can help you learn to coach yourself to new mindsets and positive change.
To help you navigate these important questions, there is a table of contents below that will help you “hop” to a specific area.
Why It's Difficult to Ask Yourself Direct Questions
When people are resisting the inner work it requires to explore powerful questions, it could be for one of the following reasons:
- It's uncomfortable to face certain truthful questions about yourself.
- You fear the necessary changes the questions will provoke.
- You don't want to experience the possible pain of self-reflection.
- You feel confused about what your next steps should be.
- You worry your new awareness might negatively impact a relationship.
All of these are valid reasons to feel hesitant about exploring your inner world through questioning — but don't let them sidetrack you from this valuable work.
Right now is the best time to begin this self-exploration!
The only way to grow and evolve to a new level of happiness, self-confidence, and inner peace is by exploring what is holding you back and then taking action to move forward.
There are ways you can make the process less daunting and even something you look forward to.
I suggest you get a notebook or journal and write your questions on paper in longhand (not typing).
Close your eyes, take a few deep, cleansing breaths, and repeatedly ask yourself the question out loud or in your head.
Then start writing what comes to your mind.
You might consider asking yourself penetrating questions every week and writing your initial thoughts.
Then come back to the question over the subsequent days to create action steps to implement any changes the questions invite.
Some questions might compel you to meet with other people, seek advice or counsel, or make physical changes in your environment.
Other good questions to ask yourself might be around:
- Creating new habits
- Breaking old patterns
- Overhauling an entire area of your life
As you have certain insights around these profound life questions, you might experience grief, remorse, or regret — but you also might experience elation, freedom, and surprise.
Allow yourself to feel these feelings, knowing they will pass in time.
As you make positive changes based on your responses to these questions, your initial reactions will ultimately transform into contentment and inner peace.
Here is a list of 60 questions to ask yourself to create “aha” moments:
Who Am I Questions to Ask Yourself
1. What legacy am I leaving the world after I'm gone?
2. How am I living or behaving inauthentically?
3. What (or who) am I tolerating that I really don't want in my life?
4. How am I making choices based on “I should” rather than “I desire”?
5. How am I behaving as a reactor rather than an initiator?
6. How am I censoring what I really think or feel because I'm afraid?
7. Where do I have a “lack” mentality?
8. What negative thought patterns do I have consistently?
9. Are my beliefs about life, religion, my kids, my family, my spouse, other people, or politics the absolute truth?
10. What do I feel passionate about, and how can I spend more time on my passion?
11. How does my work reflect my passions, skills, and interests?
12. How does my living space reflect my inner world?
13. How am I mistreating my body or compromising my health?
14. How do I feel I'm not deserving or worthy?
15. How am I living a life someone else has defined for me?
16. What makes me consistently happy?
17. What is my vision for the next five years?
Deep Questions to Ask Yourself
18. How am I living outside of my integrity and out-of-alignment with my values?
19. What am I leaving unresolved or unfinished that needs my attention?
20. What am I struggling against that I can simply release?
21. What deep needs do I have that aren't getting met?
22. Where am I making my life more complicated or difficult than it has to be?
23. How could I be more engaged in life?
24. If I died tomorrow, what would I regret not doing?
25. How am I using tasks, television, work, or the computer to avoid facing something?
26. How much time do I spend dwelling on the past or worrying about the future?
27. What events from my past are hindering my ability to live in the present?
28. In what parts of my life do I need to create actionable goals?
29. In what ways am I allowing fear of change to hold me back from growth?
30. How am I spending too much time on things that aren't my priorities?
31. Where do I need more learning or skills in order to make the next leap?
32. What do I allow to distract me from really living?
33. What has my intuition been telling me that I might be ignoring?
34. What really pushes my buttons that doesn't need to?
35. What drains my energy (people or situations) and how can I change it?
36. How am I being irresponsible or unwise financially?
37. What parts of my home don't reflect who I am?
38. What do I need to do to take the next big leap in my personal growth?
39. In what ways is longing for an outcome preventing me from enjoying the journey?
40. How am I holding back love for myself?
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Questions to Ask Yourself in A Relationship
41. How am I not accepting someone I love for who they really are?
42. In what ways do I diminish other people to make myself feel better?
43. Where am I holding back forgiveness?
44. How do the people who surround me reflect who I am?
45. How do I allow other people to cross my boundaries?
46. What vulnerabilities am I afraid to share with the people who love me?
47. How am I getting too caught up in other people's problems?
48. How am I fully present with the people I love when I'm with them?
49. How am I manipulating someone in order to get my needs met?
50. What relationships require more of my time and nurturing?
51. How have I created a miscommunication or misunderstanding?
52. How am I waiting for someone else to solve my problems?
53. What would my friends and family say are my strengths?
54. What would my friends and family say are my weaknesses?
55. How am I violating someone else's boundaries when I know I shouldn't?
56. How am I denying my own role in a relationship problem?
57. Where am I prioritizing money and material things over relationships and my values?
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58. How am I helping others become their best selves?
59. How am I afraid to show or express love?
60. What expectations do I have for my kids that are more for me than them?
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Did you find any value from these questions about yourself?
I hope you enjoyed these questions and found that some of them triggered a new level of awareness for you and what you need to work on in your life.
You may find in time that answers to these questions will continue to arise in your psyche.
One simple question about yourself can unlock so many insights if you pay attention.
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