Looking for more mindful singles like yourself?
Having trouble finding others who are as interested as you in conscious dating and friendship building — rather than quick and easy hook-ups?
Then you’ll love the idea of mindful dating and our list of mindful dating apps.
We did some digging and found seven of the most innovative dating apps for value-minded singles looking for real and lasting connections.
And these apps make it as fun and stress-free as possible.
The makers of these apps did their research to find out what their ideal members want in a dating app. And the results will have you thinking, “Well, it’s about time someone did that!”
- What is Mindfulness Dating?
- 11 Best Mindful Dating Resources for 2021
- 1. Meetmindful
- 2. Bumble
- 3. Sapio
- 4. HER
- 5. Coffee Meets Bagel
- 6. Silver Singles
- 7. Zoosk.com
- 8. Spiritual Singles: Facilitating Conscious Connections
- 9. Woo Plus: The Dating App for Curvy People to Enjoy Dating and Find Love
- 10. dharmaMatch
- 11. Natural Awakenings Singles
- Did you find the best mindful dating site or app for you?
What is Mindfulness Dating?
Mindful dating is officially a thing — and not just a passing thing. It's the best way to engage with someone you date in a conscious and fully present way.
Mindful dating involves:
- Being present and engaged with the other person (without checking your phone constantly or looking around at other people).
- Practicing active listening and asking questions that reflect your interest.
- Initiating good conversation topics to keep the flow of conversation going.
- Bringing positive energy and an optimistic outlook to the encounter.
- Showing genuine interest in the authentic person you are meeting — not just their looks, career, or income.
- Being confident and authentic yourself so you present an honest reflection of yourself.
- Leaving stress and anxiety at the door and simply enjoying yourself and the other person — even if they aren't the “one.”
- Avoiding over-sharing or asking questions that are too personal.
- Avoiding complaining, negative gossip, or crude language.
- Not getting too physical before you have a chance to know your date better.
Dating is already stressful and confusing enough, and if you're looking for a like-minded, positive person, you have to sort through a lot of noise and not-so-attractive personalities to find your match.
These days, it's hard to meet someone out and about or at a social gathering. And there are so many dating sites that only give you a superficial glimpse of random strangers.
But what if you could meet someone who shares your interest in mindfulness and authentic, soul-level relationships? And what if there were resources to help you sort through all the noise to find these people?
We have you covered with some sites and apps that do just that. So, dig in and see what you’ve been missing.
11 Best Mindful Dating Resources for 2021
Go ahead and check out a few of these — or at least the one that stands out to you the most (in a good way). And don’t forget to spread the word when you find what you’ve been looking for.
The MeetMindful app is for singles who are interested in finding others with an interest in living more mindfully.
In the MeetMindful community, you’ll find others committed to meditation, holistic health, and living with intention.
It’s dating for people who are dedicated to living in the moment.
MeetMindful reviews have been mixed. Most reviewers love the idea behind the app which targets those with an “awakened mind” who want to live positively and explore their potential for growth.
But the membership base still isn’t as huge as on more popular sites like Match.com, so while the match results might look impressive globally, you might not find many (or any) close to home.
Because most singles — whatever they’re in to — go where the numbers are.
But, after all, there’s nothing wrong with using MeetMindful along with other dating apps that have a larger member base.
If you’d like to give it a try, free membership gives you daily matches, three likes per day, and basic filtering. You can message others but only when the decision to interact is mutual.
Premium membership is ad-free, gives you unlimited likes, and allows you to message anyone at any time. You also get to personalize your preferences and see who liked you.
The MeetMindful cost per month decreases when you invest in a longer-term membership, as you’ll see from the rates below:
- 1 week = $14.00
- 1 month = $29.00
- 3 months = $49.00 (about $16/month)
- 6 months = $79.00 (about $13/month)
- 12 months = $109.00 (about $9/month)
Bumble goes beyond dating to help people find new friends and business contacts.
On Bumble, the woman makes the first move, leveling the playing field and making this app a safer environment for building new connections (while avoiding pervs).
Bumble believes all relationships should begin with equality and respect.
Bumble is also free and, according to their website, always will be. There are a few premium options, though, to enhance your experience — including Bumble Boost and Bumble Coins.
On Bumble Bizz, you can expand your professional network, pursue a new career, become a mentor, or find one for yourself.
It’s all about building respectful and mutually beneficial relationships.
Bumble BFF helps you find new besties who live in your area — which is a huge help when you’ve just moved and are wondering how to make the most of your new locale.
You can also connect your Spotify and/or Instagram account to your Bumble account, giving your Bumble peeps access to more of you.
Sapio asks open-ended questions to get to know you and find people whose answers are similar to your own. You still have access to photos, filtering tools, and other dating app features.
But once you answer Sapio’s questions, you get to see how others answered, too — so you can find people who make you think, “I like the way your mind works.”
This app revolves around smart and value-forward conversations so you won’t get many random “Hey!” messages from members looking for a quick hook-up.
Basic membership is free, and it’s well worth checking out, if only to explore and appreciate the thinking behind this app and the members who, like you, value deeper connections and conversations.
The app itself is a work in progress, though, and since it currently has terrible reviews from its Apple and Android users, you might start with the basic (free) membership and make sure it doesn’t crash your phone before you pay for premium features.
The HER app caters to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s designed by and for lesbian and queer “womxn” and is the largest and most loved dating app for LGBTQ+ women.
This app goes beyond casual hook-ups to help members build real connections.
The app shares LGBTQ+ news and events in your area and provides a safe space for womxn to chat, make friends, and arrange to meet.
HER even hosts parties and social events for their members in 15 cities around the world.
Whether you’re interested in looking for a supportive friend and conversation partner, a girlfriend, the love of your life, or just a fun date, all the core features of this app are completely free.
Members describe the app as friendly, fun, and safe.
For premium features — like seeing who’s online now or filtering by sexuality — you can upgrade at the following rates:
- 1 month = $14.99
- 6 months = $59.99 (about $10/month)
- 12 months = $89.99 (about $7.50/month)
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This app uses a smart algorithm to send women up to six potential matches or “bagels” — and not just random dudes but men who have already “liked” their profile — every day.
Then it leaves it up to her to decide whether to like or pass on any of them.
The women behind the app recognized that, with most apps, men are a LOT more active than women, and when they asked what women really want in a dating app, the answers were pretty consistent:
- Quality guys (who aren’t just looking for a one-night stand)
- No creeps — or at least a lot fewer of them
- Quick and easy access to guys who already like their profiles
- A safe place to connect with those guys before meeting for coffee, etc.
While basic dating app features are free, premium membership has its perks — like activity reports, read receipts (so you know when a message you’ve sent has been read), and bonus “beans” (which are CMB currency for purchases at the Bean Shop).
You can earn free beans, buy them upfront, or get 6,000 each month by upgrading to premium membership, the cost of which depends on the option you choose:
- 1 month = $35
- 3 months = $75 ($25/month)
- 6 months = $120 ($20/month)
This app is exclusively for men and women of 50 or more years.
To sign up, you’ll take a personality test and start building your dating profile —both of which help the app’s algorithm find and send you new matches every day.
SilverSingles provides a safe, stress-free environment to connect with other members before meeting them face to face.
Matches are based on compatibility and aren’t limited by location.
The basic membership is free but provides limited access to features and profiles. You’re able to take the personality test and create a profile, and you do get a taste of what the app has to offer.
Premium membership erases the limits, giving you full access to the app’s features and to member profiles, making it far easier to find and connect with other members.
You can sign up for premium membership at the following rates – which are, admittedly, much higher than for any of the other apps listed here:
- 3 months = $134.85 ($44.95/month)
- 6 months = $209.70 ($34.95/month)
- 12 months = $299.40 ($24.95/month)
Download Zoosk as an iOS app, an Android app, or an Amazon store app, and find potential matches in one of the following ways:
- Carousel — allows you to quickly go through profiles by gamifying the dating experience
- SmartPick — shows you people Zoosk thinks you’d connect best with, based on your profile.
- Advanced search filters — helps you zero in on the kind of dating prospects you’re particularly interested in finding
Since Zoosk filters profiles based on their location, you’ll have an easier time finding good prospects close to where you live.
It also verifies member photos to make sure the person you’re interacting with actually looks like their profile pic. And if a member claims to be in the military, Zoosk can either verify or disprove the claim.
Subscription cost depends on how many months you pay for at the outset, and any of the following options auto-renew unless you cancel or renew at a different rate:
- 1 month = $29.99
- 3 months = $59.99 (about $20/month)
- 6 months = $74.99 (about $15/month)
- 12 months = $99.99 (under $9/month)
This dating service caters to singles looking to build a deep spiritual connection with someone, whatever their age, race, sexual orientation, gender identity, or spiritual views.
Spiritual Singles is part of the Conscious Dating Network (CDN), the oldest and largest network of online dating sites serving “Spiritual / Conscious” and Green / Eco-Friendly” singles.
CDN focuses on the member experience and has made changes based on user feedback and suggestions. Without spending anything, you can create a profile and do the following:
- Browse profiles of other members
- Save your favorites, and even say “Hello” with a pre-written message.
- Reply to messages sent to you.
- IM subscribing members who IM you, and
- Receive matches based on the preferences you indicate in your profile.
Your options for a paid subscription cost either $23 a month (paying monthly) or $72 up front for a 6-month membership ($12 a month). Paid subscribers can do the following:
- Send messages of their own making (up to 50/day).
- Attach an image to a personal message.
- Initiate unlimited IMs with paid or free subscribers
- Upload up to 20 photos
- Upload up to 2 videos in addition to their first (free) video
Woo Plus is the most popular online dating site for big, beautiful women (BBW), big, handsome men (BHM), and all those who love plus-size singles.
Whether you describe yourself as “curvy,” “full-figured,” or simply “beautiful,” you’ll find people here who see and appreciate you. And if you’re looking for a partner who’s curvy or whose hugs warm you to your core, sign up and create a profile, so you can start browsing.
Send likes in “For You” and “Say Hi” to take the initiative and reach out to someone whose profile speaks to you. Check out “Moments” to see posts from users around the world.
You’ll find this site featured on 50+ major media outlets like BBC, Yahoo, People Magazine, Mirror, etc. It’s free to join, and you can start connecting with curvy people and curve-lovers within minutes of signing up.
Apps are available for both iOS and Android devices.
As the longest-running dating site inspired by the timeless notions of dharma and karma, this is a place where members can feel comfortable sharing their beliefs as Hindus, Buddhists, Yogis, or anyone keen to learn more about Eastern spiritual traditions.
While the meaning of the word dharma varies from one Eastern tradition to the next, the site’s creators define it as “be our best selves, every day,” which comes closest to its meaning in Hinduism.
For its creators and all who join to find a match, the overall goal of the site is to do good in the world. This philosophy is manifest in their policies for members:
- A fair and up-front refund policy (for paid subscribers)
- Enhanced privacy for member data
- Readiness to make changes based on user feedback and suggestions
- Donating a portion of annual net proceeds to charitable causes chosen by voting members every fall
As a free member, you can create a profile and post your photos, search or browse profiles, send a “smile” to someone you like, and receive and reply to e-mail messages.
With a Gold membership, you get full functionality with the ability to send more than a smile to someone you like and to initiate contact with someone new.
The website looks similar to Spiritual Singles because it belongs to the Conscious Dating Network (CDN). Like all sites in the network, Natural Awakenings is open to members of all spiritual views, ages, genders, and sexual orientations.
Look through the list of values for Natural Awakenings members, and you’ll no doubt feel a similar vibe to the one you feel while browsing other CDN dating sites. If more than one of those values strikes a chord, you’re likely to meet other singles who can say the same.
With either free or paid membership, you’ll create an in-depth profile (which takes browsing to another level) and set “Matchmaker Preferences,” so the suggested matches you receive are more likely to appeal to you.
The benefits for free and paid membership are the same as for Spiritual Singles. And the cost for upgrading is the same for both: $23 a month for monthly memberships and $12 a month for a 6-month membership (with $72 paid up front).
Did you find the best mindful dating site or app for you?
Now that you’ve been initiated into the world of mindful dating, why not take a tour of one or more of these apps to see what they offer and whom you might find?
A week from now, you could be chatting happily with your own mindful match.
Maybe you’ll go out for coffee (or other drinks) and you’ll talk as though you’ve known each other for ages.
So, enjoy that. Buy yourself a coffee (or something you like) to celebrate signing up for an app that could lead you to a wonderful new friendship, even if it doesn’t lead you to the love of your life by the end of your first month.
Who knows what could happen, though?
Whatever you decide, may your mindfulness and your sense of adventure influence everything you do today.