“The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.”~ Arthur C. Clark
This is a guest post by Aileen Mahoney of Kaizen Vision.
How many times have you surprised yourself and done something you had once only hoped to do, or done something you thought was impossible?
Even though I’ve surprised myself many times, I can still get caught up in doubt. Often we think that once we achieve success or fulfill our dreams, we then get the prize of staying “there” for the rest of our lives. Actually, there is no “there,” we’re always a work in progress with new heights to reach for and new breakthroughs before us. No matter how much we achieve, new obstacles will present themselves and to varying degrees our doubts, fears and hesitations will accompany them.
Whether or not you've ever gone beyond your limitations or only just hoped to, it’s something we can all do. Sometimes we just need some extra help and a good boost.
“What we can or cannot do,
what we consider possible or impossible,
is rarely a function of our true capability.
It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”
~ Tony Robbins ~
It takes a strong desire, discipline and determination to dig into the depths of self-development and really work on ourselves. It’s the easiest thing to put off doing. We come up against our own levels of resistance and often don’t even recognize it. We avoid doing the inner-work by tricking our minds and coming up with all sorts of creative excuses like fatigue or busyness.
Sometimes we inadvertently use our intelligence and creativity to keep us bound to and barricaded in our comfort zone. It’s an interesting phenomenon how we individuals can be our own best friend and our worst enemy.
We can become stuck at different times throughout life, or find ourselves lost in transition seemingly unable to break through. We all deserve a great life experience, but we have to earn it.
10 Tips to help you Break Through Your Limitations
1. Seek Guidance – Work with a mentor or a life coach. They can be the very thing you need to push you through your limitations.
2. Action Plan – Take the time to write out your dream or goal. Write or draw the big picture of how you would like your life to be 10 years from now, 5 years from now, One year from now and then break down the one year from now into smaller steps or goals with deadlines. Design your action plan and be open to revising it as needed
3. Commit – Guard a period of time and keep that weekly appointment with yourself. During that time, verbalize how well you stayed on your action plan this week. Look at your successes and your misses for the week. Look at what you might do differently and revise your action plan as needed. It will keep progress alive and maintain your commitment.
4. Journal – Have a nightly appointment with yourself where you journal your daily successes and your misses. Small successes can build our confidence. When we write them down and we see them in front of us in a journal of other successes, it's harder to give up because you can't really deny your success when you're looking at them. With your misses or little failures, simply determine what if anything you could do differently. Review your action plan to keep it fresh in your mind and allow it to strengthen your commitment.
5. Partner – Success is easier when supported. You can be a lone warrior shattering your limitations and holding yourself accountable if you want to, but it’s much, much easier when you have a support system. Find a partner you can count on or create a meet-up group for people with similar aspirations. It's okay if it's just you at first… big beautiful gardens can start from a single seed.
6. Question – Question your limitations, it weakens them. “Am I really going to let myself down this time? Am I really going to allow myself to sabotage this and not go for it.” Question yourself into doubting your limitation!
7. Self-talk – Have a conversation with your best self, the version of you who is optimistic, resourceful and encouraging. Remind yourself of your successes or how you’ve conquered some of your limitations.
8. Visualize – Make a vision board or hang up images of what it is that you desire. Visualize yourself experiencing the reality. Shakti Gawain wrote a brilliant book on how to visualize, Creative Visualization
9. Dare Yourself – Dare to do the thing you are having a hard time with. If being shy or introverted is your perceived limitation, dare yourself to go to a networking event and dare yourself to strike up a conversation with at least two people. It's okay if you only stay for 30 minutes, just dare yourself to do it. Dare to adventure into the thing you feel is holding you back, that thing you're not yet good at. Challenge yourself in small ways. It builds your courage to go for bigger things.
10. Do – Take big steps, small steps, heck just take any steps as long as they're in the direction toward your dreams. Momentum happens when we begin to take action.
So get out there! Be bold and push your limits. It's the only way to make the impossible possible.
“Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” ~ Goethe
Aileen is a lover of dance and the performing arts. She writes about cultivating mind, body and spirit through continuous small improvements on her blog, Kaizen Vision. She is the Section Editor for The Daily Brainstorm, News and Views section.