Write It Out, Don’t Fight It Out: How To Use Letters To Heal Your Relationship

Does communicating with your partner sometimes feel impossible?

Do you wish you could just stop arguing and talk without defensiveness and hurt feelings?

Are there things you want to say or ask but feel too uncomfortable or embarrassed?

Sometimes communicating verbally can make a relationship issue worse rather than better, because things get too emotional or awkward.

You get wounded or angry. One of you stonewalls or walks away. You feel disrespected, unheard, and misunderstood.

You could try couple's therapy, but before you do, there's another way to communicate that's free, easy, and potentially life-changing for your relationship — writing letters.

When talking breaks down or gets testy, writing letters to each other is a highly effective way to communicate in your love relationship or marriage.

That's why I've written my latest book, Write It Out, Don’t Fight It Out: How to Use Letters to Heal Your Relationship When Talking Gets Tough.

I have written this book for couples who want to communicate better and develop a deeper connection, but find that talking frequently breaks down — especially during conflict.

It's also for those who feel uncomfortable verbally stating their needs, sharing their feelings, or talking about uncomfortable topics.

Letter writing allows you to slow down, consider your words, and articulate them in the spirit of love and kindness, even with the most difficult and painful situations.

Writing your feelings and needs in a thoughtful way also sets the tone for healthier dialogue, as you can bypass hurtful words and angry reactions.

You can use a letter to initiate a verbal discussion on a sensitive topic (like sex or money) without the intense emotions that can arise with face-to-face conversation.

In Write It Out, Don't Fight It Out, you'll discover:

  • Why letters work and when to use them
  • Why conflict is valuable and common areas of conflict
  • 4 communication killers that make talking impossible
  • How great letters lead to better conversations
  • What to do if one partner doesn't participate
  • 82 letter writing templates for 21 common relationship topics

With these empowering letter writing templates, you'll have the phrases and words you need at your fingertips, so you can communicate in a healthy, healing way. You'll know exactly what to say in the situations that make talking tough for both of you.

Here is the download link for the book: https://liveboldandbloom.com/writeit-book

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Does communicating with your partner sometimes feel impossible? Learn the power of writing letters to heal your relationship.

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Jennifer Jane lopez

I have been keeping a journal along with drawings for the last 34years.
When I discovered my husband was having an affair, my journal became my trusted partner. The world felt unreal and writing was my only real connection.
After four years of trying to work it out together, his continued deception has deteriorated our relationship and our family with ongoing domestic violence.

Although I filed for divorce several months ago, he will not leave our house to re-establish his separate but at the same time, he continues to use manipulation tactics such as gaslighting and triangular relationships. Looking back at the last 26 years we have been married, I now have the awareness I deserved to have all along.

In addition to my ongoing journal, are consistent emails and letters I have written to him throughout that same time period. I thought it very confusing that he made little or no effort to reply to me. But I still kept trying……..

Losing my attachment with him has surprisingly opened up doors for me.
Regardless of what he does or does not do, I am slowly beginning to find myself again.
Every so often, I will revisit letters over the years and can fully acknowledge my efforts. I realized that I had already done everything I could to encourage open communication between us, yet “the letters never came.”

Nor did our reconciliation.

My journey through this situation has given me a better understanding than I could have imagined.

Writing letters to myself and others has been a significant part of my life for a reason. I have kept in touch with my elderly relatives and “best friends” that way.
Realizing there had been no real reply from him, allowed me to see it in black and white, AND helped me “move on.”

writing it all out has been my biggest “tool of survival.”


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