Are you married or in a committed relationship?
Do you desire a close, emotionally intimate, loving connection with your partner or spouse?
If so, creating this relationship is one of the best things you can do for your overall happiness and satisfaction in life. According to a study published in the December 2011 edition of the Journal of Happiness Studies, "Having a satisfying romantic relationship is important for retaining and increasing future life satisfaction." Says psychologist and relationship expert Arthur Aron in an interview with Tech Insider, "The single biggest predictor of human happiness is the quality of [a person's] relationships."
We all want a close, loving relationship and the happiness that comes from it, but creating and sustaining that connection can be really difficult. As much as we love this person, inevitably conflict, misunderstandings, and old wounds pull us apart and put a strain on the relationship.
Much of the discord in relationships stems from a lack of safe and respectful communication, where each partner is able to express their needs, fears, and desires without being judged or put down. In the heat of conflict, it's nearly impossible to show vulnerability or to listen to one another with heartfelt compassion and understanding.
That's why it's so important to create this safe space for communication before conflict occurs. One of the best ways to build a foundation of respect and understanding is through mutual questioning and listening. And that's why I've written my latest book: 201 Relationship: The Couple's Guide to Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy.