Trying To Please Everyone? 8 Proven Steps To Let It Go

unhappy friend, trying to please everyone

Do you feel attached to the positive reinforcement you receive when making others happy?

Is your sense of worthiness connected to trying to please everyone?

If so, disappointing people, making them angry, or doing what others deem as unacceptable is deeply uncomfortable for you. 

You may also have a low tolerance for conflict. You often acquiesce to the wishes of others  — even when you don't agree.

You would rather act against your own desires rather than provoke a conflict.

Trying to please everyone can be addictive.

You become addicted to the approval and good feelings that come from making people happy and comfortable, as you tend to their needs over your own.

You crave this acceptance in order to feel validated.

You keep giving and giving to get your fix of approval and self-esteem.

Eventually, you begin to lose yourself.

You lose sight of who you are, what you want, or how to live your life on your own terms.

You've trained your friends and family to expect you'll bend to their will, follow their lead, and do it all with a smile on your face.

Any attempt at standing your ground is met with shock and disappointment — and sometimes outright anger.

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