6 Love Letters That Create A Sexier, Happier Relationship

How to Write a Love Letter

When was the last time you wrote a love letter to your spouse or partner?

I'm hearing crickets out there. A blank silence.

If you can't remember the last love letter you wrote, or if you've never hand-written a love letter (with an actual pen and paper), it's not surprising.

In this era of instant communication, an old-fashioned love letter might seem archaic and inefficient. Why cramp your fingers writing a letter when you can strengthen your thumbs with a quick text? "ILY, babe. UR awesome. (Heart emoji, smiling cat face emoji)."

Nothing expresses your heartfelt devotion like an electronic message, right?

Sarcasm aside, writing a love letter to your beloved the old-fashioned way -- with a pen, in longhand, on a piece of stationary -- is one of the most loving gestures you can offer.

Here's why:

Hand writing a letter shows you care enough to take the time and thought involved in a crafting something for your partner.

Writing out your feelings allows you to be more open and vulnerable with your partner, strengthening your intimacy and love.

Hand writing a letter forces you to slow down and carefully consider your words to better express your true feelings.

A handwritten letter is a romantic keepsake gift your partner will cherish for years.

Hand writing your thoughts and feelings will make you a better verbal communicator with your partner.

According to research conducted by relationship expert and author, Dr. John Gottman, the ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions with your partner has to be greater than five to one for your relationship to be happy and healthy.

In other words, you need five positive, loving encounters to mitigate every negative one. However, we tend to get complacent in our relationships, especially after negative events.  We often fail to initiate any meaningful positive encounters -- much less five.

Writing love letters is a perfect way to neutralize the conflicts and misunderstandings that arise between you and the one you love.

If you aren't sure how to write a love letter, here are 6 types you might consider.

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