Getting over a break-up is gut-wrenching. There’s no other word for it.
I have been both the recipient and the instigator of ending a relationship, and both scenarios create their own brand of personal anguish.
I still ache at the feelings of rejection I experienced when I heard the words, “I want to break up.”
And I feel a surge of sadness and guilt recalling the times I had to say, “I’m sorry but this isn’t working out.”
For me, the end of a romantic relationship almost felt like a death, as I invest so much emotional energy into the connection. Getting past a breakup always required that I go through the typical stages of grief and loss.
There’s just no easy way around the painful ending of a romance, no matter how much you want to move on. You have to go through the pain to get to the other side.
But I do understand the longing to be over your ex as quickly as possible.
You want to wipe your mind clean of the memories and scrub every last bit of his or her scent from your bed, your sofa, and your clothes.
And yet … you can’t.
You still love this person. Or you think you do. Or you think you don’t.
You’re not really sure of anything anymore.
How do you move on when you don’t know what to do? How do you move on when you’re not sure if you should? How do you move on when your heart doesn’t want to give up?
You may never forget your ex. You may never stop loving her. You may never heal the wounds and scars he left on your heart.
But, unless you take steps to recover from a relationship beyond repair, you’ll be forever stuck in one painful place while the world continues to turn.