21 Heartbreaking Characteristics Of Emotionally Unavailable Men

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Being with an emotionally unavailable man can make a woman doubt herself and question whether or not her guy really trusts and loves her.

It's extremely painful to feel shut out by your partner and unable to connect on a deep and intimate level.

Most women want to be in a relationship in which they can fully express themselves and feel heard and understood.

They also want a man who is willing to share his emotions and show some vulnerability.

When he does this, a man is showing his woman that he trusts and cares for her enough to reveal his inner world.

When the woman doesn't judge or criticize when her guy opens up, he feels validated — and she feels loved and respected.

It's a win for both partners.

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Why Do Women Stay In Bad Relationships?

Why Do Women Stay In Abusive Relationships

From an outsider's perspective, it seems pretty straightforward. If someone is abusing you, physically, verbally, or emotionally — you leave.

Why would you stay with someone who is causing you pain, making you afraid, or even damaging your children?

Why would you put up with such despicable, destructive behavior from the person who is supposed to love you the most?

It might seem clear to those who aren't in an abusive relationship, but the reality is far from simple. Abusive relationships are like spider webs that trap the victim in a cycle of confusion, fear, hope, and despair. The complexity of these relationships is hard to understate.

The man who was once caring and charismatic has turned into a Dr. Jekell – Mr. Hyde whose behavior is unpredictable, manipulative, and even violent. The poison of abuse can be subtle and insidious at first, only to escalate as the victim becomes more compliant and fearful.

Through the fog of fear and shame, a woman who is a victim of abuse doesn't see a clear way to extricate herself. She often feels she is to blame for the abuse or that leaving the relationship will make her life worse than it is.

You might think abuse only occurs to a certain kind of women, someone who isn't smart or educated enough to get out of harm's way and leave the relationship. But domestic abuse is far more common than you think.

According to an article in Time magazine, “One in four women experience domestic abuse in their lifetime, and it is one of the most chronically underreported crimes: only about one quarter of all physical assaults, one fifth of all rapes and one half of all stalkings are reported to the police.”

These statistics don't include other forms of abuse like verbal assaults and emotional abuse. Throw those in the mix, and it's likely some form of domestic abuse is happening to you or someone close to you.

In fact, emotional abuse can be more difficult to escape from for many women. The manipulation, isolation, verbal assaults, and passive-aggressive behaviors don't leave physical scars that others can see. The abuser often denies his abuse and tries to place the blame on his victim. This form of abuse erodes the victim's sense of self-worth and judgement. It is almost a form of brainwashing that keeps a woman bound to the person who causes her suffering.

Our society reinforces a women's shame and fear of leaving an abusive relationship by suggesting she is culpable for the abuse or by judging her inability to extricate herself. An important part of ending domestic abuse is through education and awareness for everyone, not just the victims.

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61 Devastating Signs Of Emotional Abuse In A Relationship

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Do you know the signs of emotional abuse in relationships from a spouse or romantic partner?

If not, you need to take an emotional abuse test or review the emotional abuse checklist below to see if you may be in this destructive type of relationship.

Nothing is more damaging to your confidence and self-esteem than being in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Unlike physical abuse, which rears its ugly head in dramatic outbursts, emotional abuse in a relationship can be more insidious and elusive.

In some cases, neither the emotional abuser nor the victim is fully aware that the abuse is happening.

The commonly assumed scenario for emotional abuse in an intimate relationship is one in which the man is an emotional abuser and the woman is the victim.

However, a variety of studies show that men and women abuse each other at equal rates.

In fact, mental abuse signs can be evident in any relationship — between parent and child, in friendships, with relatives, and at work.

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Is A Narcissistic Personality Bullying You?

Narcissistic Personality

You might initially be attracted to his confidence.

There's a part of you that feels excited, even lucky, to be in his presence.

His charm and charisma are intoxicating.

If you're a caring, sensitive person, you don't mind offering him praise, catering to his needs, and listening to his complaints. Little do you know that your highly sensitive nature is a magnet for a narcissist.

You are willing to give, give, give, and he (or sometimes she) is always ready to take, take, take.

It can take months, or even years to realize what's happening and how this person you care about is slowly sucking you dry, manipulating you, and bullying you into doing his bidding.

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