All problems in relationships boil down to one thing: lack of communication.
Whether our concerns relate to money, sex, kids, affection, career or any of the various reasons we fight or get angry, when we don't communicate our needs and discuss our differences, things will inevitably break down. You've been there. So have I.
We are turf-oriented creatures, even with our most intimate relationships. We want to protect what's ours -- emotionally, psychologically, and physically -- often at the expense of those we love most. Good and close relationships require letting go of some of that turf, compromising, and accepting that the other person's needs and feelings are as valid as our own. (more…)