5 Artful Ways To Keep a Conversation Going

Keep a conversation going


Have you ever found yourself talking to someone, and suddenly there's an awkward silence?

You panic because you can't think of anything else to talk about. Your face grows red and your brain goes blank, as you grasp for a verbal lifeline to save you from looking like a shuffling, mumbling idiot.

It happens to all of us -- we meet someone, chat for a few minutes, and then the conversation begins to stall. The weather has been covered. You know about each other's jobs. And you've talked about your kids. So now what?

The great gift of conversation lies less in displaying it ourselves than in drawing it out of others. He who leaves your company pleased with himself and his own cleverness is perfectly well pleased with you.  -Jean de la Bruyere

When you don't have strategies to keep a flagging conversation alive, it can rob you of the opportunity to get to know other people. It can also undermine your confidence to initiate a conversation in the first place.

It's common to encounter a few bumps when conversing socially, but knowing how to artfully keep the exchange alive can help you build meaningful and interesting relationships.

Here 5 strategies on how to keep a conversation going:

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