Emotional Abuse Breakthrough: Speak Up, Set Boundaries, And End The Abusive Behavior

Emotional Abuse

If you have been a victim of emotional abuse in your love relationship, or if you think your partner might be emotionally abusing you, please take a few minutes to read through this post.

Today I'm releasing my latest book called, Emotional Abuse Breakthrough: How to Speak Up, 
Set Boundaries, and 
Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Control with Your Abusive Partner

Here is a short excerpt from the book:

Emotional abuse is one of the most pervasive but least recognized kinds of abuse.

It can be as damaging as physical or sexual abuse and crosses all social classes, ethnic groups, sexual orientations, and religions.

The common denominators of abusers are not demographic but rather personal, social, and psychological.

The abuser in your life may be attentive and kind in public, but once you’re alone, the nasty behaviors and attitudes appear like clockwork.

He or she might wait until you are in front of family and friends, and then start to make a scene so you’ll quickly back down or comply.

You have become the emotional punching bag for your partner’s criticism, anger, put-downs, and cold shoulder.

The abuse can erupt over just about anything, from matters large to small, such as housework, friends, cooking, work, spending money, children, and going out.

As a result of your loss of self-esteem and your abuser’s denials, you may be confused about whether or not the attitudes and actions of your spouse or partner really qualify as emotional abuse.

To be abusive, the words and behaviors can’t be isolated or infrequent. It must be behavior that’s more the norm than the exception. The qualifiers for emotional abuse include consistency, repetition, duration, and intention.

The intention of control and hurt behind the anger is what jettisons the behavior into abusive anger that must be confronted and stopped.

There are emotional abusers who may be unaware that some of their behaviors or words are abusive. For example, someone whose parents were emotionally abusive may be repeating the behaviors they learned as children.

However, this lack of awareness doesn’t make it any less painful or destructive for the victims. Even if the abusers aren’t completely aware, they must notice the impact they are having on you.

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