10 Signs Of Real Friends And How To Identify Fake Friends

Fake friends vs. real friends


I deeply value the small circle of women in my life who are my closest friends, and I make a concerted effort to be a good friend to them.

Developing this amazing circle and becoming the kind of friend myself that I would like to have in others has taken a lot of time and energy.

It has taken years to realize exactly what I need in a friendship, how I want to relate to my friends, and how I want to feel when I'm around them.

In the past, I was not as mindful or intentional about my friendships. I focused more on trying to make myself fit into the friendship rather than finding friends who were a good match for me. I spent more effort than was reasonable trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

I sure wish I'd had more insight into myself and my friendship needs earlier in life. Maybe I would have avoided some painful experiences. Age and emotional maturity have helped me learn how to be a better friend and a better "friend picker."

Even so, I've learned so much from all of my friendships, including those that were difficult or ended badly. I'm grateful for all of them because they have enhanced my life and taught me valuable lessons.

Sometimes it's hard discern a true friend from one who is toxic, manipulative, or simply apathetic. It takes some time and life experience with a friend to learn whether or not they share your same friendship values.

If you have struggled with fake friends, here are some things you need to know.

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