21 Happy Thoughts To Help You Snap Out Of A Negativity Slump

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If I could offer you just one life-changing concept, it would be this . . .

Your thoughts determine your reality.

Now maybe this idea seems overly simple and self-evident.

But to really embrace this concept, for it to grow roots in your consciousness, and for you to use it as a manifesto for your life -- now that's a gift.

It has taken me years, maybe my entire life, to see how powerful this truth is and to put it into action on a daily basis.

It's not easy. It requires that you take full responsibility for the quality of your life. It also requires a daily, even hourly, wrestling match with your own mind.

Our natural tendency is to think negatively. You may have heard that we have around 60,000 thoughts a day, and that 80 percent of those thoughts are negative.

Unfortunately, based on something called the "negativity bias," we react more intensely to negative stimuli that positive. We feel a negative thought more profoundly that we do an equally powerful positive thought.

This negativity bias is an evolutionary adaptation that helped us survive the real and constant threats to life and limb, like a tiger chasing us. We no longer have the same life-or-death threats, but the fear-based thinking still persists.

Before you start thinking negatively about this negativity bias, let me offer you ray of hope. You can stand up to your negative thoughts, learn new thinking habits, and change the quality of your life.

Research continues to prove that practicing positive thinking and optimism not only makes you a happier person, but it also improves your health and longevity.

Even if you feel sad or depressed, changing your thinking habits can change your brain chemistry, helping you feel relief from the powerful, painful emotions you experience during these times.

So what's involved in transforming your thinking habits so that you have more happy thoughts and less negative thoughts? It involves these steps: (more…)

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