5 Random Acts of Kindness

Would you like to do something nice for someone you love this weekend? I'd like to do something nice for you —  if you agree to pass it on.

I'm going to give away five copies of my new guides (the full set), The Bold Living Guides, to five people who agree to pass on a copy to someone they care about. You can keep a copy for yourself,  and I'll  send a copy to your  loved one in your name as a surprise.

Here's what you do:

Make a comment about why you want these guides and why you want to pass them on.  Also, share one or more other ideas about fun and thoughtful random acts of kindness all of us might try this weekend or in the future.

To make it completely random, I will write down the names of all of the commenters, put them in a box, and draw five randomly. I'll announce the winners in my post on Monday.

Even if you aren't one of the five winners, please consider passing on a random act of kindness yourself!

You can start by sharing this post!

 

Comments

  1. I read your blog regularly, I’m not much of a commenter though. I admin a page on facebook, where I share your posts. I would love to be able to pass a copy to one of the fans of the page.

    My husband and I own a small business; we have placed fundraiser jars on our counter a couple of times and have been surprised by the amount of donations received through this. My husband would like to turn one of these into a Random Act of Kindness jar. By donating it to a local charity, surprising someone a little short on cash at the counter, etc. Just something different every time. We would do this in the name of our wonderful customers.

    Thank you,
    Vicki

  2. Such a generous offer, thanks! I learned of your site through Diana Baur of A Certain Simplicity a while back and am looking forward to learning more about you and your writings, hopefully through your guides — and I love passing on valuable info as well, both personally and through my site’s various social media outlets…will FB & tweet shortly! Opportunities for some of my favorite random acts of kindness present themselves daily: smiling and saying hello to someone, buying someone a coffee in the morning, telling someone they look nice/otherwise paying a compliment, visiting someone’s blog or FB page and leaving a comment/note (we bloggers especially know how lovely comments are!)…even simply RT’ing someone’s tweet can make another’s day 🙂

  3. I’d love to learn more about finding passion in life and I know my sister is interested in this as well but unlike me I feel she needs a little push to get her started. She talks a lot about doing something but won’t take the first step. I think this would be a great way to help her! I completely agree with Michelle that just smiling and saying hi! to someone can be a kind act. I am definitely big on compliments and just being there for people – listening when they need to vent or just buying someone a beer after a rough day and listening to them vent. Little things like that can mean a lot to people. This winter I’d like to knit scarves and mittens for homeless people.

  4. I would like to give a copy to my mother & grandmother.

    My grandmother is missing her husband, lonely, & growing more bitter as she dwells on her coming mortality. She’s 80, still trying to work selling real estate & struggling to find inner peace.

    My mother…she called me last night & says, “I can’t live like this anymore.” My journey through fear has inspired her soul, but she’s still not taking steps to care for herself properly. She had a week of waiting to see if she had cancer, without reaching for support from her family. 🙁 Since she can’t see well, I’m planning to read it & record it into a CD so she gets the benefit of the work.

  5. I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and your posts really resonate with me. I’d like this guide because I want to find more fulfillment in my life. I would also like to get a copy for my mother because she is going through her own personal struggles right now, and I think this guide might be able to help her.

    For acts of kindness, simple things like opening the door for someone or giving them a compliment go a long way. Another good idea is to the operationbeautiful.com method, and post a positive and uplifting message on a mirror. It could really make the difference in someone’s day.

  6. A wonderful way to pay it forward and such a great idea. Thank s for sharing!
    I have a client whom I think would greatly benefit from reading your book and would
    love a copy myself. I’ve enjoyed reading your blog very much Coach Barry. This was a lovely and refreshing post to see in my Google Reader 1st thing this morning. Sharing it on Facebook & Twitter 😉

  7. My sincere apologies for misspelling your name! Darned auto spell check 🙂

  8. I have only started following you recently & already passed along some of your wonderful ideas. . ;)) they seemed to ‘appear’ at the most appropriate time! ;))) so thank-you very much!
    There is always someone who needs a friendly ear or word – we often need to slow down a little to actually be present & recognise those fleeting moments. . . .& not be too scared to actually say ‘yes’ or I will or let me help you with that . . .;))
    paying it forward ’cause someday, somewhere it can so easily be me, you, us that needs the voice of reason & support. . .;)) & its always nice to know that someone is there with the energies to re-ignite your strength! ;)))

  9. Stephanie Rogers says:

    I’ve been enjoying your blog for a while now. I’ve been interested in professional coaching for many years and am finally taking some steps to begin my own training to become a coach. I always get a lot out of your blog posts. I’m a big believer in paying things forward and in random acts of kindness. I think even just smiling at people makes a difference in their day. Other ideas include paying for the cup of coffee for the person behind you in line, offering to bring lunch back to the office for someone who is stuck in a meeting, helping someone carry something to the car when you see they have too much to carry and also writing kind notes on FB and blogs.

    Keep up your great work encouraging others!

  10. Stephanie F. says:

    Thank you for the chance to get these great reads! With all of the negative news out there, reading something that is positive based would be a breathe of fresh air.

    One simple act of kindness that I’ve done is paying for the item for the person behind me at a drive-up window. It feels so good to drive away realizing that they are going to get a surprise in a few seconds.

  11. Thank you for this generous opportunity! I would share thread guides with my mom and sister. They are both working toward more a positive, bold life. It would be a great way for us to connect.

  12. Rajdeep Singh says:

    I have read some of your articles and I am really inspired by them. I would love to learn more and will feel lucky if I could get a copy of your book. I love to learn and it will be a very good experience.
    I would like to give its one copy to my father who is one of the best person in the world. I have never seen him expecting anything from us and he has fulfilled all of our wishes even those which I wished and then forgot but he always remembered and gifted me those things. He would be very happy to get this and that happiness is more than anything to me.
    For me making someone smile and happy is a very important thing. We see many persons who seem very depressed and sad and we generally try to avoid them but it would really make you happy if you share some of your time in talking to them and sharing their pain. It is a nice act of kindness and also one can give small gifts to near ones not only on some occasions (like birthday or new year) but also randomly anytime to thank them for being in your life.

  13. M'Lynn Bermea says:

    I try to share my life’s blessings with others thru random acts of kindness. Too many people live by a spirit of expectation and think they are ‘due’ somehow. This makes the random acts of kindness the blessings they are. No one is expecting anything so they are truly blessed by them. A smile, holding the door for the person behind you, waving someone thru the grocery line because they have fewer items than you, waving to a scared child across the E.R., cooking dinner for a busy friend…it doesn’t take much to bless someone.

  14. I’d like a copy because I’m in the process of living happily ever after… but I need help stopping old habits and starting new ones. I plan on passing it on to several girlfriends. My random act of kindness is returning the grocery cart for people (after they’ve loaded the groceries in their car) to the store or using it for myself. I started when I saw people with young babies. You don’t want to put your baby in the car and then return the cart and it’s hard to juggle a baby and a cart at times. I appreciate your work and blog Barrie

  15. Hello Barrie!

    I always wanted to comment here, but never had the guts to, but now there’s a prize and who doesn’t like prizes? :p

    The reason I want the guides is that I have a friend that’s having a really bad time and could benefit from reading and applying the tips in the guides. Also, I could benefit from them myself as an inspiration for writing articles on my blog, and maybe I’ll write a review of them if I really liked them (:

    Here’s a random act of kindness to try this weekend: Say ‘you are beautiful’ to random people in the street. I always do this and never got a negative reaction (:

  16. Alexandra Overton says:

    I would love to live boldly again, like I used to as a child. I used to do whatever gave me joy – without guilt or worry. These guides sound like a good way to heal my life, so that I can live boldly and share that happiness and fulfillment with others. I do enjoy happy moments and feel good giving to the people around me – in any small way I can. Now, I want to move it to the next, higher level and help people in ways that can truly help them to help themselves. I would like to live boldly on a daily, consistent level – sharing and receiving freely and joyously, without fear.

    I often feel, when I do help others, that it is a fun act. I like to see someone smile back at me when I smile at them. Or if someone has a problem, it can be fun to help them find possible solutions. Sometimes a small act of kindness goes a long way – like letting someone know that they are doing a good job, looking good today and have inspired me. We are all interconnected, so it is all about sharing and helping others. One day when you need help they may step up and help you.

  17. Hi Barrie,

    I am a newcomer to the site and I am a frequent follower now. I love your posts and they are very inspirational. I recently lost my job and extended “family” last week. I am desperate for uplifting information and I have found it here. I truly feel that I have “lost my mojo,” and that I can start believing in myself again through your guides. I would like to give a copy to my Mother, who is on a fixed income and has no internet access. She has been my champion all my life. She believes and encourages me when no one else will. I am 42 years old and looking for a job. Her blind faith has kept me going through all of the speed bumps in this life. My random act of kindness is giving back a service to a shut-in or elderly person. I am always uplifted by their true gratitude when I surprise them. 🙂
    Thanks for all you do and just know you are helping me.

    Gina Horton

  18. I want to share this info with my two grown daughters. All of us are working on our lives, wanting to live fully. I plan to rubber stamp my girls some all occassion cards as a surprise for them.

  19. as a newly retired person i’m working on redefining my life in terms of what i truly want rather than by what other people expect of me; your posts are helping me in this direction a great deal; i would love to pass a copy of your book along to my daughter-in-law who is a tireless advocate for all those affected by autism, the full time mom of my adorable grandson who happens to be autistic , a full time career person and a great wife to my son

    an example of a random act of kindness which i’ve done is pay for someone’s breakfast who looks like they need a little help

    thanks for your inspiration

  20. I had the opportunity to spend 3 days at a youth summer camp last week. It was and is a joy to be in their company. It was a true camping experience. I was their guest chef for the day. The campers were well-mannered, eager to learn and try new things and food (flavorful and wholesome.) The campers are brilliant and talented kids from age 9-14 with junior counselors age 16. They all have a gift. As a holistic life coach, nutritionist and chef, it my Divine right and sole purpose to share what I know about living a healthy and happy life with these young ambassadors, I would like a copy of the book to help me in this chapter of my life journey and to cultivate my life purpose as a teacher in educating the people that come into my life.

  21. I’m a sponge for information and learning and want to read the follow up to your Discover Your Passions course. I’d be passing them along to those I find who will find inspiration and value in the words of wise voices – my best friend especially who is at a crossroads in her professional life…

  22. I’d give my copy to my good friend, Gwyneth, who is ready to make some massive and wonderful changed in her life.

    Most of the random acts of kindness I do spring from just noticing people around me. A mom with her hands full might need the door held, or something she dropped picked up with a smile. Paying attention to the people around me keeps me from staying too wrapped up in my own little world…benefits me and them. 🙂

    Have a great weekend!

  23. I find your blog inspirational and always enjoy passing on – and receiving – random acts of kindness. I would love to pass copies on to a couple of my good friends who are searching for more out of life than they getting at the moment, but they are not sure where to start.
    Many thanks!

  24. Mary Rose DiMarco says:

    I would like to pass on a copy to my oldest child who is in high school. It’s so easy to become immersed in our own busy days that we forget to step outside of ourselves and do something nice for another person. It would be nice for him to hear it from someone other than me. It always seems to get through a little easier.

    When the kids are swamped with school work and running late with extra curricular activities, I’ll take care of the dinner dishes even though it’s their chore.

  25. Lisa Landtroop says:

    What a wonderful offering, Barrie. I have been following you since the beginning of the year, found you through Leo (‘Nuff said with just Leo I presume 🙂 ).

    I love bringing doughnuts to the office every so often, paying for coffee or doughnuts for the person behind me, same for tolls. I return carts for those who have their hands full, especially with little ones in tow. Hold doors and elevators, smile and say Hi in the store, etc. Be friendlier to the sales clerk than the “grumpy pants” before me was! I find little things, or not so little things, to do randomly almost every day.

    I would gift your second book offering to my daughter in law so she would know that she is strong, special, capable, and loved. She has a tough road ahead of her and keeps trying to do it all on her own, while battling depression. I would love for her to recognize her unique strengths and gifts. But I cannot seem to help her get there, maybe a more “passive” nudge like your guides would help her.

    Take care and recognize your strengths and gifts daily,
    Lisa

  26. Susannah Keck says:

    This is truly a wonderful thing for yu to do. My husband and I routinely “adopt” young adults that need guidance and a helping hand. Usually they have no one else to turn to for help. We nurture them and help them learn to stand on their own feet. This would be a wonderful addition to be able to give them one of these guides. I read your blog often and appreciate your help in my life and others around me.
    Susannah

  27. Carolyn Medina says:

    I am in the long process of changing my well-ingrained habit of negative reactions to everything to positive ones. I’ve been trying to do random acts of kindness or silliness every day in order to make other people’s lives better and in turn feel better myself. It is hard to change old habits but every day I am working on it. I would love to read your guide and then share it with my girlfriends. People tend to attract people like themselves and many of my girlfriends have also had hard lives. I’m trying to share sunshine with them and your guide would be a wonderful way to continue doing that. Thanks for your insights and your assistance in making all of our journeys a little easier.

  28. I would like to share it worth all the parents who have troubled kids, with kids who feel they have troubled parents and all to be parents who want to avoid both 🙂 I want to share it with teachers who help others grow and students who are in the process of growing and in short, with everyone who can get or can influence others in a possible positive direction.
    God bless you

  29. Very noble effort you’re making here Barrie. You’re helping to spread a lot of good.

    There was one psychology study I read last year that showed when we do something kind for someone, that other person is much more likely to do an act of kindness for someone else. So even when we do just ONE kind act, it spreads a chain of other kind acts.

    Thanks for being an awesome part of that chain.

  30. I too am a regular reader and through tidbits I have shared with my daughter, she has shown interest and as she is just going through a very bad break up with her fiance (he refused to leave the house for the past month and a half, hitting on all her girlfriends and doing whatever else he can to make her miserable because he paid his share of the rent), I think she could really use this at this point in time as he will finally be moving out next week and she is really looking forward to a fresh start.
    Also, since she graduated and moved out of our house, we have grown much closer and this would be something her and I could share together.

  31. just to be kind and considerate to anyone you come into contact with reaps rewards that are priceless… I would love my sister to have a copy as she is in much need of a confidence boost to motivate her in her life .thank you for all you do

  32. Hi Barrie – I am excited about your offer! I really wanted those guides but can’t afford them right now. It would be an honor to not only receive them, but to also pass them on to my sister, Susan, and if possible, my bother, Chip, as an act of kindness. Our family is in the midst of profound growth and change for the better. I always find your posts relevant in my process of self-improvement and I know they would too. Thank you for following your heart and showing others how to as well. Lisa

  33. This is a lovely giveaway, thanks so much for the chance! I would LOVE to give a copy of your book to my Mom, who has had a challenging couple of years – she would greatly benefit from your wisdom! I would love a copy as well.
    I always attempt to do small things for friends, and at times I will give a stranegr change at the store (if they are short at the cash register). I pass on coupons, send postage stamps to friends in need. I try to do a few things each week. Kindness can make all the difference in someone’s life, without spending anything at all.

  34. I have Celiac Disease and when I see someone struggling in the grocery store to find gluten free food or reading labels for any kind of allergy issues I usually ask them if they are new to some food issue. If they are new, I ask them if they would like help. usually the answer is yes so I help as best I can.

    I had often wished that someone would have done that for me 12 years ago when I was first diagnosed. Just today I gave a book to a person whose husband is new to his diet — it was given to me when I first started out so I passed it on.

  35. Hi Barrie,

    I’d love the concept of living boldly and feel my life has reflected this. In high school I gave a commencement speech called: A Different Drummer and I feel there are similarities btwn. these concepts.

    I would love to give copies to a friend I recently met who’s going through a rough time.

    Things I enjoy to give:

    1. Money randomly when I encounter someone who obviously needs some and it feels like an appropriate situation.

    2. Flowers to someone who may need to have a lift – last time the young owner of a coffeehouse who gives immensely and created a non-profit for that purpose.

    3. Books, jewelry, and clothes to the young employees of my local coffeehouse/cafe.

    There are SO MANY WAYS to give. I really try to make it an integral part of my life.

    What a cool thing you’re doing!
    Lauren

  36. Hi,
    Random act of kindness this weekend for me has been opening up our home to people who must evacuate their homes by the shore due to hurricane Irene.

    I would give a copy to my husband’s aunt who is the caretaker of her husband with Parkinson’s. We just returned from a trip out to LA to visit with them. My husband hadn’t seen them in many years and since his uncle can no longer travel back east, he wanted to see him (before it’s too late). His aunt is trying to navigate this role and balance her life as a caretaker together with carving out her own life, now that she no longer has much of a partner to do things with or really converse with. She’s an avid reader, has started many book clubs, oh and is having a birthday next week – 74.
    Thank you for this ‘random act of kindness’ opportunity.

  37. To change one’s life:
    1. Start immediately.
    2. Do it flamboyantly.
    3. No exceptions.

    – William James

  38. Thanks for this opportunity, though I know I’ll not win. I never do. Everything I have done was through hard work. I love this site and I learn from you idealistic ways of living that might work for me. I always help others when I can…even to the point of giving more than I have sometimes, though I never make a promise I cannot deliver on. I have never broken a promise. I kept a promise my wife and I both made to someone one time, and I lost my wife of 22 years for that. I kept my word though,…and hers. I have never broken a promise in my life. I need this to pass on as well as for me.

  39. Carolyn RW says:

    I’ve just begun to follow you on FB! I’m at a point in my life where I find myself single after being married for more than half my life and I don’t quite know what to do with myself or how to move on. I recently read a quote that seems rather fitting for me now, “I have been standing on the side of life, watching it float by. I want to swim in the river. I want to feel the current.” (Nancy Horan) Oh how I feel that your Bold Living Guides would help me! I also have several friends that would love them and benefit from them as well. And even though I fell as if I am a “train wreck” inside, I try to face the world and everyone I encounter each day with a smile and a geniune hello because they may very well be dealing with something way worse than me. Thanks for your sharing your inspiring words!

  40. Barrie Davenport says:

    Thank you all for your lovely, heart-felt responses and ideas for passing on random acts of kindness. This was so much fun! I have selected (at random) the five winners. They will be named in my next post, at the bottom of the post. For those who didn’t win, thank you for participating. I hope you will pass on a kindness anyway. 🙂

  41. I have a good friend who is divorced from an ex with an addiction issue and whose young son has an addiction problem. She has somehow been keeping it together and I think she could use the push from your guides.

    Thanks.

    And I love random acts of kindness.

  42. I need a copy because i’m drowning in my life…i stumbled upon your blog, it’s keeping me afloat.

  43. Hi Barrie
    I love the positivity in your messages. To me that is quite an ultimate act of kindness – to help others to aspire to higher things in life.
    Right now I am quite at a cross road in my life – its quite easy to be disheartened and down at such a time and question my abilities and my potential. To question the purpose of my existence.
    At such a time it is good to remember others who are more in need than me and to be thankful for all the things around me that I still can enjoy!
    Best wishes

  44. I used to regularly surf your blog and enjoy all the life lessons posted there. Though we all know the power of kindness and result it pays sooner or later in life, but we usually forgot those lessons and need continous reminders in the shape of good books, relevant blogs, audios etc and spread it out as well to our near and dearones,

  45. I need these 5 Random Acts of Kindness to share with my wife, cos my mother-in-law is giving me hell and trying to make my HOME look like one sad-place. I need to MOTIVATE myself and family out of that negative mindset. I need to see and have consistently the BIGGER PICTURE of LOVE that i know is ALIVE and can FLOW ceaslessly in my HOME.

  46. I want to give that books to my mother, because we have a divorced family and my mother is very rarely in good mood. I want to get my family out of constant not-feeling-good, and quarrels.