Are You Anti-Aging?

“Age is an issue of mind over matter.  If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~Mark Twain

OK friends, here's a question for you: how do you feel about aging?

Does this question make you feel a bit nauseous or are you happily oblivious to time marching on?

I never thought about it much until it started to happen. Now I feel like I'm trying to catch a runaway train. For so long I considered myself young. Then I had teenagers, and they kindly remind me daily that I'm not. The strange thing is, I still feel young inside. Sometimes I'll pass my reflection in a window and wonder, “Who is that woman staring at me?” Then I realize it's me, and I can hardly believe it. When did I get here?

When we are truly young (say under 30), we think aging will never happen to us. But then little changes occur, and one day we wake up and have to acknowledge, “Damn. I'm not young anymore.” When this moment happens, we can do one of three things:

1. Fight it tooth and nail.

2. Accept its inevitability.

3. Just live.

As different points, I have fluctuated between the first two reactions. Just living and enjoying life without worrying about aging is difficult in our particular culture.

We receive strange mixed messages about health and aging both in the media and with society in general. One the one hand, youth is celebrated, venerated, and emulated by people old enough to know better. The cosmetics and plastic surgery industries are making millions off of our insecurities and longings to hang on to our youthful faces and bodies.

I'm not against self-improvement, but it seems like the media, Hollywood, and the beauty industry all are conspiring to make us hate every blemish and wrinkle. If we pull our faces tight enough, can we really fool people into believing we are twenty again? Who are we kidding?

On the other hand, there's another reality that sends a different signal . . .

  • Only 16% of Americans get some form of exercise every day.
  • Nearly 2 out of 3 Americans are overweight.
  • Nearly 21% of all adults still smoke.
  • A study published in the Journal of Food Composition and Analysis reveals that Americans are getting nearly one-third of their calories from junk foods: soft drinks, sweets, desserts, alcoholic beverages, and salty snacks.
  • The average American gets over seven percent of their calories from soft drinks alone, which most certainly accelerates both obesity and diabetes.
  • According to Consumer Reports National Research Center, 30% of Americans don't use sunscreen at all, even though they know the risk of skin cancer. And most people who do use it don't apply it properly.

This is so disheartening when we know so much about preventable diseases, ways to stay fit and healthy,  and proper diet and nutrition. We could be doing so much better for ourselves.

Even so, in the last one hundred years, the average life expectancy has gone from ages 52 (men) and 60 (women) to the current average of 74 (men) and 80 (women). Advances in medicine and our shift from an agricultural to an industrial economy has added to our longevity. Middle age used to be old age. Now middle age is getting younger all the time (at least that's what I keep telling myself!)

We live in an age with better medical care, more access to health information, and fewer physical demands than ever before in history, yet we shorten our lives with unhealthy behaviors or spend thousands to try to conceal, cut off, or suck out any offending body part.

To add another wrinkle to this tale, some biologists are now suggesting that aging isn't inevitable. It's a treatable disease that can be managed so that we can live healthier and longer. Much longer.

Dr. Aubrey de Grey, a British researcher and author of Ending Aging, asserts that the first person to live to age 1000 (yes, 1000) is alive today. He suggests that the fundamental knowledge necessary to develop effective anti-aging medicine already exists, but that the science is ahead of the needed funding. Not only will we live longer, but we won't be frail. We can remain youthful, healthy, and active.

“In the same way we can keep vintage cars and airplanes, or whatever, in fully functioning condition for as long as we like by maintaining them comprehensively enough, similarly, we can, in principle, do the same for the really complicated machine that we call the human body,” suggest Dr. de Grey.

If you'd like to learn more about his assertions, look at his presentation at the TED conference. (Be warned, he looks like Methuselah and talks very fast. But he's fascinating.)

If Dr. de Grey and other biologists are correct, many of you reading this will live well past 100. And that opens up a myriad of other questions, both personal and societal.

  • If we are living longer, what does that do to the world population — and to the future of our planet?
  • What impact will it have on our economy?
  • How long will we work? Is retirement even necessary?
  • Will everyone be able to afford these longevity treatments or will we create a class of super-humans?
  • Do we even want to live that long?

One thing seems clear — we have very convoluted feelings about our bodies and getting older. After spending a few years of inner turmoil myself about getting older, I think I've settled on a personal philosophy about life and aging that works for me. Maybe it will work for you.

Stay Educated

I try to stay up-to-speed on healthy eating, exercise, medical breakthroughs, disease prevention, and other information that will keep me healthy and active.

Take care of myself

I incorporate what I learn about a healthy lifestyle into my daily life. I stay away from what I know is bad for me (for the most part) and am proactive about doing things that are good for me.

Exercise for fun

I've spent years trying various exercise routines that are boring or painful. Now I exercise for fun. I like to bike, walk, hike. I don't worry as much about perfection with my body. I just want to be fit.

Eat wisely and in moderation

I know the foods that are good for me, and I try to eat more of them. I know the foods that are bad for me, and I try to eat less of them. I know that smaller portions will fill me up just fine. Sometimes I slip up, but I don't obsess about it.

Keep having fun

I've spent way too much time worrying about unnecessary stuff. There is too much in life to enjoy and savor. I think I enjoy having fun. It makes you feel younger.

Dress young but not ridiculous

I like fashionable clothes, but there's a fine line between dressing youthfully and looking silly. I have teenagers who help keep me on the right side of that line!

Hang with younger people

You can learn so much from them.

Hang with older people

You can learn so much from them.

Keep learning

I really enjoy learning, but in the past, I've avoided learning things that seemed intimidating — like technology. It is good for your brain and your soul to tackle something and grasp it. I would have missed so much if I continued to resist learning because of fear.

Don't discuss ailments

Nothing screams old more than discussing your painful joints, your digestive track, and your failing eyesight. Why give verbal reinforcement to those problems anyway?

Don't obsess

For now there isn't a magic cure for wrinkles and sagging skin. I could go get Botox or injections or plastic surgery. But I don't really want to spend my time or money that way. So I choose not to obsess about it. I stay active and busy and try to spend time with others who aren't too obsessed about aging either.

Look around

Most people in the world are not physically perfect. Comparing ourselves to celebrities and models is futile. I've decide to be my imperfect self and love that person.

My friend and fellow blogger, Christopher Foster, believes you can be fit, productive, and thriving at any stage of life. At age 79, he is an author, spiritual coach, and has created a beautiful course called The True Promise of Aging. You can read his amazing personal story here.

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Comments

  1. I remember looking at pictures of myself when I was 30 and worrying about how fat I was. I look back now and think, “damn, not bad.” I figure that 10 years from now I’ll look back at pictures from today and say the same thing. Making the shift from wanting to look good to wanting to feel good was liberating. Your anti-aging philosophy is great. Thanks for sharing.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Yes — I guess it all depends on our perspective! Middle age looks horrible from age 20 but not so bad from age 80! It is liberating to remove the focus from appearance to living life. Much more fun. 🙂

  2. I haven’t started “Aging” yet so I maybe shouldn’t add to many thoughts but just living it, accepting it and doing what you can do stay in shape is what I see myself doing.

    I work out daily as it is now and I don’t see myself stopping, I will need it more and more the older I get and eating healthy makes you feel better, so why not?

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Daniel, that’s a great attitude and will serve you well as you get older. If you are developing those good habits now, you will be ahead of most people. Healthy eating and modest exercise should be part of our daily routines — so keep at it!

  3. Justin | Mazzastick says:

    We start aging the moment that we are born. The body is programmed to age and that is a natural fact. We can help ourselves of course by eating healthy, whole, foods, exercise and stress reduction techniques.

    Plastic surgery on the face never looks good on anybody. Yikes!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Justin,
      You might be interested in Dr. de Grey’s research. He says that aging isn’t natural — that it’s a disease that we can maintain and eventually cure. Yes, we can help ourselves, but he also suggests that medical breakthroughs will allow us to live so much longer by replacing organs, re-engineering cells and tissues, and a variety of other “maintenance” that will keep us living longer. Fascinating.

  4. I’ve had some interesting and conflicting feelings about aging. I’m 26. Not even 5 years ago, I was in that ‘I’m so young I’ll never grow old (or have responsibility etc. etc.)’ camp. Now, as I watch my parents grow old, it’s suddenly reality that all these days turn into years, turn into decades, and I’m not that far away from 40!
    Since I’m trying to get better at embracing life, I’m open to growing older, in fact I like myself a lot more, and I think it agrees with me. However, the small part of me that’s still tainted by Hollywood is horrified at the thought of a grey hair.
    It’s not the worst thing in the world to wake up and maybe not recognize yourself, or see something you don’t particularly like. If we take care of ourselves, like you indicate, I think we can age gracefully and happily.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Amanda,
      I remember that same feeling of horror that one day I’ll look like those older women my mom’s age. And it is very strange that you feel the same inside even though you change on the outside. Except that you feel more self-confident, relaxed, and accepting. That’s one of the upsides of aging. If you continue to make healthy choices, you will probably get even more beautiful with age. And I never said there was anything wrong with coloring your hair! 🙂

  5. Hi
    Loved the post. I like the idea of aging young and live my life according. I have several old young friends and a few young old friends. But the difference seems to be something on the inside. Do you think it’s an inside job? Just posted this morning on benefits of moving my body and that will make all the difference to my day.
    thanks for sharing
    Patricia

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Patricia,
      I do think it’s mostly an inside job. We have to continue to embrace life and learning new things. But it helps if we are in shape and healthy too. Moving your body definitely helps with your outlook.

  6. OK, I’m 65 now and have had both knees replaced. I work full time at a major medical center and exercise at our wellness center 2-5 times a week. I was a dancer in a previous career and still feel like I’m 30 except for the body aches and pains and the corresponding slowness of movement. When I look in the mirror, I’m beginning to look like my mother at 65. She was almost 98 when she died. I am unhappy that I have allowed myself to become 50 pounds heavier than when I was 30 and have vowed to work harder to correct that problem. Most people don’t realize I am old enough to retire and I am told I don’t “look my age”. Since I don’t know what 65 looks like I’m never sure how to take that comment. I’ll just keep on keepin on and enjoy life as it comes…one day at a time! lil;-)

    • Movedup says:

      Awesome Lil!!!! I am 48 almost 50 – its like a goal or something. I don’t look my age either or act it (whatever that means). I have always been moderately active and a dancer in my past. There is a woman in my Zumba class that is 65 and she is my hero! She is amazing and can outlast me easy. I think acknowledging that I am getting older and if I am going to do anything to help myself I had better get over the “I am young and invicible” attitude and get moving. Knowing family history is important – many things are preventable or at least slow them down. Awareness, Acceptance and Action! I am aware, I accept I will age and now I am seriously getting moving before its too late! Keep up the tude – gotta love it!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      You go Lil! That’s fantastic. Who cares what 65 looks like. Just be the best Lil you can be. 🙂

  7. Have you looked into the Paleo Diet? Mark Sisson’s 57 and in incredible shape by living and eating as if he were alive 10,000 years ago. I’ve been experimenting with certain aspects of his ideas and some of it makes fascinating reading that you may be interested, and much of it seems to actually be working for me.

    • I’m 54 and went “Primal” last fall. The biggest step for me was giving up grains as I love to bake, but I feel great! I’m now more fit than ever in my life, have more energy, and my joints don’t hurt. (I still have more fat to shed, however.) Whether a primal lifestyle will help me live longer I don’t know but I hope to be spry and lively into my old age.
      I still see wrinkles, gray hairs, and sagging body parts when I look in a mirror, but I’m slowly accepting my looks – no surgery for this gal. My fear is becoming feeble and not being able to do the things I love to do, like garden (which fits beautifully with a Primal lifestyle). So yes, I’m paying better attention to my body, I want it to stay in good usable shape even if it isn’t pretty.
      My biggest question is – how did middle age get here so fast? Shouldn’t this have taken longer? I mean, 54 is a lot of years, wasn’t I 30 just a few years ago? Are the next 24 going to go by as fast? (Oops, that was more than one question, I’ll blame it on menopause.)

      • I’m only 23, so still kind of think of myself as invincible. Stop these terrible words of ageing, and deterioration 😛 I know what you mean though. Every single time I look back and think of just how fast this year’s gone, or how long ago it was since I was at school, it’s terrifying.

        Time waits for no one.

        • Barrie Davenport says:

          Hi Rob,
          You don’t need to worry about it now! Enjoy life and your youth, but take care of yourself. Make fitness and healthy eating part of your lifetime routine. Stay away from things you know are bad for you. More than likely, you are that first person who will live to be 1000! 🙂

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Rob,
      I’ve heard of the Paleo diet but haven’t studied it. I like a Mediterranean diet, and I’ve also read great things about the Okinawan diet. Bottom line — lots of veggies, whole grains, nuts, fruits, and just a little meat. I try to avoid red meat and eat fish regularly.

  8. I just mentioned to my husband this week that I treat my body better now at 51 than I did in my 20’s and 30’s. I guess a little education, more time to myself and an “if not now, when?” attitude has helped. A big factor is that the past 20 or so years, I focused on my kids’ nutrition and sports activities. Now that they can take care of themselves, I find it easier to focus on myself.

    I liked what you said about exercising for fun. I just read an article with a kind of teaser title – something like “Miracle exercise – guaranteed to increase weight loss!”. Well, the point of the article was find the exercise you like to do, and it will be easier to do consistantly. So true!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Jeanne!
      Yep, kids tend to distract us from taking care of ourselves. Exercising for fun makes such a big difference. I have spent too many miserable hours on a treadmill or in a gym. I love riding my bike! Hope we get to ride together sometime soon. 🙂

  9. Hi Barrie,
    Just to thank you for your brave exploration here and your kind mention of my course on happy aging (The true promise and potential of aging).

    Personally, I kind of agree with Clint Eastwood. As long as you’re having fun (or finding a deeper connection with your own joy and truth) yeah, let’s stick around. Otherwise, I think we have better things to do, to be honest. So happy to be getting to know you Barrie. Every good wish.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Thank you so much Christopher. You course is so inspiring — as are you. I’m so happy to share it with my readers.

  10. There are so many strands to pick up on in this great post that I could write an essay! I’ll content myself with two points:

    I think there’s a fourth approach to aging which goes beyond “just live” and that is to actively celebrate our increasing age. There’s a huge sense of freedom that comes with getting older IF we choose it. A sense of relaxing into ourselves and no longer giving a damn what anyone else thinks of us. For women especially, with our clear marker of menopause, there’s a sense of entering into a whole new stage of the adventure of life.

    On this pressure to look abnormally young forever, something subtle begins to happen. You see it with actresses who’ve had work done: it can be extremely effective, for a long time. But when someone’s been in the public eye for 30 years and looks bizarrely unchanged, we begin to focus only on her age. “Doesn’t she look good,” we say, “…for her age?” we begin to add, and “I wonder what she’s had done.” We’re no longer looking at the person; we’re studying the façade. That’s sad.

    • Oh Tess, you are so right. It is liberating to get past the obsession with appearance and “not give a damn.” Celebrating aging doesn’t happen much in our culture, but it should! There are other cultures who really respect the elderly for their wisdom and years of experiences. Maybe since Baby Boomers are such a huge generation, we might get some of that respect coming our way! Yes, aging celebrities can’t get past that stigma. It’s sad. One person who comes to mind who aged so beautifully as a celebrity is Audrey Hepburn. She knew that her “star” days were over, but she put her effort in to making a difference in the world. Thanks for you thoughtful comments!

  11. This is so funny to me because I started my blog last year in hopes of a catharsis to help me deal with turning 60. Hence, Zero to 60 and beyond was born. I’ve learned through my blog that it’s more about celebrating your life at every stage than trying to be something you can’t… younger. As my mother-in-law used to say at every birthday, “Considering the alternative…” it is so true.

    As to appearance I learned in my 20’s and 30’s the importance of taking good care of my skin. A wrinkle begins 7 years before it appears… there’s some food for thought! So I’ve always used good moisturizers and been careful in the sun but, nothing beats good genes.

    Now we have some excellent cosmeceuticals that, I think, work very well. I have very mixed feelings about botox and fillers and I would never go under the knife. (never say never? hmm)

    I’m also a firm believer in having friends younger than you are. It keeps you current and on top of your game. Learning never ends unless you allow it to. The more you keep pushing your brain the younger it stays and that’s been proven.

    I say CELEBRATE every year! You really aren’t getting older you are getting better.
    Great post…thanks!
    b

  12. Hi Barrie,
    I love your suggestions, thank you!
    I think my perspective is a bit different..I am not aging..to me age is a label we put on our outer shell to identify and categorize..I understand the label, but I’ve never applied it. I am going to be 41 but every day I feel as if I’m just beginning life again, and my physical self looks far younger than I am..Each day I release something of self or embrace something new, and experience freedom and joy far more than the day before..a rebirth almost..Age isn’t even on my radar..with my self or others..

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Joy, that is so fantastic. I think you are an inspiration for maintaining this attitude. Keep it up. Every day is a rebirth. You are fortunate that it doesn’t bother you at all.

  13. Tess The Bold Life says:

    Hi Barrie,
    I HATE aaging. My mom started telling me in her late 70’s not to age. LOL Like I can stop it. It’s the loss of things that bother me. My eye sight is worse, my hair is thinner, I feel like I’m drooping everywhere. ROFLOL!

    Watching my mom age physically through her 80’s was difficult. She lived to 90 and her quality of life was nil.

    I also notice older people more and think about it more. I wish I could lie and say it doesn’t bother me and blah, blah, blah, but I don’t lie. My answer in my 40’s and even early 50’s would be different that it is today.

    After reading Christophers course I’m forgiving my wrinkles!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      I know what you mean Tess. I think activity and contribution keep me from focusing on it too muvh. That and not staring in the mirror too often! I just want to be happy, healthy, and fit. And I’ll try to look the best I can with what I’ve got!

  14. I’m another young-ish one (29), but I’m working hard to develop a very specific mindset for aging.

    Sometimes I talk to older people and they say things like “my age finally caught up with me.”

    My goal is to be the woman that people look at and say “She’s chasing her age down, and I think she’s gaining!” I’m focusing on fitness and health, on hobbies to keep me mentally stimulated and happy, and on reveling in the little laugh lines that are just starting to come in.

    What could be better than *LAUGH* lines? Those say so much about who you are, and I want to keep thinking of them that way!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Good for you Shadlyn. Keep up that attitude and you will be youthful even in “old age.”

  15. chris albert says:

    Hi Barrie,
    I am 53 and yes I can sense age catching up on me. Your insights are good. I think we can all take steps to do the best we can to remain young not only in body but in spirit. Nevertheless, becoming physically older is something we all need to face up to. However, we need not despair over it but learn to accept it gracefully. Being a Christian however I have hope of receiving a new body that will remain young for eternity as promised in the Bible. However, for now, I remain thankful for being alive and do what is within my ability to look after this complex human body that we live in.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Yes Chris, being alive is better than the alternative, right?! I think I have faced up to aging and now I’m determined to stare it down by really living my life to the fullest. That’s what keeps us young I think.

  16. Catherine says:

    Great post. I need reminders when I start to obsess about my precious red hair hiding grey and my eyes aren’t as bright or maybe its my whole face. Only 46 but there are times when its like a smack in the face with a shovel. When did this happen! 40 was great and I really began to evolve and I continue to do so but now I see change in my face and its a reminder that time is passing and its great that I am getting better in mind and attitude but who the heck is that looking at me. Its not how I feel inside.

    And I’m the older aunt and older women in the group etc. But I thought I was one of you! No matter how much I try, I wont’ be in that group. From now on I’ll be the ‘older one’ unless I hang with the older folks! ha! Thank goodness for husbands without vanity. They don’t care. Should we strive to look like we’ve had ‘work done’. Isn’t that the point of surgery to make us look ‘better’ without it being obvious. I always wonder what J Rivers thinks when she looks in the mirror. “I look great” but dam obvious. Denial?
    Getting older and forcing myself to love it. Does anyone really want to go back to our youth?

    We need to keep on keeping on and love what we see for its the experience of life that is looking back at us.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Thanks so much Catherine. I’m glad you liked it. I enjoy hanging with younger people because they are fun and active. I also have many friends my age who love life and don’t obsess about aging to much. It’s great to find friends who share a youthful mindset and want to keep learning and growing. And you know what? Even 20-somethings are getting face lifts and boob jobs now. So I think natural, beautiful aging has a real mystique about it! At least that’s what I’m telling myself. 🙂

  17. Hi Barrie thanks for an interesting article. Being 44 this year, and having been involved in very physical pursuits most of my life, ageing is something I frequently think about- and the thoughts are not always very pleasant :-).

    However I have come to believe (principally through the work of C. G. Jung) that the “second half of life” is as important as the “first half”. That with maturity comes the opportunity to do and be something totally different and very meaningful.

    The second half of life is the time for cultural rather than instinctive expression. However I think in our youth obsessed world this is often lost site of. In other words being older becomes being less meaningful less significant, but this is a mindset rather than a real truth.

    As we get older we must recognise the huge advantages that come with the experience we have gained, and which cannot be gained any other way than maturing physically, emotionally and spiritually.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Yes, you are so right Stephen. Jung was dead on with that. In cultures like Japan, where their elders are respected, they live longer and healthier lives. And when you watch some of the stupid reality shows and see what some younger people are up to, I wouldn’t want to go back! No way!!!

  18. we just need to live as 20 years old – and we will look younger as well. it is all about our spirit.. young mind in a young body! so simple!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Well, maybe 30-year-olds! There are many great things about middle age. You are more confident, comfortable in your own skin, and probably have more money. But I agree, in terms of thinking young and being active, keep your spirit youthful. Thanks for your comments Sapir.

  19. Great article–especially striking living here in Argentina. The culture here is more obsessed with looks and body image than Hollywood! 70 or 80 year old women dress like teenagers, and plastic surgery is for practically anyone who can afford it, at just about any age.

    Personally, this piece takes me back to when I was an undergrad studying Physical Anthropology. I learned about all of those things that the body does as it ages. As a result, I’ve really let go of the Western hair obsession (worries that it will grow some places or turn grey, or lose it other places), and it also gave me strong evidence of why everyone should do some sort of strength training after age 35 (the age at which humans begin to lose bone mass).

    Much of the latest research stresses some of what you mentioned here. Having fun, and not obsessing over things. Stress is the big killer. The thing that ages the body almost as much as fast food. Obsessing over exercise and everything you eat might just do more harm to your body than having a casual attitude and eating what you want being less active. I tell my clients to think like a GPS–a GPS doesn’t berate you every time you make a wrong turn. It just directs you back on the highway. Just get back on track, no big deal.

    That being said, if anyone has questions about their habits, I think RealAge.com is a very good website/questionnaire to see where you stand and even goes so far as to give you suggestions based on your answers. SparkPeople and LiveStrong are also good resources complete with user forums, articles, etc.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Paul,
      That’s so fascinating about Argentina. Who knew?? Stress does terrible things to your body. That’s why nuns live so long! Staying fit and healthy is great — but obsessing is a waste of time and can undermine any of the “anti-aging” efforts one might attempt. Thank you for all of the great info and resources. I read Real Age and LiveStrong, but I didn’t know about SparkPeople.

  20. I love this post. One thing I believe in is meditating. The soul is the inspiration for your life and that is how you remember who you really are. Not what the world thinks but the truth.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Cris,
      Yes, and meditating really helps with stress, which as Paul mentions, is a big factor in aging. Thank you for the reminder!

  21. I love this post! I have always felt like a teenager, but I recently had my first experience with a doctor who was younger than I am. It took me aback and made me realize that I’m not quite as young as I think I am. 🙂
    I love your suggestions; moderation and enjoying life is so important. I wouldn’t want to live too long if I had to do it in high heels and forsake ice cream!

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Amy,
      That’s disconcerting when you encounter your first doctor who is younger! You can hardly believe they know what they are doing!! I agree with you wholeheartedly — trade in all high heels for ice cream. 🙂

  22. Thanks for your sharing.
    I think that if we want to keep our youth,enjoy life and avoid all trouble in life.Keep calm and forget all sadness,keep balnce in life.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Haley,
      Balance — that is so important. The extremes are generally what make us crazy!

  23. My perspective is a bit different .I enjoy aging. I think it is an unavoidable part of life .The need is to change our attitude. It is not good worrying about unnecessary stuff. There is too much in life to enjoy . I enjoy having fun. It makes me feel younger .I am 47 years old and I enjoy aging Now my children can take care of themselves, so take care of myself .I don’t look young but smarter than I was in30’s.I like fashionable clothes do makeup not to look young but to look smart. Your advice to hang with younger people is very helpful. We should actively celebrate our increasing age, and freedom with a thinking that with every passing year we are not getting older, we are getting better . Wrinkled face and grey hair are the beauty spots of old age. . I accept its inevitability.

  24. jenny123 says:

    Take a good multivitamin daily. Most multivitamins also include the essential minerals that you need in a day. Vitamin C is a powerful anti oxidant that helps to keep your skin looking young as it wards off free radicals that cause damage to the skin and its appearance

  25. Jennifer Smith says:

    Whether we like it or not, we all are going to get old.. and we will all have that dry, think and sometimes fluffy skin in the near future.. all the youthfulness in us will soon fade away so let us not waste any moment by taking care of our skin 😛

  26. Age does matter. This has become very intriguing issue specially on women because were more particular on how we look. Staying young is what we always dreamed of.

  27. I would say every diet has some common things. Every diet plan work only if you eat less and burn more calories. There is no short cut to weight loss. The only key to weight loss is hard work, exercise and discipline in eating habits. I am glad you point out some most common myths.