A Video Message from Barrie


Hi friends. I thought I’d try something different today and offer my message by video. I have an inspirational story I want to share about a former client, now great friend and business partner.

Once you watch the video, please visit the link below to read Stephanie’s story in her words, and you can read my story further down. I’d love to hear your comments and thoughts about what I share in the video.

Click Here for Stephanie’s Personal Story of Change


Barrie’s Story

About 4 years ago, I had a crisis of confidence.

I was 48-years-old, my role as nearly full-time parent was winding down, my career in public relations seemed stale and uninspired.

I’d been out of the “real” work force for many years while raising kids. Now it was time to do something, but I was afraid. I didn’t believe in myself.

I was afraid my skills in PR weren’t where they should be.

I was afraid of my resistance to the only career I’d known.

I was afraid I was too old.

I was afraid of technology.

I was afraid I’d live a boring, mediocre life.

I was afraid I didn’t have what it takes to start over.

I almost resigned myself to this life.

But fortunately a voice in my head kept saying, “You have more to offer than this.”

So I took the first step.

I took a personality assessment. That step gave me the self-confidence to take the next step. I checked out some life coach training programs. That step gave me the self-confidence to take the next step. I enrolled. And so on.

I now have a thriving business as a coach, blogger, personal development teacher, and writer. I have discovered I’m capable of far more than I ever, ever believed. And better yet, my kids have seen a new, more self-confident mom! I’ve become a role model to them too many others.

My new-found self-confidence has allowed me to do what I feel passionate about, and my passion for what I do continues to stoke my self-confidence.

I found my weak spots, and I faced and addressed them. I practiced new ways of thinking and acting. I took small steps while learning new things. I accepted my mistakes as learning opportunities. I weaned myself from the approval of others. I’ve even had the confidence to record myself and put myself in front of all of you (something I never would have done years ago)!

I’m no different than you. With the right skills and practice, you can build your self-confidence and open endless doors of opportunity.



  1. Tony Fuentes says:

    Very inspiring story, Barrie! It’s true that self-confidence opens millions of doors to wonderful opportunities and a new life of meaningful purpose.

    I’ve also found that surrounding yourself with a supportive group of people is key.

    When I first decided to start a blog I was excited, eager, and passionate – but deathly afraid of putting my heart and soul out into the open! I didn’t even know what a blog was back then, but I knew I had a ideas that desperately needed to spread their wings and fly. When I finally learned how to set up a blog, my writing was HORRIBLE!

    So bad that most professional bloggers would probably run for the hills, hide their families in a bunker and pray to the gods for a miracle.

    If it weren’t for my supportive friends and family, who at the time believed in me more than I did, I would’ve given up a long time ago. I improved my writing and now I’m confident!

    Through the positive energy of a strong support group, your confidence can soar to new heights!

    I’m glad you found the light, Barrie. Now everyone gets to benefit from your story. :)

    • Hi Tony,
      Thank you so much for sharing that story! I agree that a support network is vital in building your self-confidence. And as you said, practice makes you feel more confident about any endeavor. Congrats on your blog! I will check it out. :)

  2. Hello Barrie
    Often in our lives there are moments when we can feel inadequate but it is a matter doing what makes you feel happy. In terms of major changes as in your case it is much the same

  3. Inspirational and motivational post Barrie!

    I can so well relate to the situation you were in earlier, as I was in a similar situation, though my kids are still a little younger, yet on the verge of finding their own paths. I guess the role of a woman or mother does take a back seat, leaving you rather down and wondering where to start anew!

    But yes, I have been a freelance writer for many years and take up writing projects as and when they come, as well as manage my 2 blogs, though it sure keeps my hands full! However, family always does come first, doesn’t it?

    Congrats on your first video- you sure did a wonderful job and look beautiful as ever! The story shared is inspirational indeed. And I really don’t blame Stephanie for the way she felt initially, anyone would feel the same way.

    I guess it happens that at such times, you needed that one PUSH or one person who can show you the right way or direction to take. And in her case, she was lucky to have you with her to pull her through her dumps and reach where she is today! Marvelous indeed!

    Thanks so much for sharing :)

    • Hello dear Harleena!
      Yes, parenting pulls you away from the “real” world in many ways. Then when you emerge, you wonder if all of your skills and abilities went dormant or disappeared completely! You are smart to continue with your writing even with small children. Keeping one foot in your passion and work is great for self-confidence. Thank you, as always, for your warm and kind words Harleena.

  4. Thank you for sharing your story (and Stephanie’s). It is wonderful to see you through video, a nice complement to your words:)
    Self-confidence is a “funny thing”..in general, we tend to base it upon external circumstances–when all is “well” we are confident, when something is not “well” we lose confidence. Only in the last few years have I learned to be at peace within regardless of external.
    To me, the “best” part of your story is how you and Stephanie have grown together to now facilitate this class which I bet is beyond what either of you could have expected when you first met. That to me speaks volumes about the power of connection to another and also to “self”!

    • Joy, you have learned an invaluable lesson when you say that you try to stay at peace regardless of the circumstances. And I’ve learned too that circumstances are generally “neutral.” It is our thinking that labels them as good or bad. Yes, Stephanie and I have grown to be great friends and business partners. That doesn’t always happen with clients, but she is a poster child for success!

  5. Nathalie says:

    Thank you so much for giving me hope and inspiration. My current position is somewhere close to where you were 4 years ago, and I have been making tiny, tiny steps to achieving my goals. Yesterday, I read your article in A-List Blogging, and seeing your video today has effectively sealed the deal. Sharing your story so honestly and openly has been a total revelation for me, and given me exactly the boost I have been searching for. I really look forward to working with you as soon as funds allow me to do so and making the transition to living a life filled with lucrative purpose and joy 😀 xx

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Nathalie,
      I am so delighted that I’ve inspired you. I hope you use that inspiration as the fuel to keep taking those tiny steps. Each step moves you closer to your dream. I look forward to working with you whenever you are ready.

  6. Great post Barrie and very nice to add the video touch!! Always love the information that you share and your wisdom!

  7. Leanne Deen says:

    Good morning Barrie,

    Thank you for your inspiring video, your story and Stephanie’s story.
    I have found your blog truly inspirational.
    My son & daughter are now 24 & 22 years of age. I have been a dedicated Mum, more than often putting their needs ahead of mine as Mothers do!

    My kids have reached their goals with their education. Lachlan is an Engineer & Eloise is finishing a Degree in Vet science in November 2012. They have a lovely circle of friends & seem to be well adjusted young adults.

    At 52 years of age, I am now enjoying reading your blog and thinking ” where to next for me”? My primary focus has been my children, husband & running of the home for 24 years… I feel a certain guilt if I focus on my needs. I am trying to “re- learn” to focus on my personal goals & get some zing & mojo back. Perhaps passion of some sort is what I am looking for??

    Thanks Barrie for your words of wisdom…. They are truly wonderful!

    Leanne Deen
    Melbourne, Australia.

    • Barrie Davenport says:

      Hi Leanne,

      First congratulations on beautifully succeeding at the hardest job in the world — raising two happy and successful children. That is a job that encompasses hundreds of other jobs. So don’t sell yourself short. You have more experience than many CEO’s! But now it is time to focus on you and finding what makes you happy and personally fulfilled. You might want to check out my Discover Your Passion course. It provides a formula for getting you there with specific steps. It’s always nice to have some guidance along the way. Here’s the link if you are interested. http://shop.liveboldandbloom.com/discover-your-passion/