Comments on: 20 Simple Ways to Stoke Your Self-Confidence

By: Ronald Ochieng

Ronald Ochieng — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 14:45:28 +0000

Barrie Davenport,lol u look familiar,aint you the one helping me to find my future,life,thank you alot,God Bless you

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 21:26:26 +0000

I’m so glad you liked it Tathata! All it takes is a little momentum to get the ball rolling, right?!

By: Tathata

Tathata — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 07:49:30 +0000

I really like this list because it is something concrete to physically sit down (or stand up) and do.

I especially like #6. Sometimes, the list is slow to start (minutes, hours even)… but soon, with practice it feeds on itself and soon I can hardly write fast enough to keep up with my mind!

By: Fin

Fin — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 20:22:59 +0000

Barrie,

Retraining your brain is such an important one, as I found out the hard way. Thing is, I actually really enjoy it, even though it was very hard in the beginning.

I’m definitely going to try a few of the others.

By: Emanuele Santanche

Emanuele Santanche — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 20:03:34 +0000

I find that to practice a skill to gain confidence in doing it, is very good. The initial fear of the unknown gets decreased by practice. There could be some deeper fear. We could be afraid of judgements. Maybe we risked to lose the approval of our parents or of our teachers if we weren't good at that skill. We learned to associate fear with the simple attempt to learn a skill. Our parents and our teachers could have told us that they approved us anyway. If we were good at that skill or if not. If that didn't happen, we can learn to do it by ourselves. We can learn to approve ourselves if we are good and if we aren't. We can give ourselves unconditional approval. That's the best of confidence. Emanuele Santanche - Freedom and courage

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:24:16 +0000

Absolutely Cathy! I’m sure this is something you teach at Treatment Talk. Focusing on others takes us out of obsessive or self-centered thinking.

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:22:07 +0000

Hi Kaylee,
I’m delighted you have started to catch yourself in negative thinking. That is a huge step. The rest is just practice. I know how you feel about interacting when you feel bad about yourself, but it is truly the best medicine. You get out of your head and engage in life!

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:19:34 +0000

Hi Cris,
You are so right — awareness is the key to change. Once the light of truth shines on the belief, you can’t help but release it. Or at least do the work to begin the release. So much of our thinking and feeling is just smoke and mirrors. I have found great inspiration from Byron Katie and her “Work”. When you deeply inquire into your thoughts, you discover the truth isn’t what you thought at all.

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:15:43 +0000

Rose, I am honored to be one source of inspiration for you. But I bet you already have the answers inside of you. Sometimes it takes reading those answers elsewhere to realize the truth that you already own. We can all learn from each other!

By: Barrie Davenport

Barrie Davenport — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:12:20 +0000

Jason, I can so relate to what you are saying. I have found this to be true with the work I’m doing here on my blog. Just knowing that you’ve touched someone’s life, even for the few minutes they are reading your post, provides a tremendous feeling of fulfillment. It’s a feeling that provides legitimate, soul stirring self-confidence! I’m so glad you found this in your life.