4 Common Communication Styles In Love Relationships

Communication Styles


The odds are pretty high that you and your spouse or partner communicate differently.

One of you likes to handle things right away. The other needs to sit on it a while. You prefer to talk through the issue, and your partner wants to think through it first, then talk.

Sometimes it feels like you speak two different languages.

But did you know that you and your partner can communicate differently and still have a healthy, happy relationship?

Healthy communication doesn't require that you share information or handle conflict exactly the same way. In fact, it's often our differences that make us more interesting, even more attractive to another person.

Positive and productive communication between couples is more about mutual respect and a mutual desire to make sure the each person feels heard and understood.

It’s about talking and listening in a way that is kind, flexible, and considerate.

Different communication styles only become a problem when the partners don’t accept and respect their differences and fail to accommodate one another.

When one partner views their own style as the “right way” and the other person’s style as the “wrong way,” then you’ve reached an impasse before you even begin talking.

Most couples do have different communication styles. Gender, age, upbringing, education, cultural differences, personality type, past relationship history, and many other factors come in to play when it comes to how we communicate.

One of the best ways to improve your relationship is by learning more about your partner’s style, as well as your own.

Accepting that one communication style isn’t necessarily better than another is the first step in learning how to communicate better with each other, which will make your relationship better in general.

Both partners must be willing to bend and adjust a bit to differing ways of communicating, as long as you are both respectful.

This doesn’t mean you should bend to accept yelling, criticism, or manipulation in everyday discourse or even conflict. For now, we’re discussing how you prefer to share and receive information through language — your conversational style.

Here are 4 common communication styles you should know:

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