10 Clues That You’re An Extroverted Introvert

Extraverted Introvert

I love spending time with my friends, but I'm often the first to go home.

I'm fulfilled by my work as a personal coach, but after a coaching session with someone, I feel exhausted.

Sometimes I'm really lonely and claustrophobic working from home, but when I go out, I'm quickly ready to go back home.

Although I test as an introvert on the Myers Briggs personality test, most people would say I'm outgoing, sociable, and gregarious.

I'm definitely not shy or withdrawn, and I don't have a problem meeting new people or chatting up strangers. In fact, I like doing that.

But . . . when I'm done, I'm done.

My bandwidth is limited when it comes to absorbing or offering a lot of social energy, and I'm never quite sure when the bandwidth will expire.

Maybe you can relate to this. If you find yourself conflicted about whether you're an introvert or extrovert, you might just be an "extroverted introvert" -- sometimes referred to as a social introvert.

No, I didn't just make that up. There is such a personality dynamic, and it can be quite confusing to you and the people who know you well.

For example, maybe your best friend invites you to a party, and you both look forward to it for weeks. You go out together and buy new outfits to wear to the event, you talk about it daily, and finally the big day arrives.

You're all dressed up, you go to the party, talk to a few people, and have a drink or two. You're having a good time, and then, BOOM, you want to go home. You're done.

Your friend is still going strong and has no idea why you want to leave so early. Are you sick? Did someone say something rude? Did you spill something on your dress?

Nope, you just want to go home.

Being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean you want to be alone all of the time. Like extroverts, you may crave the company of others, even in large groups.

But as an introvert, you need to pull away sooner to recharge. Or maybe it takes you longer to recover after spending time with other people. Do you think this describes you?

Here are 10 clues you may be an extroverted introvert:

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